Sense Of Safety: Do Some People's Childhoods Set Them Up To Feel Unsafe In Their Body?

In order for a house or a tall building to stay in place, it will need to have firm foundations. Through having firm foundations, the support that the structure needs to exist will be provided.

Not only will the building stay in place, but the people that go into the building will also feel safe. So no matter what part of the building that they go into, there will be no need for them to worry about their safety.

The Connection

Like a building, a human being will also need to have firm foundations. And, while having a strong body is part of this, what is also part of this is having a strong inner core.

When it comes to a strong inner core, this will relate to having a strong mental and emotional self. Feeling strong on the inside is what will not only give them the strength to get out of bed each day; it will also give them the strength to fulfil their ‘higher’ needs.

The Other Element

Additionally, this will allow one to feel safe in their own body. The sense of safety that they have is then going to be what will enable them to express who they are.

If this wasn’t in place, they would probably find that it is not possible for them to behave how they want to behave. However, if one has always felt safe in their own body, this might not have even occurred to them.

A One-Off

If someone who typically feels safe in their body does know what it is like to feel unsafe, it could be because they have had a car accident, for instance. Due to what they went through, they will have felt unsafe.

Fortunately, this won’t have been an inner experience that lasted for very long, with them gradually feeling at ease in their own body. Still, when they didn’t feel at ease in their own body, they would have most likely projected their inner unease onto the exte
al world.

The Mirror

During this time, what was taking place inside them would have effected how they perceived the exte
al world. It might not have mattered if they were in a harmonious environment as what was taking place inside them would have affected their experience.

Yet, as the days and weeks went by, and their inner world settled down, their view of the exte
al world would have changed. They will then have realised how much of an effect their inner world has on how they experience the exte
al world.

A Different Reality

Nonetheless, although there will be people that feel safe in their body, with some of them having the odd moment when they don’t; there will be others that rarely, if ever, feel safe in their body. Thanks to this, it is going to be a real challenge for them to be able to express who they are.

As the sense of safety and security that they need to be able express who they are won’t be in place, it might not matter how strong their physical body is. Consequently, it can be normal for them to do what they can to please other people.

Out of Balance

Their ‘higher’ needs are then going to be typically overlooked, with their main priority being to do what they can to survive. And even if they are in touch with their other needs, it is not going to make any difference.

So the needs that they have that will allow them to lead a fulfilling existence, such as the needs that relate to their purpose, will be cast aside. The fact that they can be happy and even experience joy might not even enter their mind.

Hiding

When one is around others, then, it is not going to be possible for them to fully show up. Out of their need to please others they will have to hide who they are, which will mean that their true-self will rarely see the light of day.

Ultimately, it will be seen as too much of a risk for them to reveal who they are. If they are not hiding around others, they could be hiding from others, with this being a way for them to try to feel more at ease.

An Illusion

The trouble is that although someone may realise that the reason why they don’t feel safe in the world is due to what is taking place inside them, they might not realise this. Instead, someone could believe that what is going on out there is the problem.

Therefore, if the people around them were to change or if they were to live somewhere else, their life would be different. But even if this was to take place, they could still find that it is hard for them to feel at ease in their own body.

The Signs

If one is able to take a step back and to bring their attention away from the exte
al world and into their own body, they may then find that the reason why they find it hard to feel safe in the world is primarily due to what is taking place inside them. They could find that their body often tightens up and that their lower body is often numb/cold.

There could be times when it is as though they are walking on their legs, not in them. Furthermore, they may find that they don’t feel safe enough to touch the ground, with them needing stay just above it and to be on alert.

What’s going on?

When they get to this point, it will be clear that they have been projecting their inner experience onto the outer world. Nevertheless, while their inner experience might not match up with what is taking place exte
ally, there may have been a time when this wasn’t the case.

What this may illustrate is that they were brought up in an environment that wasn’t safe. This could have been a time when they experienced some kind of abuse and had to walk on eggshells, and this would have stopped them from being able to develop a sense of safety, security and trust.

The Only Option

At this stage of their life they would have been totally dependent and powerless, so the only thing that they would have been able to do to handle what was taking place would have been to hide and/or to leave their body. This would have made it more bearable but what it wouldn’t have done is stopped their body from being loaded up with trauma.

Many years will have passed since this point in time, but what they went through won’t be in the past. Their nervous system won’t be in a good way and this is to be expected given what they went through.

Awareness

If someone can relate to this, and they want to change their life, they will probably need to reach out for exte
al support. This is something that can be provided by the assistance of a therapist or healer.