Sign of Infidelity

François de la Rochefoucauld said: “When love becomes labored, we welcome an act of infidelity towards ourselves to free us from fidelity.” In fact, there are many hidden truths that could be said about infidelity. However, none of these truths or truisms should honestly be regarded as palpable reasons for the act of cheating. You need to understand that a cheating partner can never actually claim he or she did it because of something you did/said/refused to do or say, the decision of cheating is a completely independent and personal one that is rarely influenced by a problematic couple’s life. And even if this particular situation occurs, the fact that the cheating partner chose the easy path, instead of talking things over is reason enough to strengthen the previous statement. If you’re looking for a sign of infidelity, you are either being paranoid, your partner already cheated on you in the past and you somehow managed to forgive him or her, or you have your own reasons to suspect something like this might be happening. At times, hunting for a sign of fidelity might also mean you are in fact the cheater in the story, and you are afraid your partner might be giving you the same treatment. Whatever might be the case for your scavenger hunt, here are some of the things you should be looking for. First of all, you need to rule out all the “classical” signs of infidelity: lipstick marks on collars, funny-smelling perfume scents, scratches on the back and the list can go on. If you are not able to clearly identify any of these signs, but you still want to make sure your partner is not in fact cheating on you, you need to start looking a bit deeper. Namely, you need to start looking for some changes in the behavioral patterns of your partner: has he or she started to act weird all of a sudden, not answering your phone calls or text messages and emails, adding strangers on his or her Facebook or Hi5 account, following some unknown persons (at least unknown to you) on Twitter, going out late at night or coming home late, without any plausible explanation? If the answer to one or several of these questions is affirmative, you could say you might be in for a rather unpleasant surprise. You could also discover that your partner is all of a sudden interested in looking younger or funkier, that he or she started to purchase clothes and accessories that were never in his or her normal area of interest, that looking you straight in the eyes is not something your partner does anymore, that intercourse have become a thing of the past and that those signs of affection have lost their meaning for him or her. Be careful, though; while all of these might be clear signs of infidelity, they might also reflect some other types of behavioral changes that might not be at all related to infidelity. People do change sometimes, they do get new hobbies and they do want to look younger just for the sake of it.