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Simple Ways to Cut Stress

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We hurry around trying to accomplish everything we’ve committed ourselves to, packing as much as possible into our schedules as we plummet through the day. Pushing ourselves to get from place to place on time while looking professional and in control is exhausting. The stress not only shows on our face, but more importantly affects our bodies. Backaches, headaches, high blood pressure can all be symptoms of our stressful days.

“But I have no choice”, my clients tell me. “Everyone depends on me. If I don’t do it myself it won’t get done right” That may be true. However, having too much to do and not enough time is OUR choice.

We choose to make everyone and everything else more important than our health and wellbeing by agreeing to give rides, volunteering, attending every party or function. There is nothing wrong with helping people or volunteering. Both are admirable. However, unless we take time for doing what makes us happy we are heading for unbalance in our lives. We all have responsibilities, but running around without filling ourselves back up is like driving your car when it’s out of oil. It will run, but eventually the engine will be ruined.

Here are four simple ways to cut stress.

1. Give yourself extra time to get your destination. Trying to get as much as possible done before going out the door, leaving just enough time to get to your destination is extremely stressful. Any delay will make you late. Being late is nothing compared to the stress you feel on the way and how harried you feel when you arrive. I’ve started leaving 15-20 minutes earlier than necessary and find myself feeling more relaxed.

2. Cut your to-do list to 5 items. This might sound crazy, but try it for week. Pick the 5 most important things to accomplish each day and DO them. Just looking at my old to-do of 15 or more items stressed me out. By cutting it back to 5 tasks, I get done what’s absolutely necessary and feel such a sense of accomplishment I often do several more.

3. Limit your outings or parties to one per day. I’ve been doing this for years and it really reduces your stress. When my children, husband or I are invited to more than one event per day we chose one. No more running around town trying to get to several events in one day.

4. Hone your “no”. It’s perfectly okay to say no. You can turn down invitations, say no to your children when they want to go to the store, refuse to work late, say no thanks to another committee, not volunteer for the bake sale, decline staying up later than you want.
Saying no when necessary is saying yes to you.

Limiting stress is your choice. I hope you choose balance over stress.

Mari Mitchell Porter, CPC
Certified Professional Coach
http://lifecoachmari.com/

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Mari is a relationship coach, personal growth coach, speaker and writer based out of South Florida. After coaching herself through the pain of divorce, the struggles of being a single mom and the challenges of beginning to date again she became a Certified Professional Coach.

Mari's passion is working with people one-on-one giving them the support, encouragement and accountability necessary to bring love and fulfillment into their lives. Her workshops and seminars are both informative and practical, giving people simple steps to follow in order to improve their lives.

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