Still Single? You Don’t Have to Be! 10 Factors Which Stand in Your Way from Finding and Cultivating the Relationship You Desire!

IF BY NOW YOU:

1) Have enrolled with numerous on-line dating sites, shaped your profile, chatted with others, went on many dates, but was never able to develop a satisfying relationship; and
2) Have always blamed your partners (or dates) for the failure of a possible relationship; and
3) Have repeatedly claimed that you wish to find a suitable partner with whom to develop a satisfying relationship – but in vain,

THEN

It might well be that you are NOT AWARE of factors that exert power over you and drive you to sabotage any possibility of cultivating a truly successful relationship.
10 FACTORS WHICH CONTROL YOUR ATTITUDES, THINKING AND BEHAVIORS YOU NEED TO BECOME AWARE OF:

1)The needs and deprivations that rule you and affect your interactions (for example: need for acceptance which drives you to be too dependent, suffocating, compliant).

2)The fears that control you and drive you to behave in ways that harm your relationships (for example: fear of commitment; fear of being alone; fear of being abandoned).

3)The messages about relationships you unconsciously internalized while growing up, which drive you to behave in self-sabotaging ways (for example: “having a career is more important than a relationship”; “One has to always be nice to others”).

4)Your belief-system which exerts power over your thoughts, attitudes and behaviors (for example: “Never show your true self to your partner”; “Women aren’t as smart as men”).

5)Your automatic reactions and behaviors which cause you to harm your relationships (for example: You always get angry when your partner disagrees with you; you always escape to your computer instead of talking about the problems).

6)The masks you wear without knowing that you do, which prevent you from bringing your true, authentic self to the relationship, thus obstructing any genuine give-and-take with your partner (for example: presenting yourself as strong and assertive, while inside are soft and vulnerable wishing to be loved and cared for; presenting yourself as compromising and flexible, while actually are stubborn, manipulating your partner to eventually do whatever you want).

7)The unfinished business from the past that sabotages you (for example: without resolving issues related to your dominant mother you think your partner is trying to control you all the time; being hurt by a previous partner prevents you from being open with the current one).

8)The traits you are not aware of, which you project onto your partners, thus causing endless conflicts and arguments (for example: you deny being angry; jealous; stingy. You always blame your partner for being angry; jealous; stingy).

9)The unrealistic expectations about partners and relationships you hold on to which cause you to be disappointed time and again (for example: “My partner will always know what I want and think”; “Our sex-life will always be great”).

10)The unrealistic fantasies you have about relationships, which cause you to continuously feel frustrated and to blame your partner (for example: “My partner will supply all my needs”; “In the evenings we will always do things together”).

BECOMING AWARE IS THE KEY TO STOP BEING SINGLE!

Apparently you haven’t been aware of these factors until now and haven’t realized the part they play in harming your relationships.
Becoming aware will enable you to recognize the influence they exert over you and take the necessary steps to de-activate their power and change.
Taking the time to doing so is time well-spent. It will eventually get your closer – and faster! - to cultivating the relationship you desire.