Stuck in the City Solo for July 4th

Question: I know this note comes to you on short notice but I am seriously dreading July 4th weekend. Most of my friends will be traveling and somehow it looks as though I will be stuck in the city, solo. Normally, I love being alone on long weekends but for some reason this year I am struggling with the thought of it. I am hoping you can help me out on this one! Sherri's Answer: My immediate response to you is “Why is this year different than any every other year? Yes, I may have borrowed the question from the Passover holiday but it is an important one for you to consider. A personal/professional loss, or some sort of shift in your social world, may be troubling you more than the thought of being alone. I encourage you to dig a little deeper and figure out what is stirring up emotions which are atypical for you. For many single people the struggle is not so much about being alone as it is about feeling left behind or excluded. And that’s when having a plan or a special project will be helpful. Once you build your own list of things to do, your outlook will shift entirely because your focus will not be on everyone else’s whereabouts and doings, it will only be on you. rnIf ever there was a year when people were “staying put” this would be it. As a result of these tough economic times, staycations are on the rise and many singles, couples and families will be retreating at home come July 4th weekend. The stay-at-home vacation does require some preparation. Here are some do’s and don'ts to consider before taking the time off. Staycation Do’s: - Decide how you want to spend your time at home, whether it’s R&R, Sport & Adventure or Culture & Creativity, before planning a 3 day itinerary. - Set a budget that will allow you to do things you enjoy. Since you are not dishing out dollars on airfare or hotels you can splurge a little and treat yourself to something special or new. - Map out all the things you want to do because if you don’t you’ll likely get nothing done and feel like you've wasted your time off. Staycation Don’ts: - Avoid doing routine tasks or boring chores just to keep you occupied. - Steer clear of work. This is your vacation, so the emails and calls can wait until you return. - Do not lay under the covers waiting for some divine intervention. rnMost of all, enjoy!