Survive the Holidays’ Blues: Learn about Yourself and Become Empowered to Develop a Successful Relationship

INTRODUCTION Are you afraid from being infected with the “holidays’ blues”? From feeling depressed and lonely? The best you can do for yourself is be determined to “use” the holidays’ time to find out why you’re still single and what you need to “work on” and change in order to find a partner and develop the relationship you so much long for. THE HOLIDAYS’ BLUES: THE LONELINESS, THE SILENCE Christmas and New Year are already on the horizon. If you are single and have eagerly tried for the last several months to develop a relationship, but in vain, you might be scared of the upcoming holidays’ blues: the loneliness, the stillness, having no partner to be with. HOW TO USE THE HOLIDAYS TO YOUR ADVANTAGE? You can make the best out of the holidays and empower yourself to find a partner and have a relationship at the beginning of next year – just in time for Valentine’s Day! Make good use of The Holidays for your personal growth: * Take the time to understand why you haven’t been successful finding a partner until now; * Take the time to learn how to go about developing a relationship. It doesn’t come by itself. You need to spend some time thinking it over and learning what it means. And there is no better time for doing so than during the holidays! * Based on what you learn and find, take the necessary steps to change whatever needs change in your attitudes, behaviors and approach. ARE THERE THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF YOU DON’T KNOW? You may think that you know yourself; that you know why you haven’t been successful in cultivating a relationship until now. But is it really so? Is it possible that there are things about yourself you don’t know, and these are exactly the things which cause you to be unsuccessful in developing a relationship? As long as you don’t know what these things are, you can’t change whatever needs change. There is no reason to believe (and hope) that you’ll “suddenly” succeed in developing a relationship. WHAT DO YOU NEED TO DO TO LEARN ABOUT YOURSELF? In the first place, you need to be sincerely motivated to know yourself better. To have the courage to get in touch with your fears, needs, and everything else which you feel might have prevented you from succeeding to develop a relationship until now. A few questions may help you understand yourself better. Could it be that you: * Haven’t found “the perfect partner” yet, or that you weren’t ready for a serious relationship? * Could it be that everybody you met had some “problems” you felt uncomfortable about, or were afraid to really delve into a relationship? * “Suffocated” prospective partners from the beginning, became too dependent on them, so that they all left you? * Are a controlling person, needing everything to be done YOUR way, something which others find difficult to bare? * Behave on first dates in such a way that drives people away from you? The more you observe and ask yourself these – and other – questions, the closer you get to acknowledge and accept things about yourself you haven’t been aware of until now. With this new awareness you become much more able to meet someone with whom to develop a healthy and satisfying relationship. GETTING CLOSER TO YOURSELF ENABLES YOU TO GET CLOSER TO OTHERS As you approach the holidays from this perspective, you’ll realize the great opportunity they provide you as you seek to find a partner and develop the relationship you so much desire.