***Texting 101 in Dating and Relationships: 7 Do's and Don'ts

I think texting rocks! It means that no matter what you are doing you can be in touch with and connected to your loved ones. Texting has absolutely deepened our dating and love relationships. Now your “A” level friends, family and lovers can be in a constant secret dialogue with you. Of course texting can be overdone and work in reverse: how many times have you seen others texting away and ignoring you or others they are with? As a psychologist I can tell you that there are certain times when that is a recipe for disaster. So you want to take advantage of texting, but in a clever, balanced way. My dating and love advice is to use it to deepen your relationships but not at others’ expense. With that in mind, here are seven Do’s and Don’ts to follow when you are dating or in a relationship:n n1. Little steamy or romantic texts can go a long way in a serious love relationship. Remember that less is more because you can pick up where the message ends and begin fantasizing about the other person!n n2. Breaking up with someone by text is a definite no-no. Ending a love relationship in this way or by email are signs of cowardice and disrespect both of yourself and the other person. If at all possible deliver the bad news in person or at the very least in a phone conversation. n n3. Revealing something embarrassing in writing is never a good idea. The message can be shown to others. n n4. Using text to avoid speaking on the phone is sometimes the shy way out and doing so habitually will never get you over your fears. You have to come face-to-face and have straight truthful talk in order to have a whole relationship with another person. n n5. Texting during a date is simply bad manners and rude. n n6. Mass texting to ask people out on a date is a desperate act and will backfire later if people compare notes. n n7. In the beginning phase of a dating relationship you are testing the waters so don’t overtext. As the relationship becomes more serious, you can increase the frequency in order to plan things together, get emotional support or advice, and ultimately to send love messages. Texting messages are the new love notes! And the new means of emotional connection, support, teaming and planning activities together. It’s high tech–high touch time! You can learn much more about texting in the dating process plus the latest research on creating love in your life in my new book, Love in 90 Days: The Essential Guide to Finding Your Own True Love. n