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The Art of Approaching Groups of Women

Topic: DatingPublished January 29, 2012
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As human beings, we tend to gather and travel in groups. Especially when it comes to social venues, such as restaurants, cafés, bars and clubs – people will rarely be alone.rnWomen are not different, and in fact will be almost always hanging out in groups, usually groups of women. rnApproaching groups of women might seem intimidating for most men. The average man suffers from approach anxiety, so approaching more than one girl simply seems impossible.rnVarious pickup artists and dating gurus, such as Mystery, Neil Strauss, Mehow and others, have developed their theories and "game plans" for approaching groups. rnHowever, in this post I would like to present and explain the simplicity of approaching groups, and what are the basic principles that you should be aware of.rnWhether it's for getting a girlfriend or for other reasons, knowing how to approach groups of women is an important skill for men to learn. Easier to Be Indirect rnMany dating gurus suggest using "indirect openers" to start conversations with women. The common explanation for this, is that women love challenges, and when a guy shows his attraction from the beginning, women lose their interest. rnWhen you approach a group of girls, it's very easy to be indirect, and they will never know in which of them you'll be interested in.rnLike in economics, when you're one guy approaching several women, your value will be higher than theirs. Use Your Copywriting rnApproaching groups of women is all about copywriting. Whether it's just 2 girls or more - your main goal is to get into a funny, light conversation with them.rnYou need to find a topic that will easily develop, so when approaching groups, opinion openers will usually be a wise choice. rnThe idea of an opinion opener is to ask a juicy question, preferably related to dating and relationships.rnA good opinion opener would be something like: "Hi girls, do you think it's OK to be late for a first date? Because my friend just told me that he has a date tonight, 10 minutes from now, but he wants to intentionally arrive late…"rnPractically every woman in the world will have an opinion about this topic. rnThe secret to approaching groups of women is to use such juicy and interesting openers. So use your copywriting and make up several of these. Avoiding Competition rnWhen you consider picking up women, you should be aware of the dynamics around you. If you're in a bar or a club, you should know that other men might try to talk to women as well.rnHowever, what usually happens is that most of the men will try to pick-up the women who are alone. These girls will be very few – and they'll get approach so much that you hardly have time to talk to them. rnWomen in groups are seldom approached. 3 girls sitting in a bar might not talk to even a single guy during the night.rnThat's exactly why you should approach groups – it's a simple way to avoid any competition. Think about this – you might be the only guy who'll talk with them during the night – they will just have to pay attention and talk to you. Friendlier Response rnA great benefit of approaching groups, is the response you get. Women who are alone will usually be a bit scared by a random guy approaching them. rnWomen in a group will talk a lot between them, so they are already in a "social mood". rnSometimes they will reject you, some girls will give you the "we are busy here" response. But in general, their response will be friendlier.rnIt's especially true when it comes to beautiful women. If you ever wondered how to attract beautiful women, those women that most men only dream about – try to approach them in groups. rnI don't know why exactly this happens, but I've developed a theory, that women, especially in a group, can't decide alone to reject you. Each girl will not want to take the responsibility for being rude, so their automatic response will be to behave nicely.

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Richard Liso is a fan of personal improvement and developing success skills. He also writes in his blog about dating and attraction for men. On my personal blog, I offer my readers to get my free PDF report – Alpha Attraction: "33 Rules for Mastering Your Success with Women". In order to get my report, and much more tips and advice, click here: Success With Women

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