The Art of Not Demotivating Your Employees
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Featured in the Globe & Mail business section, Wednesday, March 9th, 2011
Much of what we read about employee motivation suggests that this is the job of leaders and managers as though employees are incapable of doing so themselves. The assumption that people are naturally unmotivated has created a large market for books, videos and training workshops on how leaders can learn how to do this. Leaders end up working harder at trying to keep their people motivated than employees do themselves. In the long run they end up fostering dependence and a sense of entitlement in employees who come to rely on their leader to tell them what to do and how they should feel about their work. What leaders actually need to do is spend more time trying to understand what they do that demotivates their employees.
Motivation is an emotional issue, not a rational one and you can’t tell an employee to get excited about work if they don’t feel it. It is surprising how many leaders get angry at their employees for this very thing. How an employee feels about him or herself while engaging in their work is the strongest determinant of the level of motivation they will demonstrate. Emotions are the energetic force behind motivation, meaningful experiences and interactions at work. They are an essential and undeniable part of everyday organizational life. Demotivation, on the other hand, is an emotional state of overall dissatisfaction where employees withhold their energy or use it against the leader and organization. It can be defined as a reduction in the emotional energy that is directed toward achieving the goals of the business.
A demotivated employee is one who appears apathetic, disinterested or simply exhibits an attitude of entitlement, all contributing to productivity losses at work. Presenteeism, higher absenteeism, complaining, disorganized work spaces, or even just inattentiveness to timelines and performance expectations are just some of the symptoms. Lack of motivation is also seen in “acting out” or counterproductive work behaviours such as aggression, hostility, lack of respect for authority or theft.
Frustrated with trying to motivate employees or to figure out what is “wrong” with them, leaders can resort to forcing, shaming or intimidating employees into better performance. Although this approach may give leaders the idea that they are in back control, the result is generally fleeting. Forcing employees or motivating them through fear can help leaders achieve their goals in the short term, but it will ultimately contribute to employee unrest, sabotage, or high turnover with its inherent loss of skills and knowledge.
How an employee feels about themselves at work is critical to their capacity to direct their energy toward achieving the goals of the company. When leaders fail to understand this they can inadvertently, unconsciously or unwittingly end up demotivating their employees. Here are some things that employees often feel because of their leader’s behavior.
Overwhelmed or overextended. Because leaders are willing to work long and hard to achieve results, they can communicate verbally or nonverbally that they expect employees to as well. Employees end up feeling little satisfaction as they can’t work to the best of their ability.
Unappreciated. A lack of appreciation from leaders can make employees feel resentful and used. Being appreciated for insignificant contributions or things that are not of value to the employee causes the same feeling.
Insecure or anxious. Nit-picking and micromanaging employees leads to an anxious workforce, afraid to initiate anything without being told. A lack of clarity or definition around tasks and timelines also causes employees to doubt themselves.
Devalued or shamed. Leaders who use indirect communication or sarcasm when employees disagree with their ideas can cause fear and shame. Employees feel devalued when leaders are dismissive of their ideas and input.
Helpless or powerless. Observing unfair practices such as favoritism, the rewarding of poor performance or the fostering of competition amongst team members is upsetting to most employees as they don’t feel empowered to do anything about it. They will stop caring and feel contempt for their leader.
Feeling untrustworthy. When leaders withhold information or dole it out on a “need-to-know” basis, they inadvertently communicate to employees that they don’t trust their employees.
Feeling blamed. Leaders who fail to ensure employees understand what is expected of them can end up treating their employees as though they are not doing their job or are incompetent. They cause them to feel anger and resentment by blaming them.
Although leaders can’t motivate employees, they can create an environment or culture in which employees feel a desire to contribute and invest their energy. Leaders must be aware of how their behavior makes people feel and how it impacts the motivation and performance of their employees. The question they need to ask themselves is “How is my behavior making my employees feel?” so they can gradually shift the emotional and energetic climate at work.
Cheers,
Anne Dranitsaris, PhD
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About the Author
The Visionary Striving Style
Anne Dranitsaris, Ph.D, brings a lifetime of study, “psychological savvy” and hands-on clinical experience to helping people become who they are meant to be. Her interest in creating mental health, coupled with her interest in personality systems and the dynamics of human behavior, has influenced the development of the Striving Styles Personality System.
Holistic Approach to Learning
Driven by a vision for a holistic approach to emotional and physical health, Anne chose educational pursuits that aligned with her passion. At the same time, she studied at mainstream universities such as Ryerson (Business Management), University of Toronto (Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction, Religious Studies) and ADR Institute of Ontario (Alte
ate Dispute Resolution). Anne looked for training institutes that would help her integrate the cognitive, emotional and physical approaches to healing the mind and body. This education included: receiving her degree as a Registered Massage Therapist; graduating from the International School for Spiritual Sciences (Montreal); psychotherapy certification from the Centre for Training in Psychotherapy (D.C.T.P); studies at the Masterson Institute for Disorders of the Self (New York); and a Ph.D. in Therapeutic Counseling from the Open International University for Complementary Medicine (WHO).
Committed to lifelong learning, Anne has completed postgraduate programs in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Spiritual Self-Schema Development, Brain and Behavior and Emotional Intelligence (EQ-i), and she has been a long-time follower of the work of Carl Jung. Anne continues to stay educated and informed about recent advances in neuroplasticity, brain development, mindfulness and social intelligence.
Executive Coaching & Corporate Therapy
Anne became one of Toronto’s first Executive Coaches in the late 1980’s. She could see the direct application of the therapeutic tools to the corporate world, which drove her to expand her work into that realm. Anne began using the title of corporate therapist to indicate the depth with which she worked with leaders and teams developing emotional intelligence, behavioral competence and relationship skills in organizations. She has also used her unique approach to work through dysfunctional relationships, partnerships, teams and boards.
Prior to starting SKE, Anne built several successful companies including Sage Developmental Resources, an organizational consulting firm focused on behavioral alignment, and the Centre for Mindful Therapies, which offered customized Mindfulness-based Stress Reduction Programs to organizations and individuals. In addition, she worked extensively with Heather on Several global leadership development initiatives for Caliber's clients, providing both individuals coaching and facilitating high performance team development at the executive and senior management levels.
Sought After Writer
A prolific and frequently cited writer on the impact of behavior, emotional intelligence and personality styles in the workplace, Anne has written a series of books on personality type based on Jung’s theory of Psychological Type. The Personality Profile Series© books are used to help individuals in coaching and counseling to understand themselves, their environment, their partners, and their children. Anne's latest series of books, The Jung Typology Series©, focuses on understanding the impact of personality type on employees, teams and leaders.
Anne has been featured in the media — on radio and on television — as well as in a wide range of national and international publications including USA Today, The New York Post, Huffington Post, The Toronto Star, NOW Magazine, The Globe and Mail and TIME.com. Additionally, her work has appeared in three issues of “O” Magazine within the past year, with her article on Striving Styles being included in the “O” Annual as one of the year’s top articles. She has recently been contracted to write for an upcoming issue of “O”.
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