Book Review: The Comfort Trap or, What If You're Riding a Dead Horse?

Amazon.com Review:nnDon't get too comfortable, warns psychologist Judith Sills, who invites readers to jump over "the electric fence of anxiety" to find deeper satisfaction in their lives. Sills, the best-selling author of Excess Baggage, compares our rigid routines, bad habits, stale relationships, deja-vu jobs and family feuds to the futility of riding a dead horse. She offers seven clear ways of jumping off and changing direction. A first step is to understand "the dragons that guard our comfort zones and prevent change" including avoidance, blame, denial, fantasy and righteous indignation. Confrontational questions are essential: What would I do if I were not afraid? What do I desire? Have I done this before? For Sills, the capacity to change requires pairing desire with vision, looking back into your personal history—-but not staring--recognizing the difference between influence and control, and calculating the cost of your decision. Sills' writing, which bristles with energy, humor, and practicality, can be cluttered with too many change metaphors (dead horses, tightropes, and rowboats). But her insightful ideas will talk you out of your rut before you furnish it. --Barbara Mackoff --This text refers to an out of print or unavailable edition of this title. nnProduct Information:nnYour comfort trap is the familiar, tolerable, but unsatisfying situation you’ve created in your life, complete with the trappings of security. It’s the job, the relationship, the bad habit, the friendship that won’t end unless you end it—though it drags down your spirit. Clinical psychologist and bestselling author Judith Sills shows you how to make self-propelled change in seven life-changing steps. Sometimes life’s tide does move us forward. This is a book for the times when it doesn’t. nnTo view this book on Amazon.com, click here.