The Definition of Love

What do you seek when you think of pure and unconditional love? Does one truely mean ‘love’ in saying ‘I love you’? The truth is that we accept what we think is ‘love’ in multiple ways.

No one, except the Gnani Purush understands and applies the absolute definition for the word ‘love’?

‘That which increases one moment and decreases the next, is not love:

That which resides in the heart and remains the same, is real love.’ - Gnani Purush Dada Bhagwan (Reciting Kabir)

For example, during a fight between a father and son, it can be seen that the father shows his love in the form of protection which is projected by this scolding when the son does not listen in the moment. Another way can be projected when a girl’s boyfriend gifts her a box of chocolates and roses. She will say, “This is a symbol of his love for me.” However, how can one be sure that this is love? How does the scolding of a father, which seems so negative, show something as positive as love? In addition, how can one determine the love of two people by kind gestures such as giving gift?
Generally, we do not understand what love truely is or how it can be given or recieved. Luckily, Param Pujya Dada Bhagwan describes the exact meaning of love by disecting and explaining the different characteristics of what Pure Love is:
• Love remains within normal bounds
• Love is sincere
• Love does not see faults
• Real love has NO motives
• Love is selfless
• Love has no limitations
• Love arises from absolute detachment
• There is no emotion in love
• Where there is love, there is liberation.

In further explanation, love remains in normal bounds or remains in equaniminty. Under this, the characteristic of love (stated above) are all linked together. For example, if a wife claims to love her husband but feels hate for him only when he scolds her, then that is not love.
Love is a like a constant variable in a science equation. It has to remain and cannot change. This means love has to be constant, it cannot increase nor diminish at any given moment no matter the circumstances. If it fluctuates, then it will be considered infatuation and attraction. “Real love should not break under any circumstances. It can only be called love if it never breaks. That is the test of love. However, whatever love there is which is of any worth, it is the love of a mother.” explained by Gnani Purush Dada Bhagwan.
Therefore, in love that is true, one should not see faults in any one for anything even if they attempt to hurt you. This is sincere love. With eliminating faults from one’s vision, sincerity takes place in love. Just as the Gnani Purush does not see faults in anyone at all no matter what their past or present events represents of themselves. This love of the Gnani Purush is pure because he loves everyone equally with no motive. He may not personally know everyone but this love can still be felt in his presence because he has no selfish means to seek from anyone. Pure love will always remain constant and without attachment. This is why there should be no emotion in pure love.

There must not be sadness or excessive happiness, this is not love. There is no plus or minus, give or take, in love. Gnani Purush Dada Bhagwan says, “Until one attains the state where one becomes free of all insistence, the love of the world will not be acquired”. With this pure love, one can seek liberation. This liberation is full of infinite bliss and pure love.

In order to begin applying Pure Love to life, one must be aware of the Pure Soul. The Gnani Purush attains this knowledge that can be received by attending Gnan Vidhi. Once one’s self, the Soul, is realized and kept in awareness, one can see and use the applications of these characteristics in Pure Love.
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