The Gift in Adversity

I am writing a book named The Gift in Adversity. The first chapter is based on my life's experiences and I hope to interview others like me who have been through tough times and come out the other side in a positive fashion. I hope to have an article published early in 2010 in a local magazine. From there, I hope to be published in a national magazine. And I will be writing the book as I go.

If you or someone you know has been give
"lemons" in life and made "lemonade" instead of curling up in a ball and giving up, please let me know. I would love to hear that story.

You see, in 1990 I had everything that I had ever dreamed of. I had two beautiful children, a home, a husband, a career that I loved, a cat, and yet something was missing. I wondered how my life could possibly be lacking since I had everything. And three weeks later, my daughter died. She was 5 months old when she went down for a nap and never woke up. They called it Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). At autopsy they found brain damage in the breathing center in her brain. She was a big baby (8 pounds, 12 ounces) and this little woman was unable to deliver her the usual way. Her head was caught up on my pelvis and the doctor used forceps in an attempt to deliver her vaginally instead of doing a C-section. That attempt was unsuccessful and I had the C-section anyway. My little baby girl had black eyes for 3 weeks. Although nobody would confirm this, I believe that the forceps caused the brain damage and ultimately took her life. She had no risk factors for SIDS and we were both healthy.

From this experience I reevaluated my life, made major changes and went on to thrive. And this is what I want to talk about in my book. My daughter's death was devastating to me, and it was also a wake up call. I was living the life that my parents and my husband chose for me and I had never stopped to find out what I wanted out of life. I didn't know what I wanted to be when I grew up! The gift that Mandy gave me with her death that I'm not sure she could have given me with her life is this: Life is short. Live it out loud and make the best of it. I believe that we all have a mission to do with this life that nobody else on the planet can do. I have found that mission and am now living it. I am so very grateful to her for this gift.

Please feel free to comment here and/or to contact me personally with your story. My email is thegiftinadversity@gmail.com.

Pam