The Healing Energy of Words: Writing for the Health of It

When life takes an unexpected turn, writing can be a beneficial, form of release from stress due to either emotional or physical factors. Many published authors have used writing as a catalyst for their survival during difficult times. Some of them include: Anais Nin, Joan Didion, Reeve Lindbergh, Tobias Wolff, D.H. Lawrence, Isabel Allende, Vivian Gornick, Kathryn Harrison, Sue William Silverman, and May Sarton. For these writers and many others, writing has given a purpose and meaning to their lives. It has given them a reason to wake up in the morning and continue on with their day. D.H. Lawrence, for example, sat at his mother’s bedside and while she was dying and wrote poems about her. He also began writing an early draft of Sons and Lovers, his novel which explored their complicated, loving, painful and close relationship. Marcel Proust wrote Remembrance of Things Past while sick in bed with asthma. Flannery O’Connor wrote some of her best stories while dying from lupus. I wrote my first book, Getting Pregnant and Staying Pregnant: A Guide to High-Risk Pregnancies back in 1983 while on bed rest with my eldest daughter. The book began as a journal typed on my Smith Corona mounted upon a specially-designed bed table my husband built for me. After my daughter was born, I condensed the journal into a prologue and added research to create a self-help reference book for women having similar experiences. Now, more than twenty years later, the book is still in print and has helped many women cope with problem pregnancies. May Sarton and Anais Nin also used journaling to pull them through difficult times. In her book, Recovering, May Sarton chronicles her battles with depression and cancer. Anais Nin used her journals to write to her deranged father who left the family when she was young. In Nin’s case, her journal entries became a springboard for a four-volume collection of her journals. The memoirist, Mimi Schwartz is another writer who used her journals as a springboard. I’ve heard Mimi speak at a number of writing conferences and she shares her story of having written an essay for Lear’s Magazine about her experience with breast cancer. “Journal writing,” she says, “and the process of turning it into a public account—made all the difference for me in recovering quickly, emotionally and physically. It gave me a double set of survival goals: health and telling the story.” As a matter of fact, her journal notes inspired her to go from being an English professor to being a narrative writer. Writing provides an opportunity to vent both small and large issues, from problems with your boss to the death of a parent. It takes a great deal of energy to be angry at someone; it’s much healthier to drop it, as one would a suitcase full of trash. Holding grudges is unhealthy and certainly quite heavy! Once we are able to let go, it’s easier to gravitate to the joys in life. rnJournaling is a cathartic way to spill your feelings out on the page rather than on the person. My attitude is: “Direct the rage to the page.” I have a writing colleague who says, “If it hurts, write harder,” and for years those words were posted above my computer, until they simply became a part of me. At an Associated Writing Conference a few years ago, Dr. James Pennebaker, the author of Writing to Heal said, “Writing dissolves some of the barriers between you and others. If you write, it’s easier to communicate with others.” He does have one rule that he calls, “the flip out rule,” which proclaims that if you get too upset when writing, then simply stop. Pennebaker believes that there’s a certain type of writing which erupts when we’re faced with loss, death, abuse, depression and trauma. rnLearning to open up about issues from your past and present lives doesn’t happen over night, but it’s all a part of the healing process. Author Louise DeSalvo, who is an advocate of writing for healing, began writing her own memoir, Vertigo and Breathless as a result of coming to grips with her own pain. Whether you’re affected by change, loss or pain, finding the time to write is critical to your healing process. Some people prefer to journal about their experience, while others may lean towards the fictional or poetic modalities to help them escape their own realities. Whatever your choice, once you try it, you’ll see that writing, in any form, can be healthy and empowering. rnSome reasons to journal: To discover about self rnTo vent frustrations and joys rnTo record and remember events rnTo fine one’s purpose rnTo plan for the future rnTo tap into your intuition rnTo become empowered rnTo build self-confidence rnTo allow self-expression rnTo uncover secrets, sometimes unknown to us rnTo improve communication skills rnTo improve mental health rnSome journaling tips: Date entries rnDon’t worry about grammar rnBe honestly and deeply rnWrite quickly rnDon’t erase rnWrite for yourself rnSome journaling prompts: Make a list of things which make you happy. rnMake a list of all your accomplishments. rnMake a list of what makes you angry. rnWrite about your morning. Waking up, breakfast, the newspaper, the thoughts. Visualize a place you love and write about it. Give details. rnWhat is your first memory? rnWho are the people you loved? rnDescribe a grandparent. rnBooks which have changed your life and why. rnDescribe your childhood room.