The Loss of the Bereaved

Creating the best of Asian art can be done ove
ight by a pro but consoling the bereaved ones is not an easy challenge. Many people visiting a wake of a familiar face can be in tears but there is too much agony for those who had been around the dead for years, and this we mean not just emotional attachment but physically close---

A friend who from time to time we see, have fun with, and a shoulder to lean on can leave us without a warning. This goes the same with household members who most of the time happens to be the members of our family. Truly, it is devastating. No man is an island is literally explained. God sends us company to eat with, to talk to, to share our life with. He sends us person, if not people, for a reason that for a time being we do not understand what. And the happy part is they stay with us for a long period of time, while the sad part is that it is the same “them” who will make us distraught once they leave us to face the other life outside the human life. It is not about missing their presence but it is missing part of your life and to be whole again is where the challenge lies. The bereaved one becomes a cracked wall painting in a snap while reminiscing the time with the person who passed away that life with the person made her or him an Asian art somehow. Time flies. And it is true that we need to live our life with the person who makes us happy. This may sound selfish but someone who makes us happy is someone we love and someone who loves us back. Yet we need to take the bad along with the good that such person can hurt as so bad when it is time for him or her to bid goodbye,

After wake and after burial, attendees go back to their own respective homes—to their own families and to their own set of friends while the ones whom the dead lived with will spend sleepless nights of tears overcoming the pain, the hurt, and the persistent memories shared together. Letting go of a loved one is not an easy task. The truth is it is better for us to think that our loved ones are not loving us anymore and they have already fallen for someone else’s love than to have them dead. Yet, time heals all wound. People may not be forgotten but the pain brought by sad situations can fade away in due time but overcoming the thought of a loved one leaving us for good is something that no one would even want to entertain in his or her mind.