The Secret to Dating Success - You Can Attract Beautiful Women Too!

I think most of us, at some time in our life, have wondered what it is that we need to do to attract beautiful, high quality women. Some guys think they need to beef up and put some serious hours in at the gym, others think they need to break the bank and get a sports car; and then there are those who feel that there is nothing that can be done and conclude that you either have what it takes or you don't. The truth is, attracting women is all down to the way that you communicate and very little to do with how big your muscles and wallet are. I know a lot of guys will read this and think 'yea, right, there is no way that just changing the way you communicate can improve your chances with women' If you think this way, then you will be in for a truly awesome surprise once you understand the power of communication. I'm not talking here about fancy lines and body language; I'm talking about a much deeper type of communication and a 'way of being' that almost Now, I don't have the space here to go into detail, but let me just give you a brief story, the kind of story that plays out before your eyes every day but tends to go completely unnoticed. I spend a lot of time 'people watching' and I have a professional interest in watching how guys interact with women. I still wince at the crash and burns but I'm never surprised by the guys that succeed. Actually, it's all very predictable and is simply the human mating game playing out before my eyes. Ok, so, I was out with a friend (who has little success with women) last weekend and I wanted him to see, first hand, what this mysterious world of dating looked like. He has always been very cynical about any kind of dating advice, and believes that 'one day a girl will find him'. He point blank refuses to take any advice! He prefers to wait and see if his luck changes rather than realising that he can change his luck with a little effort! In fact, success with women has nothing to do with luck and everything to do with knowledge and taking action! If I could teach you all that I know, I guarantee that you will get the kind of success with women you dream about. Onwards So, we were out and I chose one of the bars where I knew the hottest women hung out; the kind of women that make men whimper with excitement but also retreat in utter fear, totally intimidated. I found the most attractive girl in the bar and got us a seat right alongside, and I asked my friend to observe everything happening around her, and to watch how the guys act. I see these situations whenever I am out,and I know instantly which guys will get a girl's interest and which will never get a shot. I don't tell you this to impress you, I tell you this because I have learnt through experience and much trial and error. Your first homework? The next time you're out I want you to do exactly the same, and observe how men act around very attractive women. Just watch and start to open your eyes and mind! So, I'll introduce you to the type of guys that took their shot with the beauty queen that evening. I'm sure you have met them all at one time or another (or perhaps you recognise yourself among them?): The No-hopers These are the kind of guys that live their lives on the sidelines. They congregate in groups a few feet away from attractive women, taking sneaky glances at her. They will never approach an attractive girl, and if one spoke to them they'd go to pieces. Beautiful women get this kind of attention on a daily basis, and the no hopers blow it without even saying a word. The Lechers Then we saw a couple of guys pass her table and give her the wolf whistle and openly check her out. The 'lechers' are far too obvious, and this approach rarely works for attracting a high class woman. She totally ignored them and, although she no doubt appreciated the attention, it happens so regularly for her that it hardly seems like a compliment; especially coming from guys that advertise themselves so quickly as of 'low quality'. Remember, high quality women find it hard to find high quality guys. Once you learn, in-depth, how to develop your 'way of being', you can become a high quality guy! Wing and a Prayer There were two guys sitting across from the girls' table. For around 5 or ten minutes it was very obvious that they were trying to muster the courage to start a conversation. I was pleased and (if I'm honest) a little surprised when they approached her! However, the approach was so weak and approval seeking that the result was in no doubt. One of the guys (tall, good looking) offered his hand to her to shake (formal and creepy) and she just looked at his hand and said 'hi'. There was no energy in his approach, and it was obvious he went over to her expecting rejection. She didn't disappoint him. The interaction was very awkward and I genuinely felt for the guy as he slunk away, much to the amusement of his friend. Your first lesson is that good communication is far more powerful than just good looks! The Doormouse As she went to the bar to get a drink I saw at least three guys smile weakly at her, trying to make eye contact. These guys know they haven't got a chance but hope, by some miracle, she will say 'Wow, I really like timid weak guys, fancy a date?' The Natural As she neared her table I noticed one guy was in her way and as she went one way he went in the same direction. This happened a couple of times until the guy said: 'what are you doing? Are you directionally challenged? Ok, let me help you, you go left and I'll go right and everything will be fine'.She sighed in mock exasperation, but couldn't quite hide the smile, and he gave her just enough of a cheeky smile that the game was on! My friend of course, couldn't fathom what had just happened and as far as he was concerned the interaction was over. Far from it! Very shortly, after she sat down, she glanced over her should towards the bar at the guy who was now happily going about his own business. Several times she tried to catch his gaze, and when she did he just smiled and shook his head at her in mock disappointment for her earlier actions. To anyone watching nothing of any significance had taken place... but this guy had done so many things right. And, just for the record, he was far from the most attractive guy in there! Eventually he went to leave the bar with his friends but before he did he confidently strolled over to her. To cut a long story short he walked away with her phone number. My friend couldn't believe his eyes and yet, it was simply the mating game taking place before his eyes. So, what did this guy do right? Firstly, he was not intimidated by her beauty, nor did he make it obvious to her that he found her attractive; and instead he teased her a little and showed that he didn't fear her response. Secondly, he did it with charm and gave just a hint of interest. And when he walked away he instantly made her question what his intention was. Women enjoy the 'game' in the early stages, and a guy that isn't a complete walkover instantly communicates higher status and higher quality. And finally, when it came time to leave, he took action, got the number, and then he left the bar! He didn't hang around to blow it by stretching out the conversation and expecting the girl to ignore her friend in favour of talking to him. Trust me, the most powerful thing you can do is leave as soon as you get the number. That first meeting is not the time to try and woo her; and in most cases it is much better to follow up on this later! This guy knew that if he wanted a strong chance to progress, it needed to be a in a different environment; and by leaving he instantly communicated that he wasn't needy and desperate. Of course, his approach wasn't perfect; and even if it had been there are still no guarantees that she would want a date with him. Why? Well, there are many layers to success in dating and relationships and getting the number is really the easy part (yep, you heard right, that's the EASY part!). For example, How did the follow up text call go? What was his approach at this critical time? Did he know when to call or text? How did he handle the first date? Was he a one trick pony that didn't understand how to progress through the various levels and stages to get her to really desire him, want sex with him, and perhaps go on to form a solid relationship? It is quite possible that, in reality, she would have actually gone on to have a superior relationship with the 'no hoper' or the 'doormouse'; but she will never get the chance to find out simply because those guys do not know how to communicate with women effectively! That is all that is holding them back. And the real magic is, they can learn all of these things without changing their personality! To boost your success with women and finally get the knowledge that you need to turn your dating life around check out: http://www.bdateable.com My name is Luke Porter and for the past eight years I have been helping guys to turn their dating life around. I still get a real buzz and sense of satisfaction when I see the dramatic success that a man can achieve in his dating life, in a relativley short period of time, once they fully understand and work with the tools that I give them. The real key though, is learning how to attract women in such a way that you can build a fulfilling relationship. The biggest lesson that I learned was that there is a huge difference between being good at dating and building a great relationship. There is advice out there that will get you the dates but in the longterm it will keep you single and lonely. My objective is to make certain that you can attract the woman of your dreams but also keep her. And that is my promise to you. So get on it and take action! For more information about how to attract and have awesome relationships with women click the link http://www.bdateable.com Or check out the published book on Amazon and read a free sample. Just follow the link below: http://www.amazon.co.uk/Amazing-Success-Dating-Relationships-Bdateable/dp/B004H1U3NC And my new book The New Rules for Internet Dating is now also available on Amazon: http://www.amazon.co.uk/New-Rules-Internet-Dating-Bdateable/dp/B004GKNLOM/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=digital-text&qid=1294410379&sr=8-1