A lot of guys wonder whether
pickup lines can actually get you laid. Yet when we hear the phrase "pickup line," we tend to picture some sleazy guy wearing a gold chain across his hairy chest. He's prowling a bar or nightclub, his beady eyes scanning the room for his next target.
Then he spots his next "conquest" and makes his move...he approaches her and uses some cheesy pick up line that causes her to groan (or throw her drink in his face...)
It might be a pick up line like one of these...
"I sure hope you know CPR, because you are taking my breath away."
"Can I borrow a quarter? [What for?] I want to call my mom and tell her I just met the woman of my dreams."
"Hey, can I borrow a map? I keep getting lost in your eyes."
"Are you religious? Cause you are the answers to all my prayers."
"Sorry lady, but you owe me a drink. [Why?] Because when I looked at you, I dropped mine."
"I'm new in town -- could you give me directions to your apartment?"
"If I could rearrange the alphabet, I would put U and I together."
"Your legs must be tired because you've been running through my mind all night."
"If this bar is a meat market, you must be the prime rib."
"Was your father an alien? Because there's nothing else like you on Earth!"
You actually CAN use a funny pick up line to approach women, and not all of them are that lame. I'll give you a few examples of pickup lines that I've successfully used to approach women. The "trick" is to follow them up with something more clever (I'll give you some of these "transitions" in a minute).
"Wouldn't you and I look adorable on a wedding cake together?"
"Do you know karate? Because your body is really kickin'."
"What does it feel like to be the cutest girl in the room?"
"You must be a hell of a thief, because you stole my heart from across the room."
(Note: Don't use this pick up line on women who are extremely attractive and KNOW it. This one is effective on a girl who is attractive, but is clearly NOT the best-looking girl in the place.)
And then, there's another category of pick up lines. I call these...
Pick Up Lines That Might Get You Kicked In The Crotch
Use this last category of pick up lines with extreme caution. While they might get a good reaction (particularly if she's a drunken nymphomaniac), you're equally likely to get hit. (Or if she has a steroid-crazed boyfriend lurking nearby.) Use them with caution...
"Do you know what has 142 teeth and holds back the Incredible Hulk? [What?] My zipper."
"Your daddy must play the trumpet, because he sure made me horny!"
"That's a nice set of legs, what time do they open?"
The Truth About Pick Up Lines
So are pick up lines something to be scorned? Do successful pickup artists ever use them to approach women and start conversations? I've written several popular books on how to pick up women, which teach many different resourceful approaches to starting conversations with girls. I personally feel that if you're learning how to approach women, using pick up lines is NOT the way to go.
I normally recommend that you use the "under the radar" style of opening conversations. What this basically means is that you say (or ask) something clever when you approach women -- a comment or question that catches her by surprise and engages her attention, without signalling your sexual interest. Essentially, you're "breaking the ice" in a way that feels natural and casual.
For example, you might ask for her opinion on an unexpected topic -- one that women are of course going to have strong feelings about.
Opener #1: "Hey, I have to get back to my friends but let me ask you something real quick -- would you freak out if your boyfriend was invited to a bachelor party and you knew there would be strippers at the party? My friend Samantha asked me for my opinion."
Opener #2: "Hey, help me settle a debate I'm having with my friends. How long do you need to be dating someone before you change your status on Facebook from "single" to "in a relationship?" Because my friend Jennifer has been going out with a guy for a month and SHE thinks it's an exclusive thing, but he hasn't changed his "single" status and she's wondering if she should say something..."
These methods of approaching women are especially effective because they're based on what I call "relationship grey areas." Men and women tend to have their own ideas about what's allowed in a relationship, and what is unacceptable. Another example: is it "cheating" if a guy hangs out with his ex-girlfriend socially, without telling his current girlfriend?
When you
approach a woman, your goal with the opening line is to get a positive response that makes her want to talk to you further. And if you're a confident, playful guy, this one always gets a fun reaction:
"Do I look gay? Because this dude was TOTALLY hitting on me in the bathroom a second ago. Do you think it's because of my shirt?" (Or, "is it the way my butt looks in these jeans?")
Those don't count as "pick up lines," really. But I'm not saying you should NEVER use a corny pick up line when you approach women.
I've actually used some of the pick up lines I mentioned above, and they led to a conversation and a successful result (either I got her phone number and saw her again, or slept with her that night).
It was because I poked fun at the fact that I had USED a pick up line! After delivering it, I followed up with "I know that TOTALLY sounded like a pick up line...but I want to talk to you for a minute and I couldn't think of what else to say. My name's Dean..."
Then from that point, I used my usual methods -- I asked a few "strategic" questions to get her in a fun mindset, and sharing information about herself...I used techniques like "Cold Reads" and "Hypotheticals"...and at all times, I stayed in control of the interaction and guided it down the correct path.
Sometimes a really corny pick up line can be a FUN way to start things off. The trick is knowing how to follow it up with something clever that makes her want to talk to you.
Or, you can always use this:
"You're so beautiful that you totally made me forget my pickup line."
(Women always find that one cute and funny!)
But before I reveal how to CLOSE THE DEAL with women, please pay attention to this warning...
The techniques in our FREE guide to approaching women will affect women on a subconscious level and trigger their deepest desires. Please try to use this material responsibly, because it's extremely powerful. These are quite simply the most powerfully effective methods if you want to learn how to approach women, move past cute pick up lines, and seduce women with confidence and skill.