Today You Decide to Make the Change

Making a change may be tough, but you can do it. It starts by accepting that change is necessary. If you’re tired of the mental battle “should I or shouldn’t I?” consider asking yourself, “for whom am I considering in making this change?” Often the struggle comes down between your personal gains and alternatively complying with the current situation and maintaining status quo as to not offend or hurt others. But, deep down you’re not living to your full potential if you continue to keep your actions the same. You’re not happy. This mental battle is a sign of the struggle between them and you.rnWhat makes YOU happy? In shifting to what makes you happy, generally you’re making others around you happy. Your energy projects outward – negative and positive. It goes with the saying “if Momma ain’t happy, nobody’s happy.” Yes, in the short term there may be a little sting to others impacted by your decision. Notice – “little” sting. Compare that minor inconvenience for others with the energy you’re exerting daily, if not hourly, in handling the current circumstances. Reflect for a moment on the width of that gap. It’s the space between the current state and your desired state. That distance gives you an indication of how much you need to address yourself in the situation.rnSelf-care is often overlooked. It’s easy to perform at a level where your primary focus is on everyone else. This is even true when you are neglecting to look at something or someone you’re struggling with – a personal avoidance. This is where a professional coach helps you assess your situation, for your greatest good. Coaches have powerful tools of assessment and reflection to aid in your journey for self discovery and growth. You don’t have to go it alone – and you DESERVE to do what’s most beneficial for you – and TO BE HAPPY!rnThe effort you put towards your visions and goals is a demonstration of your self-love, care, and happiness. The following are sample self-care assessment statements. Various self-care checklists exist – this is a small subset of various tool sets, with an emphasis on your personal care for balance of your mind, body, and spirit. Answer each statement with True or False.rn1. There is nothing I am doing that does not contribute to my life. rn2. I have not taken on too much.rn3. I have resolved outstanding issues that are bothering me.rn4. I have established boundaries around relationships that are draining me.rn5. I spend time thinking about things that bring me peace and joy.rn6. I follow my own spiritual path.rn7. I give back to my community/others.rn8. I do not worry.rn9. I do not avoid seeing or speaking with specific individuals in my life.rn10. I say “no” when appropriate for my greatest good.rnTrue statements demonstrate positive self-care. Remember change is good, but evaluate for whom you’re making the change and how will you benefit from that action. Conversely, keeping with the flow may be the right answer. Be aware of what makes YOU happy and healthy. For a complete assessment and personal guidance, proceed to http://www.jentlewellness.com and select the FREE TRIAL SESSION button to speak directly with Jennifer, the author and professional coach. …in Happiness and Wellth…Namastern