Top Tips To Keep Romance Alive

Most studies of love and marriage show that the decline of romantic love over time is inevitable. The butterflies of early romance quickly flutter away and are replaced by familiar, predictable attachment.

But experiments show that novelty - simply doing new things together as a couple, may help bring the butterflies back, recreating the chemical surges of early courtship. So do what you already love to do together; for example dance, swim and go to the movies. As well, make an agreement to take turns at creating an exciting and unusual date at least twice a month; for example go to the theatre or a gallery, hike in the country, take a class at the community study centre or volunteer at the soup kitchen for the homeless.
A good relationship must have a rich climate of positivity. Make deposits to your emotional bank account.

Focus on the bright side. In a happy partnership, while discussing problems, couples make at least five times as many positive statements to and about each other and their relationship as negative ones. For example, say "We laugh a lot;" not, "We never have any fu
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Remember to give first rather than get and seek to understand first rather than to be understood.

Plan for a holiday and share the responsibilities for making it happen.

Have at least one overnight stay not so far from home every 2 months. They used to call these “dirty weekends” but I much rather call them “lover’s weekends”.

If you have children, alternate turns at arranging for them to be minded. Obvious options are relatives, but you can also find a teenager and their best friend who live locally and love kids who will be happy to stay over and avail themselves of your well-stocked refrigerator whilst you two go dancing and stay out till the wee hours.

Alternate the task of initiating sex so that one partner is not always having to do it. Agree on your ideal sexual relationship in terms of quality and quantity of sex and do your best to make it happen. If you need to take a raincheck on your promise, make it up at the earliest possible opportunity.

Never let a day go by without contacting your partner through the day at least once to say “How’s your day and I love you”. Phone texting and emails make it easy but surprise them occasionally with an unexpected personal real-time call.