Transformation

Remember when the transformer action figures were the current got-to-have toys for most boys? I would watch my grandson twist and turn limbs, torsos and heads with a surety and speed that was mind-boggling. “How did you do that?” “Easy!” he would say.

Easy for him. When I tried, I would randomly bend and twist different parts but just couldn’t seem to get the knack of it. The whole concept was unfamiliar to me and my motivation to learn how to turn one object into something else was low.

A definition of change is to become different, or make something or somebody different; to exchange, substitute or replace something. It seems that, based on the research, “we are who we are” and major change is highly unlikely.

Let’s explore this notion a little further. Perhaps the concept of change needs a definition overhaul. Just as when I played with dolls, the only option was to change their clothes or accessories, whereas my grandson was introduced to toys that could be transformed into a whole other entity. My dolls got a change of exte
al clothes, while the transformer toys got a change of heart.

The differences between change and transformation seem subtle but are actually profound.

The traditional approach to change is to isolate a problematic area and decide the best way to solve that problem by creating a step-by-step plan and following it to completion. Change starts with the intellect. The intellect is a comparative tool. We disce
what is good vs. bad, right vs. wrong, better vs. worse, winning vs. losing and past vs. future.

Change requires that we jump into the future, land on a desired outcome and then systematically move towards our stated goal. It calls for a change of mind, first and foremost. This approach is worthwhile; it just isn’t the whole story nor is it comprehensive enough for the complex world we live in today.

The transformational approach to change requires that some basic inner development be in place before we can move ahead. Transforming the quality of our lives starts with a solid core. Let’s call it a basic “ground of being.” We must have a platform of intrinsic self-trust.
So a logical first question is how do we build self-trust? Self-acceptance is the fuel that fosters self-trust. At its lowest level, self-acceptance requires that we tolerate what we don’t like about our lives or ourselves without protest, justification or denial.

There is a natural law that states that what we resist persists. Deny our past? We are doomed to repeat it. Pretend to be perfect to cover up our inadequacies? We will find ourselves caught in an ego web of never being as good or as bad as we make believe we are.

The only advice I can give about accomplishing this mighty first step is to rein in your runaway mind and increase your ability to laugh at yourself. After all, you have been with you through all your triumphs and disasters, so rather than doing endless reruns of the Perils of Poor Pitiful Pearl, the smart alte
ative is to lighten up and learn to laugh at yourself.

When our inner landscape is devoid of self-acceptance, basic self-trust is replaced with habitual self-sabotage. Therefore, our newly conceived plans for an improved future are aborted due to lack of self-support. We are unable to sustain our dreams because we are keeping ourselves on a starvation diet of self-condemnation. Self-trust is the bedrock of transformational change.

Stand up for who you are today. Open your heart and your mind to the task of accepting all aspects of yourself, both known and unknown. Call to your inner wisdom; that knowledge of yourself that resides in the place that we could call your personal truth room.

Sit quietly and ask for an answer to this question: “Given who I am today and where I find myself in my life’s journey, what is right action for me at this time?”

Listen. Allow yourself to open to and accept the voice of your own inner brilliance. Your message will either be an action you can take or a simple letting go and allowing of patience and a deeper peace to permeate your whole self.

Relax, release, let go and when you finally regain your sure-footedness, then it is time to face forward and resume your journey into the land of infinite possibilities.