What Do You Really Want in Life? Make Up Your Mind

I ask tough questions.
“What do you really want in Life?”
“What makes you happy?”
“If you had it all over to do again, what would you do differently?”

These questions sound easy, but for most people it’s a struggle to come up with an answer. There are different reasons why answering these questions doesn’t come easily.

For one thing, people rarely take the time to be with the most important person in their life. Yet, we all have the same most important person. The most important person in your life should be YOU!

It’s the old story we hear every time we go on an airplane. When the oxygen mask drops down you place it over your nose and mouth to help yourself first. After that, it’s time to take care of the other people around you.

When people take care of themselves, they become happier and more fulfilled. When they are happy and fulfilled, then they take better care of others. You’ll be amazed the difference this makes in the area of relationships.

I’m an expert when it comes to relationships, and I know you have to start with yourself. So, stop trying so hard to fix someone else. Success only comes when you start with yourself.

What I notice is as people get more angry, disappointed and frustrated with all the different things going on in their life they create much more chatter in their heads. Most of the chatter -- that little voice in your head -- is targeting outward towards everybody else, everyone except themselves.

Here is some of the self-talk people are hearing:
“I can’t believe you treat me like that.”
“I’ve been trying to help you and you don’t appreciate me.”
“How come every time I try to talk with my spouse or kids, we get into a fight?”
“Why am I always angry? I used to be happy, what happened?”
I’m sure you’d be able to share many more conversations going on in your head. You get my point!

When you shift your focus from everybody else and put the spot light on you, then you can answer my questions at the beginning of this article much more easily.

Here are a few steps to get you moving in the right direction so you can start the process of living a happy, fulfilled and successful life.
1. Be aware of what’s really going on in your life.
2. Take some time on a daily basis, and notice what chatter is going on in your head.
3. Notice if the chatter is about you, or about the other people in your life.
4. Make up your mind what you want different in your life.
5. Write down on a piece of paper what you want in life.

I have great news for you. Anytime you decide to make up your mind about what you want, that’s when you start on the road to living a happy, fulfilled and successful life.

The choice is yours. Since we only have one life, I encourage you to start today! There is no time like the present.