What Do You Really Want?

Let's start with one of the basics for getting what you want. Do you know what you REALLY want? This may seem like a silly question, but I often find in working with clients that they don't know the true answer. We frequently spend much of lives our dreaming about the things we think we want, wishing that somehow, someway, we could manage to make them magically appear. I have to admit that I know firsthand what this is all about. I've had a picture of a Porsche 911 on my office wall for over 2 years now. I often visualized myself driving it around, and even visited a dealership to check one out in person. I finally realized there were a few reasons it wasn't "showing up." One of them was that I didn't truly believe it was possible to fit this expense into our current budget. The second reason was that I wasn't ACTIVELY doing anything to get it! I was just "wishing" it, or the money for it, would show up. So, how do you know what YOU really want? Whatever you are ACTIVELY involved in trying to achieve, that's what you really want. Everything else is just what you think you want. If you think you want something and you're not actively involved in getting it, there's a good chance that you're just kidding yourself. If you believe you want something but you're not truly doing a great deal to get it, you have a few choices: 1. You can continue kidding yourself, pretending that you really want this thing that, based on the effort you've put forth so far, it doesn't appear you really want. 2. You can give up the goal, either temporarily or permanently. There's a good chance that if this goal were to magically materialize you'd probably enjoy it, at least for a while. But, up to this point, it appears to be something you really don't want more than the other things you are ACTIVELY working towards. Realize that since your time is being spent pursuing other things, you must want them more than you want this! Thus, you temporarily (or permanently) let this one go. (By the way, this is what I've done with the Porsche) 3. You can do whatever it takes to reach the goal. Eliminate those activities that support your goals with lower priorities than the one in question. As you move toward your goal, certain mental, emotional and physical objections will be raised. No matter what complaints your mind, emotions and body bring forth, if you know you need to do it, do it anyway. Slowly teach the objecting parts of you that you have a new goal, a new priority, and that your actions will now be in alignment with achieving that goal.