Infertility Rainbow~ caused by the refraction and reflection of the sun's rays through the rain

The Infertility Rainbow~ At the end of it maybe an empty pot of gold...but couldn't be happier if their were one baby or more.... I felt compelled to write this article in effort to shed light on the importance of having multiple support systems while undergoing fertility treatments. Dealing with infertility issues can cause a great deal stress causing your sympathetic nervous system to activate the release of adrenaline and cortisol. This release of adrenaline causes a “fight or flight” response and depletes blood supply from your internal organs including those of reproduction and sends it to the large muscles of the arms and legs. A study conducted in 1998 at an Annual Meeting of the American Society of Reproductive Medicine in San Francisco,California "Impact of group psychology interventions on pregnancy rates in infertile women." By Alice Domer and her colleagues from Harvard University provided results that proved, stress reduction is a vital component to boost fertility and increase pregnancy outcomes with assisted reproductive technologies. Due to it's intimate nature couples undergoing fertility treatments are less likely to reach out and ask for help in effort to protect their privacy. Its my goal to lift your spirits with insightful information,to inspire hope and encourage you to find comfort outside of your comfort zone. Preserving emotional well being is a vital step towards achieving a positive outcome.It truly doesn’t have to be a fearful,overwhelming and isolated journey. Make exploring as many avenues part of your journey,to find the support that best suites your individual needs and lifestyle. Infertility can have a significant impact triggering many emotions and feelings of insecurity, anger,blame,guilt and even of undeserving happiness.So when someone who hasn't walked a mile in your shoes dares to say "just relax," more often than not it has the opposite affect. It truly takes time to understand and digest information that's in a different language so to speak.It's not a one size fits all process. It's a different experience for every individual and even per cycle of treatment.Fact is that every cycle requires 100% plus on multiple levels from all parties involved. Infertility is a journey with complexities of different hues and colors. It will test you emotionally and physically. It's financially over taxing with constant twists and turns that require moving towards a different direction to realize your dream of having a baby.Friends and family who aren't familiar with the challenges of infertility often aren't sure of what to say.Then there are holiday events and baby showers that you wish you didn't have to attend because they trigger an assortment of emotions. A lot of the process leaves you feeling vulnerable and out of control on many levels. Without a life line of support it can knock you down to a very dark place,where it's difficult to see to any light of hope. Infertility will test you in many areas of your life and your relationships,regardless of your social status, profession or gender. One thing that’s for certain, you will get a full belly of humble pie. Its common to feel ill prepared anytime our lives are hit with an event or circumstance that we never imagined could impact our lives on a grand scale with constant change. It’s never how we envisioned or planned our life to unfold. It’s stressful because there is so much at stake as we invest emotionally, financially and physically. Then there are decisions that feel more and more like a gamble. Bottom line is that it has a tendency to turn your world upside down at a moments notice. It's an experience that colors your world with a rainbow of emotions that consistently change leaving you to wonder how you ever got here and if you're still the same person you once felt good about being. Preservation of emotional well being is essential as the air we breath to get through the process without wearing your self thin to the point of breaking. Fertility treatments are certainly one of those experiences that can be compared to an out of control roller coaster ride with no end in sight. It’s a time when you need all the emotional support and handholding you can get from more than one source. Its also when its the most difficult to reach out to anyone for help. Its important to keep in mind that seeking additional support to fill in the gaps between doctor appointments and phone calls to your IVF nurse could mean the difference between keeping your marriage and career from falling apart while you move forward and do everything within your reach to realize your dream of becoming parents. Author and leading voice in the world of emotional intelligence and present moment awareness, Raphael Cushnir, came up with this new kind of occupation. He called it, “Professional Communer.” What’s a professional Communer? Rapheal Cushnir explains it in an article he wrote titled Emotional Connection, A Revolution in Healing. Its featured on Psychology Today Magazine published on August 16, 2011. I thought it was a brilliant concept. I liked the idea and saw great benefits by implenting this new concept with patients who are undergoing infertility treatments. A medical professional with experience in reproductive medicine,well versed in all aspects of assisted reproductive technology may consider providing this service that contributes to emotional well being with an extraordinary level of personalized care. Minimizing your levels of stress and anxiety may very well increase the likely hood of conceiving. Knowing you have an option to obtain a service you can access at those pivotal moments when you need guidance and compassionate support from a source who genuinely cares for others. Someone who is experienced in this field can make the difference that can inspire hope, provide inner peace, and help you to regain your confidence. Isn't it usually in the middle of the night when no one is available, that you feel most afraid and need someone to talk to? Imagine how much better you would feel if there was a way to relieve the tension between you and your spouse by simply having someone else other than your spouse available to talk to? Specially at a time when they too are struggling to cope with the whole process? A sense of comfort and hope is experienced when you know its okay to reach for the telephone in your darkest moments without feeling like your bothering someone or over stepping boundaries. It maybe the missing link that is simply priceless. A Fertility Communer will be there to hold space, to invite you into the deepest possible connection to the emotions that are underlying your difficulty. A Fertility Communer will come close, or back off, as you wish. You can use their service via Internet, telephone or in person. It’s an area where you still have control to choose how this service best suits you. You choose if you wish to keep it anonymous or build a familiar bond..Your first thought may be, “the whole thing would have to cost a fortune." That's probably right. But I what if it would actually cost less than the price you would pay of depression, anxiety, etc. When so much is at stake, having someone available on call to provide this essential humane service for a low but reasonable salary may proof to be priceless after all. With infinite love and gratitude,rnmay all your dreams manifest.