Why Does Phone Sex Feel Uncomfortable For Me?

Not Everyone is Confident Enough to Share Their Feeling's

There are many obvious differences between men and women. And perhaps one the most striking is the way that men and women communicate and listen to each other. This of course, is also reflected when either one engages in phone sex. Certain people are very upfront, while others are shy and timid. These type of personality traits are only amplified when the subject of sex is the topic of discussion.

Differences In Communication

Men often find themselves feeling uncomfortable during phone sex exchanges with women for various reasons. According to one article published in Psychology Today, women speak twice as much as there male counterparts. Women speak an average of 250 words per minute, whereas men speak only 125. It is easy to see why men can become weary of verbal speech. Some experts say that a woman speaks nearly 25,000 words per day and the average man uses a mere 12,000 words throughout the course of his day. It would seem according to statistics that women simply enjoy talking more than men. However, that is not the only difference that exists between the two sexes. Men and women also have very different styles of expressing themselves when speaking with one another. Women tend to over talk when they are struggling to find the right words. When this happens, a man can easily lose track or become frustrated with the discussion. These differences in their speech patterns can become a difficult barrier to overcome and can derail any type of connection before it even begins.

How Texting Can Help

With such contrasting styles, it is easy to see why men prefer sexting over phone sex. With texting, men feel that they have more control over the conversation. Additionally, they will not become easily bored or see the abundance of words as an obstacle. This will allow for both partners to concentrate on satisfying each other's fantasies and desires. After all, this is the reason you connected in the first place! Recent surveys suggest that both men and women are open to the idea of sexting. One study released in 2011, shows that two-thirds of women surveyed had previously sexted with a friend or partner in the past. Furthermore, some studies recognize that both men and women notice that text messaging can be extremely helpful in casual dating scenarios. Texts are the ideal mode of exchange during the earliest stages of a relationship because it can help to reduce anxiety and lessen uncertainty. Text messaging is an ideal way to get to know new people and arrange face-to-face meetings. Of course, one-on-one contact is still important, but communicating in writing can be an ideal way for men and women to connect, especially when they decide to take it to the next level. Whether you engage in either phone sex or sexting this simple rule applies... The more you practice the better you will become. Even if you are in a serious relationship, sexting may be just the thing you need to spice things up!