Why Many Who Fail in Their Relationships Don’t Develop Awareness to Understand Why They Fail?

Many who fail in their relationships don’t take the time to develop their Self-Awareness and understand the reasons for their failure. Why don’t they?

Many think they know themselves well enough to be able to cultivate and maintain a “good” relationship (whatever they mean by “good”).

They think they know how to be and behave in a relationship. Therefore, if the relationship fails, it is not them, but their partners’ fault!

They think that “loving a lot” is the secret for a satisfying long-term bond.

They think that “falling in love” and “being there” for their partners are what it takes to have a satisfying relationship.

WHEN THEIR RELAITONSHIPS FAIL, WHY DON’T THEY DEVELOP AWARENESS TO UNDERSTAND WHY THEY FAIL?

Many feel they are too busy to figure out what’s going on with their relationships.

Many are afraid to look inside, scared to find things about themselves they rather not see, so they go on “relating” to others in exactly the same ways they have until now.

Many believe they have done all they could about finding and cultivating a good relationship, including dating others, chatting with them on the internet, developing and posting an interesting profile, reading tips about relationships, and there is nothing else they can do.

Some have read books on relationships, attended workshops, maybe sought short-term-counselling. In spite of all these, they are not aware of the fact that they need to develop Self-Awareness in order to understand what leads them to fail in their relationships.

SELF-AWARENESS IS A PREREQUISITE FOR A SUCCESSFUL RELATIONSHIP

Those failing in their relationships over and over again who sincerely and wholeheartedly wish to be able to develop and maintain a satisfying relationship must develop Self-Awareness and understand how they UNCONSCIOUSLY harm their relationships.

They need to figure out what exerts power over them and drive them to sabotage whichever relationship they are in. For example:

Do they have any unconscious fears of intimacy or commitment which make them run away from true relationships?
Do they have fears of rejection and abandonment which make them hang too much onto their partners?
Do they have low-esteem and self-concept issues which make them too dependent on their partners?
Do they have too many control issues which make them too dominant as partners?
Do they have incessant needs for love, appreciation and acceptance which make their partner feel suffocated?
Do they have unrealistic expectations about partners and relationships which drive them to make too many demands on their partners?
Do their belief-system and perception of how things “should be” between them and their partners drive them to endless arguments and conflicts without their being willing to compromise?
Do their attitudes, reactions and behaviors are precisely those which harm their relationships?

Those willing to accept the fact that the time has come for them to develop Self-Awareness and get to understand what exerts power over them and drive them to sabotage their relationships, will become empowered to (finally) make the necessary changes, stop failing in their relationships and find a partner with whom to develop a satisfying bond.