You're a Bully. Oh Shut Up You're Just a Pushover

Learning how each child differs, according to the origin of psychology, is to every parents advantage otherwise you could be stuck with the label your child is given and your child could, later, have corrective and recovery psychological work to do. The origin of psychology set the stage for each individual to understand and live according to individual design, but few are aware of fundamental differences which are intended to unite us, not to divide us. As a result self esteem, relationships and quality of life has suffered. Awareness of Individuality Awaits You!nnBully is a Label, Not Who Your Child Is If you have a child that has been labeled a bully or one who’s being bullied then learning the ways individuals naturally differ is essential to your peace of mind, your child’s positive development and the foundation that will be laid for their mental and emotional quality of life. Understanding the natural elements that make up your child’s individuality, from temperament and multiple intelligences to the role environmental influences play, will strengthen your bond with your child and increase your child’s confidence which can have a lasting effect on their self esteem.nnYour Child is Uniquely Yours Solutions to bad behaviors are not one-size-fit-all. Your child is not like any other. If you have more than one child, they may have similar traits, but they are different children. What works on one is not likely to work on the other. Let’s examine why that is. If you have one of those energetic, strong-willed or, as many would call them, problem children or bullies you’ve probably had your share of frustration. If you have 2 or more children and one hardly gives you any trouble at all, you probably already know how hard it is to not label the "problem" child and you are tested daily. Such a situation creates tension for all involved, mostly on your child because they expect you to have the answers. Understanding the why of individual behaviors, often provides the knowledge to resolve the what. When you understand how each child is designed to operate, you can apply workable solutions that produce desired results for each child; successful parenting depends on it.nnFundamental Basics The origin of Psychology was established by Hippocrates, the father of medicine, and was based on temperament types: 4 basic fluids of the body that were later called Choleric, Sanguine, Phlegmatic and Melancholy. Hippocrates’ found that specified behaviors were consistent with each particular body fluid and that each person’s fluids were consistent. nnTemperaments distinguish human behaviors more than any other factor. There are many different modern personality systems created based on Hippocrates’ temperamental studies. Below is a brief description distinguishing the 4 types: 1. Choleric: Focused on what needs to happen and has little conce for anything between them and their goal. 2. Sanguine: Focused on the why; usually looking for the fun in it and will create it if necessary - “Idea” oriented. 3. Phlegmatic: Focused on who is involved and conce ed for everybody’s benefit. When the people are okay, then they are okay. 4. Melancholy: Focused on how things happen, seeks to understand process. Process grounds them. They are “task” oriented. Did you notice that all four are necessary considerations? None are any more or less valuable than the other and nobody, naturally, considers them all. By now you should be starting to see and understand the need for individual (different) designs. The process of distinguishing individuality takes an in-depth look at different layers and crossover fundamentals that are essential to self-development; a process that scales from Awareness of Individuality to Self Mastery.nnOther Fundamental Basics There are other fundamental basics that help to distinguish each person’s individuality and they include: • Sensory Perception: The different processes used to grasp information • Multiple Intelligences: There are many different kinds of smarts, but most school systems teach, grade and advance based only on two, yet children’s confidence and future depends on how good they feel about what they know, which is often directly tied to their behavio • Modes of Communications: How one communicates; the delivery of communicationsn • Emotional Quotient: E.Q. is about emotional stability and collectively determines a person’s overall success more than any other learningn • Environmental Influences: When you know the groups of things that are likely to affect your child you can be proactive and selective about when, how or if they are introduced into their worlds Individuality fundamentals are eye-opening for parents and those who work with children. The knowledge of these basics can significantly propel your children as individuals, as they interact with others, and determine - as adults - if they will be scarred or refined because of childhood experiences; too many adults are scarred and having to do corrective and recovery psychological work. The Awareness of Individuality is the basis for unwavering self-esteem and the foundation for resilience in our ever-changing world; every parent wants this for their child and every child wants acceptance without exception. This understanding can transform the way one perceives what an individual does and cause them to revisit what is considered “good vs. bad” behaviors, particularly in the children who have been labeled, a bully.