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Relationship Advice – Avoid This Mistake!

To have meaningful relationships we need to feel safe enough to be our true, authentic self. This is why one of the best relationship advice ideas I can offer you is to beware of judging others or assuming someone’s judging you. They tend to go hand in hand. If you’re a rather judgmental person, it’s only natural for you to assume others are the same way. If you’re critiquing everyone else’s hair, outfits and relationships – then your perspective will be that everyone else must be doing that too.

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Ways to be Happy More Often?

Everyday life can drain our physical energy, leaving us fatigued. But emotional energy is rather different. It is more a sense of happiness and hopefulness. This week I want to look at 3 different ways to be happy more often and boost your emotional energy.

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Take Care of You – Exhausted to Elated!

This month we’re going to take a good look at the Vibrantly Live principle of self-care. Specifically, I want to focus on something we use constantly, and say we never have enough of – ENERGY! I’m going to be discussing 4 different types this month; your physical, emotional, spiritual and mental energy. All are important. All require nurturing in a different way. Yes, you’re busy, but are you being effective? That’s the bigger question.

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Take Care of You by Receiving this Gift

Have you ever realized how hard it is to take care of you when you don’t make it a priority? There’s always “stuff” to be done. Kids need rides. The house gets dirty. Groceries get eaten. But what about you? How much do you make taking care of you a priority? It needs to be a conscious decision or it flat out won’t happen! Something more important will come up. I’ve written volumes about the importance of self-care here and how it’s not a selfish act, so I won’t beat that dead horse again.

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A Life Well Lived

I’ve been asked repeatedly “What are the nuggets that you most frequently share with the ladies you work with?” So I decided to share 4 life lessons I’ve learned in over 15 years of working with women and nearly that long being a mom. If you’ve ever wondered, “Who am I?” or “Why am I here?” then listen up, this is for you!

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Self Control - How Can I Have More Of It?

Self control is something all of us say we want more of. The mystery behind it is trying to figure out the how. How do I have self control? How do I make better choices? How will I know I can trust myself? I'd like to share 3 steps to help you move in the right direction. All 3 of these come from 1 Corinthians 9:24 - 27:

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Is Balance in Life a Myth?

Most schools around here are back in session at this point. Finding balance in life may seem like a pipe dream for many. I see the harried expressions of moms as they drive their kids here, there, and everywhere. My foot was the victim of a grocery cart incident as a mother was rushing around with a screaming child trying to finish her shopping as quickly as possible. I get it. But does life REALLY have to be this way?

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The Power of Just One Word

Recently, I shared a simple 3 step process for waking up to what you enjoy. This helps point you in the right direction for understanding what’s truly important to you and why. Now, I want to share a practical step for choosing a direction and remaining focused on it. Getting clear on what’s important to you and why is the first step in living a life filled with purpose. But that can be a tall order when you’re feeling a little lost and

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Goals in Life for Success

As you look at setting different goals in life, I want to encourage you to look at who you need to be rather than just what you need to do. Behavioral changes alone, don’t last. It’s only when we make real, internal changes in who we are that change is maintained. A critical aspect is making sure you’re being authentic. Being “authentic” means that you are genuine and real, not just with others but also yourself. Why is this important when setting goals in life? I’m glad you asked… You take personal responsibility

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Balance in Life: What Do I Want More Of?

It’s real easy as a mom to focus on everyone else’s needs. We want everyone to be happy and feel loved. But neglecting yourself doesn’t lead to much balance in life for you. I can hear it now – “Me? I don’t have time to think of me. I’m fine.” Really? If you think your needs are any less important than the other members of your household, I beg to differ sweetheart. I want to challenge that thinking a little.

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Self-Care – What Do You Have Energy For?

I went to a get together a friend of mine put on this week and heard a really sad comment by one of the ladies there regarding self-care. We were talking about friendships. She said that she’s so busy with all her responsibilities at work and with her kids that she notices that she purposely pushes other people away for fear of disappointing them. She knows she doesn’t have the energy to really invest in friendships right now and so avoids them. Now on the surface that might sound like a healthy boundary to have, BUT…. Here are 3 problems with that thinking:

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Self-Care for the Kids’ Sake

Leaving a legacy we can be proud of is a huge part of the mission of Vibrantly Live. Part of doing that is teaching the importance of self-care not only for us, as moms, but also for our children. Self-care allows you to be in the right frame of mind to handle life’s every day stressors. If you’re stressed out, exhausted or over-committed just the slightest change of plans can just about send you over the edge!!! C’mon – I know I’m not the only one. :)

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Self-Care – Enjoy Life: Am I Who I Want to Be?

It’s an important question. Life happens. We respond. And suddenly years have passed. This is where we get ourselves into trouble and realize, “This isn’t what I wanted! How did my life turn out like this? I don’t enjoy life right now!” The problem lies in not having asked that little question; “Am I Who I Want to Be?” That question helps keep us grounded and on course. Let’s look at why the 7 little words are so powerful…

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Self-Care is NOT a Bad Word

As women, we’ve been conditioned to take care of everybody else. We feel it’s expected of us and there’s a lot of guilt involved in this. It almost seems sacrilegious to think “What about me?” Then there’s even more guilt! Guilt seems to be the underlying emotion relating to all of this. This month, I want us to take a look at that guilt and be able to move past it so that we can allow ourselves to be healthier and that, in turn, will lead to healthier families.

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How to Build Confidence? Become it!

We’re continuing our discussion of successful ways to achieve what’s truly important to you. Rather than just focusing on set tasks and trying to push your way through, I’ve been sharing the importance of being a different you prior to starting the tasks. This week, I want to talk about confidence. It’s essential if you’re going to succeed at a new endeavor. But – I can see the quizzical look on your face right now, as you’re wondering, how to build confidence? Isn’t just an innate characteristic? No! Not even close! C’mon let me show you… How to Build Confidence – Tip #1

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Life of Peace = Living on Purpose

I hear from the women I work with that they just want more of a life of peace rather than all the craziness they experience. What they’re referring to is that they don’t want the rushed, exhausting and stressed out feelings they carry around daily. Sounds good, doesn’t it? But at the same time a lot of women think of peace as the ability to sleep, not do anything and just rest.

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Relationships After Divorce: When Is Too Soon to Date After a Divorce?

Making the choice to begin dating after divorce may cause lots of emotions for you. The thought can be exciting, scary, happy or even sad. But what about the feelings your kids may be having about it? One of the most important aspects to keep in mind when considering your children's reactions is how long you've been divorced. This has a huge impact on kids. Divorce research has shown time and time again, that kids take much longer to deal with all of the changes that happen as a result of a divorce than you do.

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Peace of Mind Doesn’t Come from Assuming

Peace of mind can come from all sorts of places, but it definitely doesn’t come from assuming things about other people. We jump to conclusions all the time when it comes to people. These assumptions can get us in all sorts of problems. One of the most common errors is assuming someone is or will be disappointed in you. The difficulty with this assumption is that it puts a lot of pressure on you. This fear of disappointing others forces us to spend a lot of time and energy trying to keep people happy. This one can put you over the edge with exhaustion.

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Spiritual Life Practices Allow More Energy

Our spiritual life is often see as a taboo subject in “polite company”, but why? Because we have differing opinions? Because it’s a topic people feel strongly about? Sure. But I take a different approach. I think it’s something that needs to be discussed more. It’s only in sharing this intimate part of our lives that we can grow and learn more. We are spiritual beings living in a physical body. Our self care routines must include taking care of that spiritual essence just as much as preserving our physical bodies.

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Life on Purpose: What Do I Want Right Now?

Who wants to live your life on purpose? C’mon, raise your hands! Don’t be shy! None of us want to reflect back and the end of our lives and feel like we meandered and had little effect on anyone or anything. But in order to have an effect, you must be intentional. Now, I know you’re probably sick to death of hearing about goals, goals, goals! Well, to be honest, I am too! Goals are great, but there’s a whole lot involved in making them a reality. Oftentimes, it’s real easy to get overly focused on creating them and then we never get around to the doing.

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How to Leave a Legacy: The Ripple Effect

I want to leave a legacy. How ‘bout you? I want to know I left a mark on this world and not just any old mark, but one that really made a positive difference in as many lives as possible. Sound impossible? No way! Every action you take has the potential to be a ripple effect. What do I mean by “ripple effect”? Well think about a bowl of water sitting in your sink. It’s just sitting there, but then the sink drips and one drop falls into the bowl. What happens? It hits and the water ripples outward. Simple, eh? Sure it is!

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What is Important in Life? You Decide!

In our busy and harried lives, it can be difficult to make the time to stop and really ask yourself, “What is important in life?” I’m not talking about the importance of deciding what’s for dinner tonight, or even how you’re going to get this current project done at work. I’m talking a little bigger in scale. The sad truth is, we tend to just focus on what’s right in front of us when we’re rushed. But living your life like this is what leads to feeling like you wasted precious time when things slow down a little (and yes – they will).

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What's Truly Important? Follow Your Heart

“For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” This verse from Luke 12:34 keeps running through my mind as I think about why certain things have been important to me throughout my life. We finished up our discussion of Part #1 of the Vibrantly Live System this month – Defining What’s Truly Important & Why.

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How to Enjoy Life – One Day at a Time

Ever wonder how to enjoy life? This month we continued our focus on living out our life’s purpose. Discovering your purpose can seem rather daunting, but once you’ve got a direction, it can be even more difficult to stay focused and not allow obstacles to get in your way! Let’s face it. Our lives are busy. Anyone disagree? We make thousands of choices each and every day. But the key lies in making the right choices. One obstacle we didn’t cover was numbness.

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How Can I Build Confidence to Move Forward?

I had a difficult decisio I was struggling with last month. I kept spinning my wheels going round and round trying to make a decision about moving forward. I kept lamenting: “How can I build confidence in making this decision?” I was stuck in this cycle for over 2 months. I’d been actively praying for direction, and little things had happened to show me I was on track.

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Are You Sleep Walking Through Your Life?

It’s such a simple question. Your initial reaction may have been an offended “NO!” But too often, we get caught up in the daily busyness of life that we don’t look that far ahead. This is why those milestone birthdays – 30, 40, 50, 60 – can be a struggle. “Where did the time go? How did I get to be this old?” This is why we get so excited about New Year’s Day! It’s a fresh start – we get to hit the re-set button! Even though we know we’re probably not going to do anything different. Why?

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How to Find Peace: Be Determined…Be Dauntless

I like to choose 1 word to be my focus and anchor each year. This year I wanted to learn how to find peace in my everyday life. The word I chose is "dauntless". I used to struggle a lot with of fear of rejection, perfectionism and self-doubt. I knew in 2013, it needed to end. You see, I tu 40 this year and I'm done with it. You might be wondering why I didn’t just go with the word "fearless"? Well, it wasn't strong enough! Dauntless means - not to be intimidated, bold, resolutely fearless. Those sound like great words, but how do you go from fear to dauntless?

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How Do You Find Your Purpose?

“How do you find your purpose?” This is one of the most frequently asked questions! All of us what to know that we matter. We want to have an effect on this world. We want to know that everything we’ve gone through in this life was for something and that some type of legacy will be left. The best way to do this is to walk boldly in your purpose.

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Self Control - What Is It Exactly?

We hear about the importance of self control all the time. I don't know about you, but I usually have visions of grey clothes, and a boring life whenever I hear the words self control!! I made the decision to do a little investigating on this topic for find out what's so great about Self Control. I found out that self control allows me to... 1. Become more gentle with those around me. I'm able to be empathetic to the people I'm talking about because I'm focusing on them rather than me, me, me.

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Achieve Goals in 2014? Here’s how…

Happy New Year! Can you believe it’s 2014? With the New Year, many people start wondering how to really achieve goals that are important to them. How about you? Are you ready to make a change or content to just continue floating along? This month, as we focus on the Vibrantly Live principle of Define What’s Truly Important & Why, I want to share with you an often overlooked necessity when it comes to making real change in your life.

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3 Ways to be Happy in Your Relationships

This month, I’ll be covering 3 different ways to be happy in the different relationships in your life. It’s something all of us want, but it’s not always the easiest thing to achieve. Why is that? I believe it’s due to assumptions we make. We’re so quick to assume things – a look means “this”, a tone of voice means “that”. But we could be totally off. Unfortunately, because it becomes our perspective of the situation, it becomes our “truth”, when in reality it could be flat out wrong.

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Peace of Mind: Finding More Mental Energy

With all the responsibilities we have, wanting a little more peace of mind is a given. But sometimes we don’t have time to even eat! Where will we find time to boost our mental energy? Before you go into panic mode and wish for extra hours in a day, let’s take a step back. Making sure your mind is clear from clutter allows you to focus on the most important things, making you more productive, thus able to get more done in the amount of time you have.

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A Life of Purpose One Decision at a Time

Last month I had the privilege of attending a conference with 500 other entrepreneurial women from around the world. We were there to focus on developing a life of purpose to serve in a greater way. It was an incredible experience, being in an environment with all of these other powerful women who are charging ahead, through their own fears and doubts, to make this world a better place.

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How to Change Your Life – Walk in Faith

Most of the women I work with would easily admit they feel blessed. Their daily needs are met and they have loving people in their life. So why is the question of how to change your life a common one among them? It’s because the women I work with are striving to go beyond just “getting through” their days, and instead, really want to live!

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Self-Care: How to Take It Easy on Yourself

I will be the first to admit that self-care does not come natural for me! I am your “Type A, push through ‘til you drop, make it perfect or else” – kinda girl! Grasping the importance of self-care is something I’ve had to learn. I usually do a pretty good job with it, because I’ve learned (the hard way) that it’s a necessity if I’m going to be the mom, wife and overall person I want to be. But…. I still have my moments.

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Peace of Mind Naturally

Peace of mind often feels like a pipe dream that other people get to experience. But that doesn’t have to be YOUR reality! It is possible to experience it on a regular basis. You’re probably asking, “How?” about this time, aren’t you? Peace of mind will never be a reality if you don’t seriously commit to a regular practice of self-care. I know, I know – “Who has time for that!!??” But hold on there – I want to challenge that thinking just a little. Who DOESN’T have time for that!?

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Life & Work Balance – Myth or Reality?

“Is it even possible to achieve life & work balance?” bemoaned a client of mine a few months ago. She was running herself ragged trying to juggle about 15 plates at once. She’d hit a wall and wasn’t even sure where to go from here. She was exhausted, short-tempered with just about everyone she cared about, doing a rotten job at work and anxious a lot of the time. Best of all…She was done living like this and ready to make a change! Music to my ears!! ï This is what I love to do!

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A Life of Peace through Questioning

I work with women every week who claim that having a life of peace is their biggest priority. “A life of peace” doesn’t make for the best goal though. It’s not real specific. What’s that look like – really? I get it; they’re tired of the rushing, running, demands, difficult relationships and exhaustion. But if you can’t get clearer tha “more peace”, you’re not going to go far.

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I’m Not Perfect – But I’m Getting Better

Ok, I admit it! I’m not perfect! Whew – I feel better getting that off my chest! Sometimes I feel a lot of pressure to seem like I’ve got it all together. My kids are watching me. My clients are watching me. People in organizations where I hold leadership positions are watching. I know, I know… I’m just sounding paranoid now.

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What Is Important in Life for You?

Have you ever asked yourself “What is important in life?” I’m not sure many people do. Let’s face it, life is busy. Life is chaotic. Life is exhausting. All of our “to do” lists are completely unrealistic and ridiculous. But that’s just life, right? Um….I’m going to be that little voice that shouts – “NO!” That can be everybody else’s life, but it’s not going to be mine. Uh,uh, no way! (arms crossed, shaking my head). I want to live my life on purpose. I want to know what is important in life and go after it!

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Divorce to Remarriage: What Happens When You Rush to Wed The Second Time Around

50% of first marriages end in divorce. 75% of those divorcees will remarry. At least 60% of those remarriages will end in a re-divorce. Sobering statistics aren't they? But why are they this high? 50% of first marriages end in divorce I'm not even going to make a guess at the reason for this. There are interpersonal, cultural, societal, financial and many other reasons why this could be. I'll leave it up to the academic researchers to sort this one out. 75% of those divorcees will remarry I was shocked the first time I heard this.

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Life After Divorce -The Absolute Best Way to Move Forward After A Divorce

My favorite song right now is "In Better Hands Now" by Natalie Grant. I was on a long car drive this morning and falling asleep so I put this song on when suddenly it hit me how much this song has to say for those of you who have recently divorced. Support and encouragement can come from any source. Let's go on a journey to discover how this song can speak to you... "It's hard to stand on shifting sand" - Who disagrees with the idea that a divorce causes your life to feel unstable?

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Self Esteem and Confidence: Release the Devil You Know

We hear about the importance of self esteem and confidence just about every day in the media. These are areas that many women struggle with. They have to do with an overall belief (or lack thereof) in oneself and one’s ability to make wise decisions. I find that the hardest decisions for me have to do with relationships. I’m a little more emotionally invested in those, tha I am – say – a pair of shoes!

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How do I get peace of mind in relationships?

As women, we love relationships! But how often do you find yourself asking “How do I get peace of mind relationships?” I mean, they can cause our greatest joys and our greatest heartbreaks! It can be quite a roller coaster if we’re not careful. Today, I’d like to share a simple process for keeping your sanity with the more “difficult to get along with” variety of relationships… How Do I Get Peace of Mind in Relationships Tip #1:

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