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Do you love an alcoholic? How can you live with an alcoholic and love them at the same time? Very carefully. It’s true, it is very difficult to live with an alcoholic, but people do it all the time. Alcohol controls the mind and spirit of a person, so in affect as long as the alcoholic is ...
I’ve had some Christian people tell me they think they married the wrong person? More times tha I can keep count. If you think you married the wrong person then who would be the right person? If we dwell on feelings that are negative about our spouse, our mind will play tricks on us. It will tell us how to behave according to those feelings and we will think we married the wrong person. Christian’s are commanded to marry in the Lord. What does that mean? It means that if you married another believe than how can it be wrong?
Did you know that God commands that believers marry in the Lord? If a believe marries a non-believe the marriage could possibly weaken the Christian commitment of the believer. Even so, some Christians marry unbelievers because love has blinded them. Some Christians believe they can change their spouse to be what they want them to be once they are married, but that is not true at all. In fact a person has to be willing to change for themselves, and not for anyone else. Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common?
There are many things that couples can do to save their marriage. Although circumstances for each marriage are different, what I’m going to discuss in this article applies to every marriage. 1. Be Willing To Work on Your Marriage Couples need to be willing to pick up the pieces and work with their spouse. Humble yourselves to each other. So many times couples blame one another for the disarray of the marriage because they are hurting inside. No one wants to feel hurt, pain and suffering. But what happens when we don’t even try to forgive?
Can addicts cure themselves? Absolutely not! If we believe that we are a part of God and He made us in His image, than how can we step outside of this belief and be healed by some other source. Only those people who really do not have faith and trust in God would take such a stance.
Many of you reading this may not know that God designed marriage to work according to the way he created the man and the woman. Each gender has its own marital duties that when practiced appropriately make the marriage thrive. “The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband.” (1 Corinthians 7:3) What are the martial duties that scripture is talking about? Understand that in a Christ-built marriage the husband has responsibilities and the wife has responsibilities, lest the marriage would have no purpose and no direction.
God created us with the desire for sex, and we ought to understand his design that was meant for us in our relationships with others about sex. Christians absolutely need to seek God’s purpose in this area of their lives. God created us male and female and because of that we will be attracted to one another, but we must learn to control our desires because having sex, and even the desire for sex with someone outside of marriage is not God’s plan.
Many of you reading this may have already made the mistake of having romantic attachments and a faulty attitude when it comes to dating. But rest assured all of this can be changed with the right attitude and biblical steps that put you on the right foundation. Whatever your circumstances were in the past, and no matter what the circumstances are today, you can begin to build and maintain a lifestyle of purity in your relationships. Start With a New Heart and Mind (Attitude) To build a new attitude we must first tear down the old attitude and start with a clean slate.
Christian marriages are to be different than the unbeliever’s marriage because a follower of Christ becomes sanctified (set apart) through the word for God’s purpose. (John 17:17) When a Christian obediently follows the principles of Christ it has a purifying affect on the heart and mind. Are you letting the word of God cleanse you and your marriage? This is how a Christian husband should love his wife?
How will you know if you are really in love or if it is just infatuation? Love is an action and infatuation is a feeling. Love, unlike infatuation and lust take commitment and devotion to a person. This is because when we truly love someone it takes self-sacrificing behaviors and attitude. When you love someone you wouldn’t do anything to hurt him or her. If you’re not married you wouldn’t try to incite passion within her and she would not flirt with and excite him. These actions come from the feelings that infatuation creates.
Your body can heal itself from sickness and disease if you give it a chance to do so. Most disease is caused from how we live our life. Eating the wrong foods, ingesting too many medications and drugs, drinking too much alcohol, living sedentary lives, breathing in bad air from the workplace, and living a stressful lifestyle all contribute to poor health. It is imperative that we become knowledgeable about nutrition and know which foods help to prevent disease and which foods bring disease on.
Are you a controlling wife? Do you take your husband for granted? Most women don’t realize it but they abuse their husbands daily just by their actions. Many women of today feel that marriage revolves solely around them and their husband’s are supposed to give them everything their heart ...
As Christian parents what is our duty to our children? How can we prepare our children for a lifelong marriage? Did you know that 95% of children grow up and get married and have families but no one ever teaches them a thing about how to value and cherish marriage and family! They manage their marriage the same way everyone else does, without much regard to its Creator. Half of marriages end in divorce and many of those marriages are supposedly Christian based marriages. We are literally throwing our children out into the lion’s den without any proper Christian values and morals!
Is Chocolate really good for you? I think this is one of the biggest health food hoaxes out there. First of all we shouldn’t confuse chocolate with cocoa. Pure cocoa is what’s good for you, not chocolate. Chocolate is a sweet, tasty concoction that is made from the cocoa bean. The amount of ...
Is the sun really bad for you? In a nutshell, if you abuse it, it is bad for you, but what isn’t bad for you when you abuse it? The truth is in moderation the sun “on your skin” is VERY good for your health. Even fair skinned individuals can bask in the sun in moderate doses. There is too much media scare hype about how the sun causes skin cancer. Many things cause cancer when you abuse them. We Need The Sun Absorbed Into Our Skin We need the sun absorbed into our skin pores because that is how we receive real Vitamin D.
It is a fact that were not getting any younger even though I believe we can look younger than our age. It is a fact that what we put into our body speeds up or slows down the aging process. It is also a fact that the lack of exercise puts on the weight and makes us feel blah. Our lifestyle has a ...
Does the ‘It Works’ Beauty products really work? Because the ‘It Works’ beauty products are made from only natural ingredients, asking if they really work is like asking if eating a healthy diet really works? Anytime we take care of our body and mind with natural foods and herbs we’re ultimately ...
Do you often feel smothered in your marriage? Do you feel that your spouse is always watching what you are doing? Does your spouse nag, complain and demand things of you and it’s getting out of hand? Then this article is for you. It is not usually just one issue that leads up to divorce, ...
The principles in this article can be used for the cheating spouse as well as for the loved one of an unfaithful spouse. People cheat because they lack the spiritual Christ in their life. Unfaithfulness has to do with still living for self instead of for our Creator. Put these principles to work in your personal and married life. God gives us life and shows us how to lead a pleasing life for Him. Respect Your Spouse
This article is written for Christian marriages. God established marriage and God designed marriage and marriage was created for God’s purpose. We ought to manage our marriage His way, don’t you think? A Christian Marriage Must Have God at the Forefront! If you want to have a happy marriage then don’t treat your marriage like everyone else does. Love in society is not the same kind of love that Jesus taught! If a husband doesn’t love his wife properly, in the ways taught by Christ, she in turn will not love (submit to) her husband.
So what’s the problem with Christian marriage today? The problem is men and women have not been taught in their church to partake in their God-given roles and duties in the ways of the Lord and consequently complete chaos and confusion has ensued. Society has turned marriage and love upside down! Christian roles for marriage have become perverted. True or false? Immoral Christian culture has taken hold of Christian society. True or false? Feminism has turned a wife’s responsibility in marriage upside down. True or false?
Do you know what roles and duties God has assigned you in your marriage? Why do you think God gave certain roles to the wife and certain roles to the husband? God created for husband and wife to share in the same goals but have different roles. Together they compliment one another and work together in harmony. To be able to define the role of husbands in marriage, we must also define the role of wives in marriage. God equips men and women for various tasks, but all of these tasks should lead to the same goal—honoring God. We honor God by following His commands for marriage.
I use the word “improper” because I hate using the word “bad”. Bad sounds evil or terrible, and some habits just aren’t that bad; they might be annoying but they are not bad. What improper habits do you have? We all have improper habits that we exhibit occasionally, ...
Is red wine really good for you? Red wine is made from red grapes. Red grapes are powerful nutritional boosters and are loaded with antioxidants that slow down the aging process when eaten with other antioxidant type foods and on a consistent basis. But is wine created from grapes good for you. ...
Resentment is a very powerful emotion. In fact, anyone who harbors this terrible emotion shouldn’t be trying to make rational decisions for themselves or their marriage. I would even venture to say that most divorces are because of unmet and unfulfilled emotions, which is what this emotion is!! ...
How can couples meet each other’s emotional needs better? How can couples prevent emotional infidelities from happening in their marriage? When two people become bonded through marriage they depend on one another for their emotional needs getting met. But what happens later on down the road? Let’s take a look. * Lack of Intimacy – Intimacy becomes lost because couples have stopped having intimate conversations and alone time with one another. Understand that intimacy and sex is not the same thing. Sex can be intimate, but you can also be intimate without having sex.
A healthy marriage is made up of compassion, submission, respect and forgiveness. Did you notice that I didn’t even use the word “love”? That’s because all of the above constitutes love. When you demonstrate these character traits with others you are essentially turning these words into loving ...
What is more important? Should a Christian woman go to college to become a career woman or should she learn all she can about how to be a good helpmeet to her husband and stay happily married for life? I see much confusion and conditioning in the mainstream Christian culture of today. When career and money become more important than commitment and love many Christian people are being deceived. You may be wondering how Christians are being deceived? Sometimes Christians are deceived without ever knowing it because they have already fallen into a worldly deception, whatever it might be.
When we look at both of these styles of “getting to know people” and “having friendships” at face value, it appears they are the same. But Godly courtship is far superior to dating because it is scripturally sound and does not hurt people. Dating is a worldly, cultural way to meet people for the purpose of having sex. Sex is a prerequisite of dating. Both parties have within their perception and attitude that having sex during the dating process is what is expected of them. Parents, if your teenage daughter is dating she is most likely also having sex.
Sex between two married people is a very beautiful aspect of marriage. God has blessed us with the ability to give and receive physical pleasure with the one we are married to. But when we give ourselves to another before marriage, sex becomes something else altogether. 1) Lust and Fornication Are Sins Why do you think God made fornication a sin? I mean, on the outside it seems like a lot of fun to have sex and to flirt with feelings of lust. No one is really hurting anyone, right? Wrong! Sex before marriage always, always hurts someone, and for many reasons which we will get into.
As Christians we are not only accountable to our spouse but to God first and foremost. Christ should be the driving force in the Christ follower’s life. If this one important facet is written upon a woman’s heart, mind and soul, she will not have a problem adhering to her obligations as a Christian wife. And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an helpmeet for him. Genesis 2:18 Scripture shows a woman how to be a good helpmeet to her husband.
I’m going to tell you about a healing and refining gel that reduces the appearance of skin dimples and varicose veins? Skin dimples are fat cells under the skin. Cellulite multiplies and worsens when we eat a poor diet and don’t exercise. Even skinny people with high energy levels can have skin ...
Some of us will never learn how to communicate our thoughts and feelings properly. Instead we go on a rampage and say things we mostly don’t mean to say, but say them anyway because we’re angry, tired, confused, frightened, stressed, resentful, or? We are literally allowing our ...
Most spouses and loved ones of addicts, that have not helped themselves, do feel resentment and anger. They feel resentful for taking care of the alcoholic. They feel resentful for taking the brunt of the abusive behaviors that come with addiction. They feel resentful because they are spending their days worrying about the alcoholic. Understand that you are not alone. When you learn to detach with love it will release a huge burden from you spiritually and emotionally. 1.
A few days ago a Christian woman told me that she was tricked into marrying her husband. He portrayed himself as a Christian to her during the dating period. Do you know why this happens? It happens because she did not really get to know him on the inside. He talked a good talk and impressed her with false words and once they were married he became a different person to her. Dating teaches us to only see and hear what we want to see and hear and nothing else. Have you ever watched the show called “keeping Up Appearances”?
What I am about to tell you is NOT a new concept, although you will not get this kind of advice very often when dealing with a cheating spouse because most people don’t think adultery is fixable. But I am here to tell you that you can heal from the affects of adultery and be a better spouse for it. If you are suspicious of your spouse then your marriage is already in trouble. Why wait to find out if they are actually cheating? Why not do something about your marriage while you can? Stop Being Suspicious and Fix Your Marriage
How Husbands Disrespect Their Wives Husbands who stare at, or flirt with other women may not think they are being disrespectful, but it is very hurtful to their wives. The bible talks about this in detail about how a man is to love his wife. “Husbands, love your wives just as Christ loves the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)
Most young women “give in” to their boyfriend’s sexual advances because of peer pressure and fear they will leave the relationship if they don’t give in and have sex. This is precisely why young people today should NOT ALLOW their emotions to lead the relationship. Let me ask you this. If you become emotionally attached and they leave you anyway, how are you going to feel then? Isn’t it better to not become too attached to someone, at least until there is a commitment? Sex between two people is not needed for a commitment to marriage and anyone who says differently is deceiving you.
Many of the nineteenth Century period books and masterpiece theatre movie classics give Christian people valuable moral lessons in how to conduct relationships with the opposite sex. They show many examples of what happens when we give our heart to another without any real commitment and also what happens when we rush into marriage unprepared. When we rush something that is not ready to be rushed it establishes the wrong foundation. Getting married for the wrong reasons is one good example of this.
Is your spouse cheating? Sadly and amazingly enough this sort of behavior is going on in Christian marriages too! What can people do when they realize that their spouse has been unfaithful? First of all understand that this problem is not about “how you feel”. Your feelings are ok to have but don’t base your actions on those feelings. The pandemic of adultery in marriage today is all about the cheater—they are mislead into believing that they can defraud and disrespect another person’s physical space while at the same time trespassing against the marriage bed.
To help the alcoholic you love you first must help yourself. You will never be able to help the alcoholic until you help yourself. Alcohol addiction tends to involve everyone the alcoholic is in contact with on some kind of level. Those who are in the path of the alcoholic, usually a spouse, desperately need to know how to emotionally detach from the abuse of the alcoholic. In some cases the mental, emotionally and even physical abuse is so bad that couples must separate. If the alcoholic begins to get mouthy—calling you names and putting you down, you must leave the room or the house.
Stop everything you’re doing and write down these principled ways for reconnecting and restoring the broken bonds with your spouse. Apply each of these principles every day until you have completed them all. Don’t worry about what your spouse will say or do, just do these steps for yourself and for God. Forgive Your Spouse Forgiveness is the greatest principle ever created. Instead of being vengeful, spiteful, resentful, and unforgiving, Christ teaches us to forgive.
Anger is a deep-seated emotion that can remain bottled up within a person for years, and maybe forever. Loving someone who has anger problems is often difficult to do. Living with an angry person is like an emotional roller coaster ride because you never know when they might explode. Does it seem like you’re always walking on eggshells? Are you afraid to speak up because you might get yelled at and verbally abused, or worse hit? The truth is we all feel anger from time to time and most of us take the needed steps to relieve ourselves of that anger.
How can we stop being abusive with our spouse and be assertive instead? It’s easy once we learn a few simple communication techniques. When we are frustrated, disappointed, stressed, or angry what happens? We use our emotions in negative ways with our spouse. This causes a chain reaction and they become abusive back. But this kind of interaction between married couples does not resolve anything, but only makes things worse! The truth is we can control our emotions and the way we express ourselves—we really can!
Pornography addiction is playing with fire. If your marriage means anything to you at all then you are playing with fire every time you think about or view porn. Even if you are single it will transform your personality into something that was not meant for you to be. It is not beneficial for ...
There is so much said about good fats and bad fats. They talk about saturated fat, unsaturated fat, monosaturated fat, polyunsaturated fat, and trans fat, and how all of these fats affect cholesterol levels in our body. Doesn’t it get overwhelming? Let me make it simple for you. Any oil that ...
Fat that is stored inside the body shows up on the outside in the form of cellulite. Fat can be eliminated forever through the eating of natural, wholesome foods, body toning, and detoxification. But you already knew that, right? Losing fat and the appearance of cellulite is something that ...
When we detoxify our body through cleansing, fasting, green drinks, juicing and herbs we are ultimately getting rid of toxic agents and impurities in our body that cause sickness and disease. Toxins drain through the channels of the lymphatic system and into the kidneys, liver, and the colon ...
If you knew there was a shark swimming next to you in the ocean, what would you do? Most people will hightail it out of the water as fast as they can back to the shore. As a matter of fact no one in their right mind is going to let a shark devour them alive! On the same token we can let food be ...
It’s hard to pass up treats made with sugar sometimes, but I know that I have to, or I will get “sugar overload syndrome”. Eating too many sugary laden products made with refined flour literally make me sick, emotionally and well as physically. Hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) is a symptom of ...