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The origin of anger is part of an ancient emotional response to threatening input from the environment. We have always needed anger, mired in fear, as a mechanism for increasing adrenaline in order to solicit a “fight or flight” response when appropriate.
The human mind is a very creative force and throughout history we have used this propensity to perceive new ideas, concepts and perspectives, as a means for survival by enhancing the quality and longevity of life. This ability to make creative decisions in life is truly a great gift that has brought humanity a long way in a relatively short period of time.
The human mind is a very creative force and throughout history, this ability to conceive new perspectives and concepts allowed us to come a long way in a relatively short period of time. Learning to devise better and more efficient ways of utilizing resources, along with a concept of future existence, gave us the ability to improve the quality and longevity of life by planning ahead; which gave us even more time to conceptualize and explore our environment.
We all pick up emotional burdens of varying weights and sizes while growing through life. Many eventually fall by the wayside, some we learn to live with, while others are more like a thorn in one’s heart, or worse, causing enough pain and anguish to impact the quality of life. It is always worthwhile to attempt minimizing or eliminating such emotional impediments to living a happier life, though for many people the need to do so is vital to being able to comfortably move forward in life at all.
We all need an emotional harbor; a place where we can relax our sails of tension, frustration and worry. Needs and definitions vary, and many find sufficient peace and release in the presence of family, friends or others therapeutically. This is a good way to stroke the heart, distract the mind and quell the beast, at least for a while. However, many of us don’t have the option or access to such healing distractions. And for those who do, such interactions may not always be accessible when needed or capable of producing the desired results.
The human mind is a creative force of nature, and throughout history our propensity for imagining new perspectives and concepts allowed humankind to come a long way in a relatively short period of time. By being able to think outside of the box and devise better and more efficient ways of utilizing resources, coupled with a concept of future existence, we gained the foresight and ability to improve the quality and longevity of life by planning ahead; giving us all the more free time to conceptualize and explore our environment.
If during a variety of interactions the responses from others seem to be more negative than the messages you intended to convey, or if you sometimes feel others just don’t like you for some reason, perhaps it's time to consider the source. Is it possible your messages and actions are not being accurately received because of your delivery? Is there perhaps something in your emotional background adding a more debasing lean to your perceptions of how others see you, and if so, might you be reacting toward them in line with these false perceptions?
The Gift Why wait until you are at death's door before realizing what a precious and wonderful gift life really is? Why not learn to appreciate life more now, while you still have the chance, rather than waiting until it is too late to be able to do anything about it? The ability to enjoy life is a product of the mind and a gift of the heart; think of ways to put life into perspective and your heart will reward you with greater inner enrichment and a more gratifying life.r
"Some things simply are. There are no explanations, no logic, simply a reality that is many times beyond control. Sometimes, we must find our own inner strength, our own place from which to draw the courage and fortitude necessary to allow us to live and move beyond that which is painful. Other times, we simply need to find another vantage point from which to see hidden beauty, potential opportunities or perhaps a chance to reach outside of ourselves and help someone less fortunate, thus feeding your heart and distracting bad energy."
A Difference of Energies Happiness is an ecstatic state of mind, and natural byproduct of positive experiences and attitudes, with the effects on your mind, body and life varying in impact and duration. Positive experiences are enjoyable on their own accord and are further enhanced by the release of endorphins and other feel-good chemicals. Afterwards, you can still enjoy positive memories and take heart in good experiences, but the effects of any positive physiological contributions are relatively short lived.
What would you do differently today if you knew you were going to die tomorrow? Would you make sure your family and friends knew you loved them? Would you forgive and forget a past transgression that time has made insignificant? Would you call an old friend you haven't seen or talked to for far too long? Would you spend some quality time with your children or parents and share, without judgment, the true essence of your hearts? Would you laugh more and revel in the joy of feeling happy? Would you allow yourself to see life without the qualifiers of stress and worry?
While sitting on a sandy beach one bright and warm fall dayr I listen to the ancient sounds that emanate my way. A myriad of seabirds cry while searching for a feast, A wind blows soft across my ears while heading straight due east. Before me countless sun drops dance upon a watery stage, Like spirits moving out of time, a vision without age. I dig my toes into the sand, this substrate of the sear A gift of water, life and time as far as eye can see. Some clouds hang heavy in the south, their bellies full of rain, They lumber slow across the sky and move as if in pain.r
No heart is so carved in stone it is forever inflex-ible, so lost in darkness it is incapable of seeing light, or so damaged it will never again flourish, but a heart cannot change or improve independent of the mind. One must be consciously open to new and different perspectives, ideas and approaches, and be willing to accept them as worthwhile.r
Before walking your truest path to inner peace and happiness you must first discover and be true to yourself. The efforts of seeking approval and connections with others through submission and imitation, though flattering, will neither connect you very deeply with them nor allow you to understand, trust and grow confident in yourself.r
One of the best ways to begin the process of being truer to yourself is to stop acting or “per-forming” with a primary impetus being to appease others. Granted, there are times and places when it is necessary to act within certain parameters, such as in a work environment.
Everyone has a different opinion about what type of person you are, or what you should accomplish in life. Some people are going to fear or even hate you even though you’ve given them no reason. It may be difficult to accept at times, but you cannot control the thoughts and actions of others.r
Practicing forgiveness is a two tiered path to inner peace that can diminish or eliminate emotional drains that no longer have a place in your life. One level lies in the ability to completely forgive others, which allows you to move beyond lingering negative emotions that may still be clouding your vision of them or of your relationship with them. Granted, many transgressions are simply unforgivable, but I am referring to those frustrating wrongs and lesser injustices that you may still carry with you without closure, and as such may still be unnecessarily taxing you emotionally.
The Mindset Train There are times when our thoughts and actions do not necessarily fall in line with what would be to our greatest advantage in life. Instead of being proactive toward living a better, more fulfilling life, many of us go through times when we inadvertently limit our actions, growth and successes. There are likely many reasons why any of us might carry unproductive mindsets and, knowingly or not, sabotage our own ends, including simply a lack of motivation or uncertainty of direction.r
When we are afraid of failing at something, we tend to think or obsess about it, which is normal, particularly just in advance of whatever it is we may be attempting to do. Unfortunately, this latent fear many times causes us to imagine various scenarios of failure, and not without repercussions.