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By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Are there ways to ensure that your marriage will be a successful marriage? The answer is of course, no. Life, love, and marriage do not come with absolute guarantees. However, there are ways to greatly increase your odds of having a successful marriage.
Marriage Is Alive And Well On Valentine’s Day* By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #3 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a lasting love.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We live in a world of mixed messages. Our world is neither black nor white. The world we live in is full of powerful emotions. And the truth is, the world we live in is complicated – so very complicated. And for those of us who have lived in this world for a long time – well, everyday poses new challenges to our worldviews – to our “traditions.” At this stage of life, being open-minded is a virtue. On the other hand, being open-minded at this stage of life is difficult – it is complicated.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As we have said for many years, “Most marriages and relationships are worth saving and can be saved, but not all!” Here’s what we mean. In the case of abuse – sexual, physical, mental – many failing marriages and relationships are simply not worth saving. In fact, to attempt to save them puts one or both partners in the relationship at risk for further abuse.
Let’s face it, long time relationships sometimes end. And the simple truth is there isn’t always a compelling reason or reasons why. The separation of Al and Tipper Gore after 40 years of marriage is a good illustration of the “why” question – why did their love affair end after all these years?
Real Love Is Colorblind By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The romantic 1955 movie, Love is a Many Splendored Thing, tells the story of an American reporter who falls in love with a Eurasian doctor. And as you might have guessed, they encounter prejudice from both of their families. Such prejudice was, unfortunately, all too common in 1955. It is all too common in 2011.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Frankly, if we hear yet one more person talk about infidelity in a relationship as if it were okay, not a big deal, and forgivable, we are going to get angry! We have studied the best marriages for nearly 28 years and we know this – the best marriages would never engage in unfaithfulness – they would never engage in infidelity.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Make no mistake about it – great marriages require unencumbered time! You have read our musings about the fundamental predisposition of every human being to have time alone – to have time only to their private thoughts.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Who says celebrity marriages don’t last? We guess you might say, “They’d be wrong!”
By America's #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Today is a day to remember! Our publisher officially released our multiple award-winning book in paperback! Our labor of love – our heart’s work for the past 26+ years – has come to fruition in a format that will reach even more people.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. All too often in life, people fall in love blindly. They refuse to make note of how the actions of another person define them. They pay too much attention to words and way too little to actions. Here is an undeniable truth about people – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It is said that some 200 million stems of roses will be sold in the USA on Valentine's Day 2011. Imagine that! That’s a lot of expressions of love don’t you think! We Americans love Valentine’s Day. We relish the opportunity to express our love to the one we love, and we do it through multiple venues.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our current European trip is part of our continuing search for great marriages around the world. This time our travels have brought us to the tiny principality of Andorra.
The Look of Love in Brazil By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In Middle America, marriage is in trouble! So say W. Bradford Wilcox of the National Marriage Project at the University of Virginia and Elizabeth Marquardt of the Center for Marriage and Families Institute for American Values in New York City.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Valentine’s Day is just around the corner. Commit to the seven core values of successful love and marriage and you can make your Valentine’s Day the best ever.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our many travels around the world conducting our marriage research, we are often ask this question – “Does Marriage Improve With Age?” The answer is, YES! Here’s why.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our ongoing search for the world’s best marriages took us to Gibraltar today, or as some refer to it – the Rock of Gibraltar. Doing interviews with happily married couples there seemed like a nice transitional thing to do since we are on our way to North Africa to interview Muslim couples for the first time in our many travels around the world. We will land in Morocco on Thursday.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Increasingly, there are folks who post lots of vacuous stuff on the Internet who purport to be experts. They imply through their postings that they are all-knowing – that they have actually written widely about their topic, done the research to support their pronouncements, and have the requisite credentials to be taken seriously. Some – for mysterious reasons – even highlight the fact that they are “former” professionals in this or that field.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Understanding Antarctica and the challenges faced by anyone attempting to live and work there explains the adventuresome nature of the couples we interviewed. Antarctica has the coldest, driest, windiest, and harshest climate on Earth. Living there, even for short periods of time, is not for the faint of heart.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We will be honest with you up front -- we are huge fans of Country music! Like a lot of Country music fans these days, we are impressed with Country superstar couple, Blake Shelton and Miranda Lambert. To say they are awesome entertainers is an understatement! And from all reports we’ve seen and their public interactions with each other, their marriage is pretty awesome as well.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. While we normally write positive stories about successful marriage, a recent interview caused us to alter course, albeit, temporarily. A few weeks ago we interviewed a woman who had recently gotten divorced. Her story was so emotional and impactful that it had to be told. The pain and suffering caused by the dissolution of an abusive marriage is unfortunately all too common.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. At the end of every interview we conduct with happily and successfully married couples we ask the most powerful question of our interview protocol – “Can you imagine life without your spouse?” The question always draws tears to the eyes of the couple we are interviewing. We have asked them a question they have repressed. It is a question no loving couple wants to think about. The answer is, however, nearly always the same – “No!”
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Recently, we discovered a new singing group called Pink Martini. Our daughter put us on to this group several weeks ago so we downloaded them from iTunes. We have been grooving to their sounds ever since! They are utterly delightful and we highly recommend them to you as we have to many others. They reside in Portland, Oregon.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are delighted this week to be in the romantic capitol of the world—Paris, France! We are here on another leg of our endless search for great marriages around the world. First, a few facts about love and marriage in France that you might want to know. In 2012, the French average age for marriage of woman is about 28 and for men it is about 30. The average birth of children to French woman occurs a little under the age of 30.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. My wife and I had a wonderful trip to the Los Angeles area last week. We enjoyed the sun and fun – even rented a convertible. The ocean off Malibu Beach and Santa Monica was grand and glorious – resplendent in sunshine. We got married on Santa Monica Boulevard 44 years ago and it was fun for this Missouri boy and his California bride to return to the place that started us on our amazing journey of love and marriage more than four decades ago.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The “heart of the matter” is this – successful marriages around the world are bound together by their commonalities – certainly not by their differences. Learn the lessons, emulate them, practice them, take them to heart, and engage in the simple acts that make great marriage work every day. For more than 26 years, we have traveled the world in search of the best marriages. Our travels have taken us to five of the world’s seven continents and to nearly 40 countries.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We fell in love in Canada today. You can, of course, read that two ways. Those of you who have followed our writings and musings about love and successful marriage know that we fell in love with each other some 47 years ago. And it is true that we fall in love all over again each day of our lives together. But today, we fell in love with Canada!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. One of the many important caveats about marriage is this – children change the dynamics of a marriage. Make no mistake about that.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In our interviews around the world over the past 30+ years we have come to appreciate the wonderful advice we have received from happily and successfully married couples. At the top of the advice list from these couples is this simple notion – great marriages require unencumbered time and time to be alone!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here we sit gazing at the beautiful turquoise blue ocean from our perch on the balcony of our room at the Marriott Casa Magna in Cancun, Quintana Roo, Mexico. We are conducting interviews of successfully married couples in Mexico as we continue our travels around the world searching for the best marriages. Today we had the pleasure of interviewing Isabel and Luis, two lovebirds who have been married for 33 years.
The Purpose of Marriage: A Response to the Pew Research Center By Charles D. Schmitz, Ph.D. Elizabeth A.
There’s No Place Like Home For The Holidays By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Every once in awhile you meet extraordinary people! We had that great pleasure recently in Long Beach, California. Our lives will never be the same! We looked in the faces of love and saw an extraordinary marriage! We have seen this look before, but this one was very special!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. As our many readers know, we have been studying successful marriage and relationships for nearly three decades. And frankly, one of the most important questions we get asked is, How will I know if this is true love? The answer is simpler than you think. In the end, there are Seven Tests of True Love.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The holiday season is a time of celebration. It is a time to be with family and friends. It is a time to be with the one you love. The holiday season is not a time for stress!
Learning To Love And Laugh By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. You can learn a lot about love from a dog. Over the years, we have learned much about the essentials of a loving relationship by observing our dogs. We are proud to tell you that our Louie is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, intelligent, handsome, and a wonderful friend and companion. Frankly, we love him like a child. And the good news is, he loves us right back! And he loves us unconditionally!
Love and Marriage in Canada By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz "the marriage doctors" and Authors of the Book Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage (Available at Amazon.com) . We fell in love in Canada today. You can, of course, read that two ways.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The on-line scams are numerous and recurring. Most of them cost you money. And worse! Just today, someone co-opted a friend of ours by using a fake email address similar to his and sending it to a zillion people asking them to wire him money. According to the fake message, he “had lost his bag with his money, his credit cards, and his passport” in England. Nothing could be further from the truth.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Did you ever wonder why some people find the perfect person to marry, do so, and enjoy a love affair that lasts a lifetime? On the other hand, some marry a person that is wrong for them now, wrong for them tomorrow, and wrong for them for a lifetime? What’s the difference? Why do some succeed at love and marriage where others fail?
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Our heartfelt congratulations to Ann and John Betar of Fairfield, Connecticut on the occasion of their 81st Wedding Anniversary! Worldwide Marriage Encounter has verified that the Betar’s are the longest married couple in America. When they took their vows “Until death do us part,” they meant it!! There are many articles about their <a href="http://www.simplethingsmatter.com/articles/Successful_Marriage.htmlr
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Following the death of a spouse or the loss of a spouse through divorce, many individuals are “thrown on the street again” when it comes to finding love. And let’s face it; finding love again can be very, very challenging.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. While we acknowledge that some one-in-five new relationships in the USA currently begin on the Internet through on-line dating services, we also note that there are risks associated with utilizing these services. Before you “jump-in” to on-line dating be aware of the risks involved.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. "Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances." (The Constitution of the United States of America)
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have found in our 30+ years of research on successful marriage around the world that being married has huge economic advantages. Doubters have challenged us to “prove it!” The latest proof is in the just released special report by the Heritage Foundation entitled, Marriage: America’s Greatest Weapon Against Child Poverty.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “You have to walk carefully in the beginning of love; the running across fields into your lover's arms can only come later when you're sure they won't laugh if you trip.” This marvelous quote by Jonathan Carroll is from Outside the Dog Museum.