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Finding the right lifelong partner can be one of the smartest moves a man or a woman can make. After a lengthy review of the current research, as well as the findings from our own 34 years of research on marriage, here are the five top ways a good marriage can enhance your life:
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts “Oh, there’s no place like home for the holidays,rn‘Cause no matter how far away you roam, When you pine for the sunshine of a friendly gaze, For the holidays, you can’t beat home, sweet home.” This very popular song's lyricist, Al Stillman, was born in New York and was a writer for Radio City Music Hall for 40 years.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Recently, we reviewed some research that addressed the issue of how to make the “romance” of a marriage last.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Words Matter! What you say to the one you love is important! Negative and hurtful statements can have the power to cut through the very fabric of the bond between two people in love. Words can damage and potentially destroy the foundation of your relationship. Make no mistake about that.
Finding The Right Person To Marry By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Over the past 32 years, we have studied successful marriage in the United States and around the world. In our just-released book entitled How to Marry the Right Guy
Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage Makes a GREAT Wedding or Anniversary Giftr Also available at Amazon.com and your local bookstore Let’s get serious about love! Truth is, it’s time to quit pretending that love is so hard to understand.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We know how you feel! Starting over is really difficult when it comes to love and marriage. Getting a divorce, breaking up, or losing the one you love due to their death can be overwhelmingly painful. The simple truth is this – you entered into your loving relationship with another person expecting it to last forever.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. WENN News reported that Madonna gave one piece of advice to the couple who got engaged during her recent Amsterdam concert. Madonna’s advice was, “ Never go to bed angry.” She just gave the couple the best advice possible. This is the same advice we have heard from thousands of successfully married couples who have lived on all seven continents of the world.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an old saying that many attribute to a Chinese proverb that goes like this – “May you live in interesting times.” To say that is an understatement of our world today is, well . . . an understatement! We are experiencing unprecedented economic times in the USA today. Oh, sure, we have experienced higher unemployment rates before. There is no doubt that the Great Depression of the 1920’s and ‘30’s in our country was a negative economic experience far greater than what we are experiencing today, make no mistake about that.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here’s the rub – being IN love is easy. It expresses an emotion common to those relationships that have transcended the millennia. Being in love is central to the best marriages – to the best relationships between two people. But being in love is NOT enough!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Anyone who gets married and doesn’t understand that their life will be altered in an unalterable ways, henceforth, doesn’t know love – doesn’t understand love. Love and marriage changes everything. Love and marriage changes everything about your love and YOUR life. If you don’t understand the ramifications, don’t get married. If you want a co-author for your life – get married!
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By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Let’s face it – the economy of the USA is in turmoil. And the truth is, the unemployment rate is approaching 10%, and will probably exceed that rate in the coming months. The times are tough in America today. Not good news, for sure. Tough times put a strain on marriages; there is no doubt about that. So what does all this mean for marriage in the USA? Our review of the evidence suggests that the tough economic times we face may be, in reality, a positive development when it comes to marriage.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Dear Friends: Tomorrow, we celebrate our 45th Wedding Anniversary! We got married at the Lutheran Church of the Master on Santa Monica Boulevard in Santa Monica, California in 1966. It is amazing to realize that so many years have passed so quickly! But we will say this to you -- we were lucky to find the love of our life so many years ago. Frankly, we cannot imagine life without each otherrnr
Sex, Sex, Sex! By Charles D. Schmitz, Ph.D. Elizabeth A.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. There is an essential character element in love and marriage. People who say they love each other and then lie on a regular basis or cheat on their spouse aren't really in love. Oh, many think they are, but they really are not. People who love each other exhibit character when it comes to their marriage or relationship.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Here is an undeniable truth about life – actions speak louder than words! We know, you’ve heard this all before! But the truth is, you can, and must, judge a man by his actions and not by his words! Words are cheap. Actions mean everything! The truth is always there for all to see when you observe the way people act and respond, rarely by what they say. This truth is self-evident – good men practice what they preach.
What Makes Love and Relationships Last? By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz "the marriage doctors" and Authors of the Book Golden Anniversaries: The Seven Secrets of Successful Marriage (Available at Amazon.com) . We have been saying for years and our 25 years of marriage research proves it – having a successful loving relationship is simple to understand! Yes, simple!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. For the past several weeks we have been pouring over as much data as we can get our hands on to answer a question we are often asked – “How is the current Recession affecting marriage in the USA?” The answer is complicated. Here’s what we do know. Historically, the divorce rate does go up during a recession. But interestingly enough, according to U.S.
Negativism can easily creep into even the best relationships causing a pattern of negative actions and thoughts to overpower the marriage. The question often asked by couples is “How you can build positive interactions with each other on a daily basis so negativism doesn’t take hold of our relationship?”
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We just returned from the trip of our lifetime together – all 47 years of it. We spent ten days on the continent of Antarctica. Oh, my, what a wonderful trip it was! As human beings, we will never be the same!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. In the last several years a great deal has been reported about the purpose of marriage, lamenting the fact that Americans no longer consider children among the most important purposes of marriage.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Strengthen Your Marriage Tip #7 Happy marriages all require simple, practical acts. Simple gestures. Simple conversations. Success in love and marriage depends upon an accumulation of having done the simple things to build the foundation for a lasting love.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts A parent’s love is with you everywhere. Every time you are far from home you are never alone. Your parents are always with you. They think about you. They worry about you. They always love you. They love you no matter what. Truth is, most parents have unconditional love for their children – no matter the age of the parents or the children. Charley’s Dad, rest his soul, died nearly three years ago when he was 88 years old.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Like us, we are sure many of you have been following the on-going saga surrounding the so-called “reality” show, Jon & Kate Plus Eight. Well, it seems like Jon and Kate are going to go their separate ways – divorce seems eminent. Ah, but apparently, the show must go on in spite of their impending divorce. Where to begin! As you know, we have been studying successful love, marriage, and relationships for over 25 years.
Successful Marriage: The Secrets Revealed By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. When we take our marriage vows – “until death do us part” – we never imagine that some day it will all come to an end. But all marriages and relationships do end, of that you can be sure. So, how do we celebrate life?
Love Is Like Learning To Dance By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth Schmitz "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are often asked, "What is the best definition of Narcissism of which you are aware?" For us, there is a simple answer. It is our strong belief that the Mayo Clinic has posited the best definition and it follows:
b>By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Dogs are amazing animals. As man’s best friend, they show us everyday how to love. We are proud to tell you that our dog, Louie, is truly a Wonder Dog. He is loving, caring, intuitive, intelligent, handsome, and a wonderful friend and companion. Frankly, we love him like a child. And the good news is, he loves us right back! And he loves us unconditionally!
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Lots of people purport to be “love and marriage experts.” The Internet is full of those who claim to be. We, like you, read their pontifications every day. But the truth is, most of those who say they are, ARE NOT! Here’s why.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Even though the media likes to make you think all celebrity marriages end in sensationalized divorce, what the media doesn't tell you is that there are many celebrity couples with great marriages.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Successfully married couples literally trust each other with their lives, their wellbeing, and their sacred honor. The words they use to describe the one they love more often than not include words and expressions like trust, honesty, loyalty, respects me, admires me, always there for me, never lets me down, truthful, and never lies to me. Their trust for each other is about as complete as you can get.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Older adults between the ages of 57 and 85 make sex an important part of their lives! That’s the results of the first comprehensive national survey of the sexual attitudes and behaviors of older adults as reported in the New England Journal of Medicine. And, as you might have guessed, our more than 25 years of research with successfully married couples offered the same conclusions.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The Cinderella Story is a wonderful story. It does, indeed, warm the heart. It certainly inspires. Love is always inspiring! But the truth is, it is an idealized version of falling in love that rarely ever approximates the reality or the truth of what love really means – of what love might mean for a lifetime. When young women hear the Cinderella story, they want to believe that their prince charming will sweep in with the wind. And for sure, every young man wants to find his Cinderella – someone to put the glass slippers on.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that Prenuptial Agreements are a bad idea, period! Just imagine, telling someone that you love him or her, but you don't trust them! To us, this is analogous to having two separate checking accounts in a marriage -- one for him and one for her. In both cases it becomes a case of yours and mine. Or, how about this, “I love you with the following conditions.” Whatever happened to US? We? Love without conditions?
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We have learned lots of interesting and important lessons from the thousands of successfully married couples we have interviewed over the years – of that you can be sure.
Are You Scaring Away Your Chance At Love? By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Several months ago we penned an article entitled, “Great Love Is Best Not Rushed.” Our principle theme was this – in the beginning of a budding love relationship, don’t get in a hurry in your quest for love and companionship. To do so will often result in a failed relationship because one of you will run away before the relationship is cemented if you feel pressured! And that would be too bad.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. When serious issues occur, successfully married couples report a high level of satisfaction with the way they communicate with each other. They attribute their marital success first and foremost to the fact that they have honed their communication skills over time.
A Lifetime of Valentine’s Days By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We are currently on an East Coast swing promoting our new book, Building a Love that Lasts: The Seven Surprising Secrets of Successful Marriage (Jossey-Bass/Wiley, 2010, available wherever books are sold).
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Hard to imagine. People seemingly happily married for 25 years suddenly and surprisingly seek divorce. At 25+ years, divorce is, in the scheme of things, very unusual. Twenty-five years is a very long time for humans! It comprises about a third of the normal human life. So, how does this happen? Or more succinctly, why is Maria Shriver considering filing for divorce from Arnold Schwarzenegger? Well, it’s really not all that complicated.
Love And Marriage In Brazil By Dr. Charles D. Schmitz and Dr. Elizabeth A. Schmitzr "the marriage doctors"
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. The “heart of the matter” is this – successfully married couples report a high level of satisfaction with the way they communicate. They talk about everything and anything with each other—there are “No Sacred Cows.” Great couples attribute their marital success first and foremost to the fact that they have honed their communication skills over time.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. We believe that many folks are afraid of marriage because they read the dire predictions about marriage in the news, they watch way too much television where the focus is, more often than not, on glorifying sex and multiple relationships, and because they hear too many people belittling the value and sanctity of marriage. It’s a shame really because it causes people desperate for love to look for love in all the wrong places.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. Oh, the times, they are a-changing! This refrain is from a very famous Peter, Paul, and Mary song. And the truth is, people are finding love in different ways than they did is year’s past. Online dating is a reality today. According to recent estimates – and we think they are pretty credible – one in eight couples who got married last year met online. Some think the number is closer to one in four. However, we see no evidence that this is the case.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. It is hard to accept by many, but love sometimes ends. Marriages fail. Relationships collapse. The flames of love die out. What started out with so much promise sometimes ends in disaster.
By America’s #1 Love and Marriage Experts. “Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they know each other so well.” (Tommy, age 6)