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The Six “R’s” to Getting your Ex Back

Hello Dr. Dennis: I know there are lots of books out on the ‘net claiming that you can get your ex back. Do any of these books really work? What if your ex has moved on and is dating someone else? I was dumped out of the blue. I knew in my heart that it wouldn’t work out because he is very immature and insecure and he loved to play mind games. That’s not what I really wanted to be dealing with.

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The Girl at Work

Dear Dr. Neder: I have liked a woman at my work for sometime now. We were out with others from work one evening and I admitted to her how I felt after getting a little drunk. She was perfectly sober since she was the designated driver. At the same time, she told me that she was also attracted ...

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Keeping Him Satisfied and Interested

Dear Dr. Neder: I just recently became involved with a fellow six years my senior. He is everything I have ever dreamt of; there is just one problem….Me! I have always avoided the relationship scene because, frankly, I have no idea how to handle a relationship. I didn’t actually date until I was 18 and didn’t have intercourse until my third semester of college. I was sheltered most of my life so school and family was all I really knew. He and I met online and decided to become “partners” for a while.

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Three Years of Tears

Dear Dr. Neder I am hopelessly in love with a girl I met 3 years ago at a concert. She means the world to me! I’d give up the rest of my life to spend one night with her on a more than friend level. She has a Boyfriend but I truly care for her. I've tried to move on to different girls but I always end up talking to her after the end of the last relationship. She knows how I feel because I’ve told her. We’ve kissed and made-out and it was magic. She tells me if anything would happen between her and her boyfriend that she would come to me. I feel second best but I don’t care.

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All About Lying

Hey Doc: About a year ago, I was unemployed, and my girlfriend's mother told her that if I didn't get a job, that she wouldn't allow her to see me anymore. She then called and told me this. Right then and there I made a terrible decision – I lied. I lied telling her that I had just gotten a ...

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Find What Makes You Happy

Hi I recently came across your article on “sabotaging relationships” through an Internet search and I really found it helpful. I’m writing to you because of my current situation. I am 31 years old and have grown up in a very religious community. Everything is judged superficially; family, ...

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Do YOU Have Different Rules For Women?

Here's an interesting questio I was recently asked: are there different rules for women and men when it comes to the entire dating/sex/relationship game, and if so, what standards should women enjoy that men don't? One of the reasons why women pull things like "the crying game" (NOT the movie ...

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Women are Dumb!

Yep! That’s right - women are dumb. Well ok, not all women are dumb but many of you sure do some dumb things when dating or in relationships. I get letters every day that just make me shake my head. I have to wonder whether or not these people really want to be in happy, healthy, fulfilling ...

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Her Gay Friend

Ok Dr., here is the background for this question: -She and I are both in our early 20s.rn-We went to high school together.rn-We didn’t know each other well in high school, but were acquaintances with mutual friends.rn-I started talking to her about two months ago on a whim.rn-She lives far away now but makes frequent trips back here.rn-Keep in mind I have not seen her in person for 3 years -I am NOT LOOKING FOR A RELATIONSHIP, JUST a quick thing.rn-She came back once recently and we didn’t meet up, but she is coming back next month.

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Oral Sex

Hello Doc, I’m sure you've been asked this question before. My girlfriend does not want to perform oral sex on me. Is there a way I can get her to change her mind? I mean, ever since the day she told me, I've been fine with it. I told her I had no problem with it. And she doesn’t ...

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I Need Something That’ll Work – Hurry!

Dear Dr. Neder: I’m a senior in high school and there’s this really cute girl in my psych class. I want to find a way to talk to her or get her to notice me or something but I don’t know how. Most stuff online would say to see her outside of class and just walk up and say something like, "Hey aren’t you in psych class?" but I think that just sounds stupid, awkward, and wouldn’t work at this age. I’m not sure if I really even see her in the halls either.

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Keeping My Boyfriend Sexually Attracted

Dr. Neder: I read one of your articles about how to keep my boyfriend interested in me sexually. You said to try to change things up but honestly I feel like I just want to be myself because if he fell in love with who I am then why should I change just for him to show interest in me again? He ...

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Men and “The Hunt” Explained

I get lots of letters about all sorts of dating, sex and relationship problems every day. It’s interesting that they so often fall into clearly defined categories. One of the most common comes from women that follow various prescribed paths only to find that they prevent or destroy their relationships. The majority of these paths seem to come from what I call “mass-think”. More specifically, these are ideas that; while totally incorrect, continue to be shared as “fact” mostly among women. They are actually, anything BUT fact, but I’m getting ahead of myself.

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It’s the Choices You Make Now

Hi Dr. Neder! I am 18 years old and just about to graduate high school. My girlfriend and I have been together for about 14 months now and I am not sure what to do after high school. My parents are going to provide us with an apartment but should I move in with her? I was reading your 10 ways ...

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What You Bring to the Table

During the very first or second date with a new woman, I like to ask a simple question: “What do you bring to the table?” I love that question! I also love hearing it from someone I just met. Some people take offense to it assuming I should “just know” and “how dare I not know!” That’s ridiculous as you’ll soon learn. The problem comes down to a fundamental issue in dating held over from when your grandparents started dating. Let me explain: Dating in the Time of Polio and Smallpox

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Confused About Playing “Hard to Get”

Hi Doc! A few days ago I asked you about playing hard to get and you told me to read your article on your website "Dumb Games, and the Girls That Play Them". In it you said it’s a terrible idea, but I have experienced that when we get things easily we lose interest. That’s a fact right? So what is your opinion on this? Oh, and how do I keep men’s interest if I don’t play hard to get? Thanks! =================== Hello! No, it's not a fact. It's a nice sound-bite, but nothing more.

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Girlfriend Travels With Ex-Boyfriend

I am in a serious relationship with this girl, and we are seriously contemplating getting engaged in the future. However, we often get stuck on one issue: her ex-boyfriends. She keeps in touch with several. She has always been very honest with me about them, but it is obvious that she is very ...

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When The Rules Change

I’ve been seeing this girl for 3 weeks now. We recently bumped into each other at a get together and were childhood sweethearts - big crushes on each other! Just a few days ago we where at a bar and her roommate introduced her to a friend and he instantly started hitting on her, right in front ...

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My Girlfriend is a Liar!

It started as white lies at first about small things then on to more serious things. She is not a very good liar and exposes herself with inconsistent stories and I’m just about fed up. For instance, she was talking to a few guys before me, and lies about them not calling her. There are a more ...

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Can This Marriage Be Saved?

Dear Doctor, I am 26 years old woman, married for about 3 years. I am a positive person with self-esteem and confidence in the future. I have a great CV with high education and experience. However it is not easy to find good income work in the country I live in where most good positions rely ...

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Talk is Cheap – Learn to Do It Right!

Dear Dr. Neder, I saw your articles on the Internet and was hoping that you would give me some advice. My ex-boyfriend broke up with me almost five months ago. He and I were friends for a few years before we dated, and we dated for about 11 months. What bothered him most (as far as he would ...

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A Matter Of Trust

Doc: I have been seeing this woman on and off for over 1 year, we have only been seeing each other seriously since the beginning of May. We have had difficulties with trust from both ends in the past, but things have improved dramatically over the past few months. 99% of the time I trust her ...

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Approach Without Nervousness

Dear Dr. Neder: How do I approach this girl again without acting nervous? There's this really beautiful girl that I like at school (college) one day when I was in the library I noticed her looking at me so I looked at her and we stared at each other for a pretty long time (maybe 5 seconds, ...

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Me, Her and the Ex

Hi Doc, I've liked this girl for between 3-4 months. Initially when I got to know her, she was really nice and we were really close. We used to message and talk almost every day. For example, there was once when she went overseas and I told her I would miss her. She said “awww…” and that I would probably be too occupied to miss her. She also said she would catch up with me when she came back and guess what? She did. However, this lasted only for a month. We were not as close anymore. She kept her limits with me.

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Which is Best – Same or Different?

Hey Doc: I have a question which might sound a bit unusual but; do relationships work best between people who are different or people who are similar?n============= Hello! Actually, as with so many things, it depends! Obviously, it's a good idea to have some things in common such as hobbies, ...

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Do You Think She Likes Me?

Hi there, I'm 18 years old and I can't seem to get any friendly advice from anyone about this girl I like so maybe you can help me out! I met a girl over at the local community college this past week, and I can already tell that I'm developing a major crush on her! She is absolutely beautiful! ...

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Going Through Hell

Hey Doc: My fiancé just left me about a week ago she says she needs to find her self and figure out what she wants. We were together for just over 3 years and have our problems like any relationship. I have a hard time expressing my deep feelings and at times I am independent and distant I ...

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Why It's So Hard To Not Be A 'Nice Guy'

Oh, how easy it is for us to slip into "nice guy" mode! We have a natural tendency to want to be nice guys and even believe that this is exactly what women want from us. As you probably know, it's not. Then, why do we do this? Let me tell you a little story (I'll keep it short): Many years ago, ...

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Maybe He’ll Be Mine if I Get Pregnant?

Hi Doc! Here is my situation: I am dating a guy who I am in love with. We started seeing each other in November 2008 but in February he told me we should break it off because he's not ready for anything serious as he is going through a divorce. He said he needs time to find himself. After that ...

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Nice Girl Finishes Last

Dear Dr. Dennis: I’m hearing a lot about “nice guys” who consider traveling to other countries to meet foreign woman because they feel unappreciated by American women who tend to be more fascinated by “bad boys”, wealthy guys, etc.

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Should Women Approach Men?

Dear Dr. Neder: I have conflicting thoughts about whether or not it is okay for a female to initiate the conversation with the male. Many people that I know and even those on this board swear by the fact that it is the wrong thing to do. They say it will scare the man off or make him less interested or he'll think I'm easy or desperate. I have read your responses on this topic and I know you support the woman approaching the man.

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10-Steps To Constructive Arguing

Hi Doc! I’ve been with my girlfriend for 4 years. I am planning to marry her in 5 years. She fulfills every criterion as my soul mate except one point: sometimes when she is under pressure even the slightest thing can set her off. She goes to the extreme saying hurtful things. She ...

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Should I Call to Confirm a Date?

Hey Dr. Dennis! I get this a lot - I get a phone number from a girl, call, try and set a date and the chick says something like, "Yeah Thursday sounds good. I may have a girlfriend coming into town so let's play it by ear. Give me a call Thursday." Basically, it's her way of saying... "Maybe, ...

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Is She Just a Habit

You and she are a couple and have been dating for awhile. You’ve fallen into a pattern that seems comfortable and even safe. Sure, you fight once in a while, but you have fun too. The only problem is that you’re bored and you’re wondering what else you’re missing out there. It’s easy to fall ...

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How Can I Get Him to Never Leave Me?

Dr. Neder, I've been dating a man for almost 3 months now. I've very much been the short-lived relationship kind of gal in the past. Typically at 3 months, I'll find some reason to end the relationship. Whether it's not feeling a physical connection, or not feeling an emotional connection, or, ...

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Learning To Communicate

Hey Dennis, I need some help on communication. I have trouble with communication. For some reaso I am just not effective at communicating; especially with women. I really just don't know how to communicate effectively. I've heard that the key to communication is to listen, ask questions about ...

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Confusing Girl-Games

Hey Doc – I’m confused?! I met a nice girl, she is funny, smart and all that I'm looking for in a relationship. When I started talking to her, she told me that she was looking for new friends because the other friends she had would smother her and just try to get in her pants. I ...

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Lying is Bad – Um-Kay?

Doc: I met my girlfriend online and we've been together for about 3 months (we’re both in our 30’s.) When we first started going out, I was dating another girl from online too. I was not attracted to this other girl romantically but thought she could be a friend. The problem is I lied to my ...

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Habitual Dating Self-Sabotage

Habitual Self-Sabotage Hi Dr. Neder! Whenever I might meet a woman and things look good, like we're talking pleasantly, (and this is right at the first or second meeting) all of a sudde I start to feel "self-conscious". I can explain exactly what I mean by this: it is the exact same feeling ...

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Men are Dumb Too!

Last week’s article focused on how women can be dumb (or at least, do dumb things) in relationships. It’s not that men are dumb, but we also do a bunch of dumb things – I see them everyday! Here are the top ten: 1) Becoming the “friend” Almost everyone fears rejection, especially; so it would ...

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Air-Sick Bag, Please!

Doc: I met a young lady on a matrimonial website and we hit it off very well. She had a prior relationship 3 years ago that she ended and admits to feeling guilty about as she sorta "strung the guy along" and did not verbalize her conce s regarding their relationship that she felt wasn't ...

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All or Nothing in Common?

Hi! I was wondering if you have to have stuff in common with the person you're dating? I was told that it doesn't matter how different you are, as long as you're happy when you're with the other person. I'm 18 and I recently dated a guy who only cared about finding stuff we have in common. We got along really well and I really liked him, but he didn't do anything except ask me what my interests are and what my hobbies are.

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Falling For A (Somewhat) Older Man

Hi Dennis, A month ago I met an amazing man; handsome, in-shape, caring, respectful, educated, and with a thriving career. I love spending time with him, and get butterflies in my stomach whenever I think about him. My main problem is that he is 9 years older than me. I know this may not seem ...

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