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Dr. Neder: I met a man through the oddest of ways – a mis-sent text message! It went to the wrong phone number and somehow we started to text each other, exchanged photos of ourselves and started to flirt. He is an older man with a really sexy voice and is a successful business owner. We ...
Doc, you gotta help me! I’m a 19 year old male, single and I haven't dated much. I’ve only been in one relationship and am now looking for a woman to be with and I just don't know where to look or even how to approach someone. My female cousins say to go to the movies, the mall, etc. but that doesn’t tell me how to find someone, approach them and ask them for a date! Where do I go from here? ==================== Hello! Let's start here: learning to find and approach women isn't some magic trick. It's just a skill like any other skill you learn.
Dr. Neder, My fiancé decided it was best to end our two year relationship about a month and a half ago. In this time I have realized why she did it and that she meant more to me tha I ever knew. I made a lot of mistakes that I didn't see until now. I talked to her about a month ago and ...
Hey Doc! There’s a girl that I’ve been interested in and we do the whole flirting thing all the time and some of it gets a little physical. I finally worked up the courage to ask her out and when I did she said that she liked me when she first met me but she doesn’t ...
You’re a nice guy or nice girl. You have morals and ethics. You want to do everything above-board and you play by the rules. The problem is, you’re getting nowhere with your dating/sex/relationship life! You look around you and see guys and girls that seem to be bending (or breaking) the rules and wonder if you could do that. Then, your own sense of justice kicks in and you go right back to being lonely and hoping that someone, somewhere will find you, see what you have to offer (without all the game-playing) and will fall in love with you.
Hey Doc: I'm 21 years old and this girl that I've been talking to is turning 28 pretty soon. This girl has been really down on the dumps with personal problems, losing family members, etc. and we've been keeping each other "company" if you will. I want more than that however. I have a feeling ...
One of the most common questions I get comes from guys starts off withnn“I have this woman friend. We’ve been close friends for over a year now, but she has a boyfriend…” Sound familiar? This is something I call trying to “work it from the inside”. In effect, these guys figure that if they can ...
Dr. Dennis: What are some signs that a man is "marriage material" and that a woman should definitely consider pursuing him seriously?nn=================== Hello! One of the best signs is to check the ring finger of his left hand (at least here in the States); if there's a wedding band there, ...
Hi Dennis, I have been working on putting together a few work shops for women on how to attract the kind of man they desire so naturally I have been doing my research on how the other side goes about this. From a woman's perspective, you are 100% on target. Just reading what suggestions you ...
Dear Dennis, Five years ago, I hired this bright, good looking employee. She delivered her results well, and soon moved to an assistant manager position through department assessments. All through, I heard of her 'negativity' and 'attitude', from female managers, and felt this may be female ...
Hello! Thank you so much for your time and attention. I have been living with my boyfriend for about 8 months now. He doesn’t like my father as according to him "my view of men is distorted by the secretive way he (my father) acts towards my mother". According to him my insecurities and ...
Hi, Dr. Dennis I am a 34 year old woman who is insanely attracted (you could even say devoted) to a 56 year old man who still makes me melt after almost 4 years of knowing him. We have seen photos of each other, but our only contact has been via e-mail and telephone – never in person. I met ...
I’ve always loved summer. I love the hot weather, the parties, all the skin… One of the things I love most about summer is the “summer fling”; you know, that chance to hook up with someone to go enjoy the season – and sex – with you? It might be just a week (like when you’re on vacation) or a number of months. There is an understanding – even if not spoken – that this isn’t going to be a long-term commitment (certainly not like your wireless provider!) and something about that motivates you to extract out the most joy and passion you can in that short period of time.
Hey Doc, I'm writing to you again not because I'm in a jam, but because I want to learn from a previous relationship. My girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. It was cold-hearted and all of a sudden. We dated for 4 months and were so glad to have found each other. Nonetheless, after ...
Doc: There’s the girl that I’ve been getting to know. We aren’t really together, but we’ve been moving that way. A few days ago she and I were talking and she said that she wanted to get back with her ex-boyfriend! At first, I didn’t think much of this, but I was wondering, is there any way to ...
Doctor: I am what I thought was the best-possible relationship but now wonder what happened. I have been with this man for 1 1/2 years. He has been separated from the mother of his two children (never married to her) now for 2 years, yet she continues to be very present in our relationship. ...
I have a problem with my boyfriend of 7 months - I want sex more than he does. We have sex about 2 or 3 times a week, but I want it more. I’m told a lot that I’m very attractive and I've never had this problem with other men. At first he was very eager, but then it faded. I often ...
Hin I was wondering if you could give me some feedback on this situatio I find myself in. I’m a 30 year old guy with 2 children, both under 10. I have been with my wife twelve years. She cheated on me when we first got together (I was 19) with an ex-boyfriend. We already had a 1-year-old ...
My boyfriend and I have been dating about a year. We have a good relationship and we're both sure we want to continue moving forward. We live about 700 miles apart and see each other 1-2 times a month. Here's the problem: my boyfriend has been single almost all of his adult life. He's enjoyed ...
Doc: I have dated girls anywhere from 5'1 to 5'5 inches tall and even had girls 5'6 or 5'8 be attracted to me. The thing is though, I am 5'8 1/2, which isn’t really considered short, but is certainly not tall either. I have a solid, muscular build, am 190lbs, and I was just wondering if most women have a preference of the following: 1. Same height or taller? 2. Three inches taller than themselves 3. Five inches, or, 4. WAY taller. Put simply, no girl has ever complained about my height and I have never been turned down because of it. However, I was just wondering.
Hi Dr. Neder, I'm trying to approach and meet a girl I see frequently on the way to work in the morning at the train station. What is the best approach and what do I say at first to get her trust and interest? Please let me know what you ...
Doc: Ever since I started living with my boyfriend I've caught him masturbating. At the beginning he would watch porno and masturbate, I told him this really upset me and he said that he wouldn't do it again. He also eventually got rid of all the porno. Well everything was good - or at least ...
Dear Dr. Dennis: I’ve read a number of your articles where you talk about having “game” (the ability to meet women, get numbers, etc.) Unfortunately, I don’t have any! I’m more of a home-type person who wants to get out and do more with life but a lot of times I find it difficult to do. It ...
Hi Doc! My girlfriend and I broke up about 5 weeks ago. I’m 22 and we have been dating 3 years - on and off for 5. She broke up with me because of the way I was treating her, I was being a pretty bad boyfriend. So, after 5 weeks we had a talk and she was willing to open her heart for me to come ...
Hi Dennis! I like this girl but she says she’s not ready for a serious relationship right now and wants to be by herself for a while. I’m respecting that and just being her friend right now. I want to really enjoy my youth as much as I can and I don’t want anything serious with anyone but her ...
Dr. Neder, n I came across your articles on the Internet and thought I’d write for some advice. The short story is this: I was sexually abused throughout most of my younger years. Now, as I start to cope with this as a 32 year old man, I have found a 22 year old woman with whom I share many ...
Dear Dennis: The girls that give sex up front are getting all the guys, but they don't seem to keep them for long. Guys view them as a fuck buddy type thing but not for a real relationship. The women who wait a bit to give out sex live most of their lives lonely, but end up marrying the guy at ...
Doc: I met a girl that has been hurt by a lot of guys in her past and I asked her out but I got turned down because she said she wanted to face her studies squarely. She came back home on Christmas break and I asked her again and we were so close to getting together, but then, she found out I ...
Hi, There's this guy at work that I've really hit it off with. We've been flirting lots but have also chatted lots and I started falling for him and thought he felt the same. We'd been texting and the other night we'd both been drinking, him out with his mates, me at home. When he got back into ...
Have you been having trouble moving on after breaking up with an ex-boyfriend or girlfriend? This can be very difficult to do! I’m going to show you an incredibly powerful technique to help you get healed quickly and permanently and to move on so that you can find that next great love and ...
Hello Doc, For professional women (doctors, lawyers, CEOs etc) can you please tell me what is the best type of man that you've seen from your experience for these women to date or marry? For instance, when us ladies are out on the prowl for a nice gentleman what are some qualities to look ...
Hey Doc: I've had a few girlfriends in the past and have no problems with experience. I don’t think I’m God's gift to women, but I’m not particularly ugly either. I've fallen for a neighbor girl. I'm not shy to talk to her, but she's just perfect. She's a very nice person, but thinks quite a ...
Hi Doc! This girl I know casually through work invited me to a party. I am going to give her a nice perfume that costs about $100. Is that a good idea? She also said there will be lots of girls there. How do I start a conversation with a girl in a party and get her phone number? This is a big ...
You probably had to interview in order to get your job. This interview process is an extremely important part of being hired because it tells the employer many things about you – how well you think on your feet, how well thought out your answer to questions are, how you present yourself, etc. ...
I get a lot of “beginner” questions from men about dating, relationships, sex and “the game” in general. Actually, that’s a very good thing! It shows that guys are really trying to learn what it takes to become better players – and ultimately better partners for the women we love. So, how do ...
Hello. I'm 28 years old and I've been with my husband for 10 years. We were very young when we got married and my husband had very little dating experience before we met. He is a great guy, but he has a hard time reading body language and sometimes misses the point even when I'm being blunt ...