What Do Adolescent Girls Need?
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Primary topic: Parenting
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Is It Safe for Children to Play Outside?
The horrific murder and dismemberment of a young boy’s body last week has sent shock waves through the tight-knit Orthodox Jewish Community in Brooklyn, NY. When he was first deemed missing thousands of volunteers combed the area looking for him; his death touched them all and a multitude attended his funeral. The lightness of summer is tainted with collective grief, shock and fear. Parents will now review and revise our assumptions about the freedom we allow our children. H
Primary topic: Family
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Read articleCoaching: How Can It Help You?
FAQs 1. What is Coaching? 2. How Does a Coach Differ from a Friend? 3. For Whom is Coaching Appropriate? 4. Are Coaching and Therapy the Same? 5. How Do I Find a Qualified Life Coach? 1. What is Coaching? Have you ever found yourself in the uneasy position of wanting to reach a specific goal but don’t know what steps to take to achieve it? Or perhaps, even more discomforting, you have a vague feeling of wanting something for yourself but can’t articulate exactly what it is
Primary topic: Life Coach and Life Coaching
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Read articleAnxiety: The Bane of Parents
A young mother wrote to me: "As the mother of a toddler, I'm really grateful to moms and dads who've given me great advice and support. But at the same time, other mom's comments also have made me feel inadequate." "Are we all sensitive and a little defensive," she asks,"because we love our kids so much? Maybe we feel threatened by other people's choices, because we see them as an implicit criticism of our choices." Alte atively she suggests, “Maybe we're more hyper-aware,
Primary topic: Parenting
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Read articleDreams that Don't Leave
They were after me! Dressed in army fatigues, helmeted and holding rifles with sharp bayonets extended before them, they were running up the stairs, getting closer and closer. They were barking, "Achtung! Achtung!" I was terrified. I call this dream and its variations my "Nazi dreams." They occurred frequently when I was younger, then tapered off gradually and resurface every once in awhile. My mother, in her 90's and suffering from Alzheimer's, is a Holocaust survivor. Mos
Primary topic: Dream Information
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Read articleAnxiety on the Rise
I'm sure you know someone, either in your family or among your friends, who is highly anxious. You will recognize the rapid speech, need for reassurance and fear of new situations, sometimes accelerating into full-blown panic. We have become scared to live. Anxiety, according to the Report of the Surgeon General, is the most common emotional disorder among adults as well as during childhood and adolescence. About 13 of every 100 children and adolescents ages 9 to 17 experie
Primary topic: Anxiety
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Read articleWomen's Midlife Crisis
It's about time. We can publicly discuss a rite of passage for women that is as prevalent as that for males. Our young adult years are filled with daily obligations and we tend not to think about what direction our lives are taking. We stay on the bandwagon fulfilling everyone's needs until something shakes us out our lethargy. Only then do we stop what we're doing to question, "Does my family really appreciate my sacrifices all these years? What do I want in life?" These q
Primary topic: Women's Issues
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Read articleBoy Soldier: The Meaning of Play
He marched down the corridor, head held high, with his own version of a soldier's helmet. A tub used for carrying around blocks was reinca ated as a red helmet with a plastic chin strap. How proud he looked as he marched in tempo to his own drum! This boy was out to win the war. How do we feel when we see a child play soldier? We recoil as we think of the untold numbers of young boys killed on the battlefield. As a result of our adult fears and experiences, we may try to st
Primary topic: Child Development
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Read articleThe Way She Walks
Her shoulders catch my eye. Thrust back with the confidence of the young, they bridge a petite body which looks firm and healthy. Her white blouse reflects the bright sun while her chin-length brown hair swings rhythmically from side to side, mimicking the cadence of her walk. Her head is tilted back and she looks around as if eager to observe everything. Oh, the assurance of youth! The lass struts along with the ease of nature, traversing cracks and uneven patches of sidewa
Primary topic: Psychology
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Read articleStuck on Words
The Chairman of the National Republican Committee, Michael Steele, was recently interviewed by NPR reporter, Steve Inskeep. And they got stuck on words. The Chairman was the first to attack: "You're doing a wonderful little dance here and trying to be cute," he stated. Inskeep entered the fray by replying, " I respect that you feel that I'm doing a dance here," and counterattacked, "You are giving me a very nice, nuanced position here." The Chairman then became defensive. S
Primary topic: Relationship Advice
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Read articleThe Female Bite
Summer's a great time for evening walks, except for one problem - mosquitoes. Many couples like to walk at night. They'll be walking along, enjoying the cool air, when zap! One or both of them gets bitten. Mosquitoes don't discriminate between genders. I don't know how they choose their targets. But the mosquitoes that bite are the females. The females literally suck blood to get the nutrients they need to develop fertile eggs. So I started thinking... After giving birth,
Primary topic: Women's Issues
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Read articleWhat to Do When Feeling Stuck
Have you ever felt totally frustrated, blocked and upset? On Sunday afte oo I was stuck in traffic on my way into NY City. Major bridges, tunnels and highways were all laden with cars and I was in the middle. I had no way out. My only recourse was patience. It was not an easy task because I was not alone. I had my young grandchildren and my elderly mother with me and I felt highly responsible for their well-being. That's how life seems at times. We get caught in situations t
Primary topic: Psychology
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Read articleGoing on vacation with your spouse? Study the ABC's of Communication
Many couples, after years of marriage and child-raising, have a difficult time going on vacation together. First of all, the logistics of planning a vacation without the children are overwhelming. The realities of lack of time and/or money seem insoluble, so parents end up staying home and forget about taking a trip alone. Years, even decades, may pass before they finally decide to try again. Meanwhile, their relationship suffers. In a recent article in the Wall Street jou
Primary topic: Marriage Coaching
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Read articleDepression In Men: The Silent Killer
The Presenting Problem When Mindy* got into trouble, her mother, Sharon*, came to me for help. Sharon took off from work to come to the appointment but her husband did not come. That in itself was not unusual. But Sharon reported that he was not interested in dealing with the problem and she was afraid to push him. I kept these facts in the back of my mind as I explored the family history and listened to Mindy’s hesitant description of her life at school and home. I wondere
Primary topic: Depression
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Read articleHow To Celebrate The Holiday
<u>The Danger</u> Do you enjoy the holidays? Many people get together on Christmas to celebrate the holiday and strengthen family bonds. As the generations sit around the table, enjoying the delicious food, they have the opportunity to revel in their unity as a family regardless of what happens the rest of the year. Sounds ideal. More often than not, however, when you assemble with your extended family you will recall past hurts or feelings of neglect. Your emotional pain c
Primary topic: Family
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