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A Deeper Look at Relationship Skills.
A Deeper Look at Your Feelings.
A Deeper Look at Relationship Talk. Just as there’s no crying in baseball, there’s no arguing in committed relationships. Yes, there’s disagreement because we’re all different. Yes, there’s discussion if our views are different. But, within the discussion there’s respect. Then, there’s negotiation and compromise. Ed and Lisa came into my office and as they sat down, we started talking. Their son, Don, 20, is looking at universities in Califo ia and Pennsylvania; he wants an environmental degree.
This NPR program was aired in November of 2010. I’d finished writing a “Deeper Look” movie review of “The Blind Side” last night. But, now it’s Sunday morning and I’m planting shrubs in my back yard. I’m hoping to turn my mud spot into a sea of green; it would feel so much better when I look at it.
A Deeper Look at the Comfort Personality. Sue is a stay-at-home mom, so she doesn’t work outside her home. When I asked how she spent her time on a typical day, she just mentioned play groups for her and Alex, or social time with her friends when Alex is in school. She didn’t mention house responsibilities, even though I know she has a large 5-bedroom home.
Sometimes when I’m really tired or I realize I won’t get everything on my perpetual to-do list done, I hear myself complaining. My next thought? Oh, it’s just me being grumpy; I’m feeling sorry for myself. It’s then that I remind myself how rich my life is and how much I have to be grateful for. So, today I’ve written a fresh “Gratitude List.” It’s incomplete, of course, but I’ve started. I’m grateful for : - My deep spiritual and moral beliefs. - My grandchildren. - My health—my body has been very good to me.
A Deeper Look at How Parents Show Encouragement.
A Deeper Look at Conversation in Relationship… Over time, observing myself and others, I notice how much we all just open our mouths and talk without any thinking or filtering. Most of us are reactive and on auto-pilot. Sometimes this careless conversation works okay but many times, it doesn’t, especially with your partner. Here are some ideas that might not have occurred to you. I hope they help. Talking Talk Plainly.
A practical article connected into the broader SelfGrowth topic graph.
A Deeper Look at the Pleasing Personality.
A Deeper Look at the Defenses of Criticism and Blame.
The Magazine was Published in the Fall of 2010. I Reviewed the Article in the Fall of 2010. My “Good Housekeeping” magazine came the other day and I’ve finally had time to sit down and go through it. It’s a magazine with a long, great history and it has done well evolving through its hundred years. It’s usually a quick and enjoyable read, short articles on a variety of subjects.
You probably already know that self-confidence (self-esteem) is necessary to feel happiness inside and to achieve success out in the world. So, increasing our awareness of ourselves is pretty important as we do our life journey. Let’s get acquainted with how a self-confident person thinks. Below you’ll see some positive thoughts or beliefs. As you read, ask yourself how many of these are true for you? - I believe I have value because I’m human. - I believe that I know myself, both my positives and negatives and that I accept them both.
A Deeper Look at Money Issues in Relationships… Nick and Ashley weren’t talking to each other when I came into the room. That’s never a good sign. But, I was hopeful that they’d be talking by the time we were finished.
A Deeper Look at Personality Styles in Parenting...
A Deeper Look at the Exaggerated Superiority Personality and Awareness of Self.
A Deeper Look at Relationships -- Defenses (Not Listening and Others).
A Deeper Look at Personality and Relationships.
I’m always a little bit surprised when people who live together don’t respect each other enough to (1) listen, really, listen, (2) try to understand their partner and then, (3) work to compromise. It actually seems illogical. If you buy the idea that we’re each unique human beings, then it goes without saying that we’ll each be different. So, it follows then that when we choose to live with someone, we won’t always get exactly what we want.
A Deeper Look at The Passive/Active Concept in Relationships. Waiting isn’t Participating Yesterday I talked with Frank and Nicole about their very different life postures: passive or active. Frank and Nicole have been together for a little over two years. They truly love each other. And, one important positive is that they have many of the same values and interests.
The Story Line. The Whos are preparing for their Christmas celebration. They’re obsessed with buying, giving, getting and decorating. Right from the start Cindy Lou, about 8 years old, observes all this activity and asks her father if it’s”right.” He brushes her off and says that this is how Whoville celebrates Christmas.
A Deeper Look at Positive Parenting. Sometimes, especially if our child/teen is doing well, we parents tend to forget about giving her that pat on the back. Or, we assume she doesn’t need it. Not so. Everyone enjoys being noticed or getting support. Your child/teen also wants to know that you see her effort and progress as well as her successes.
A Deeper Look at the Comfort Personality. Joel and I were talking the other day about some of his personality traits. A few of them are holding him back. Our talk focused on why he has no goals and, so, no direction. He’s busing tables in a restaurant now, but wants to move on to a “real” career, something that has meaning for him. Joel is 23, married and has an almost three-year-old daughter.
A Deeper Look at the Controlling Personality.
A practical article connected into the broader SelfGrowth topic graph.
A Deeper Look at the Control Personality. Sam and I were having a conversation about why he’s depressed. I said that I knew his dad, Carl, had the same problem. Yeah, he thought his personality was like his dad’s in some ways. Like his dad, he’s angry a lot. (By the way, over time, chronic anger makes depression.)
A Deeper Look at the Pleasing Personality in a Work Setting… As I sat down, I asked Judy how her week had gone. Her reply, “Definitely not good.” So, I asked if something had happened. Yes, something had. Judy is an engineering consultant. She has a degree and 20 years of experience in her field. She’s been freelancing now for about 7 or 8 years with different companies, all in the pharmaceutical industry.
A Deeper Look at Relationship Talk... If you want a full-of-respect, caring relationship, try this full-of-caring, respectful talk with anyone in your circle that you care about. It's especially important with your intimate partner.
A Deeper Look at Personality Traits In a Relationship When Ashley came to talk last night, I expected Mike to be with her. But instead, she was alone. He’d gone grocery shopping and had completely lost track of time. She was disappointed and frustrated at the same time. She and Mike are planning to marry in a year or so.
A Deeper Look at “Talk” in Intimate Relations
A Deeper Look at Personality Concepts.