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The Seven Steps to Healthy Parent/Child Relationships

The world in which we live is violent in large part due to how we raise our children. We assume that children are small and undeveloped and without the need for freedom and personal choice. However, we traumatize them by making demands, creating unnecessary limits, not listening to them and not considering their needs or desires. In response, children fight back, recoil in fear or both, internalizing that they are not enough.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Bringing the feminine forward

What does it mean to bring more of the feminine into our culture and why should we do that? Is there evidence that it helps? In a study in Leadership: Women Do It Better Than Men, Harvard Business Review (https://hbr.org/2012/03/a-study-in-leadership-women-do), Dr. Jack Zenger and Dr. Joe Folkman identified sixteen competencies that made an individual an outstanding leader. The results showed that women out-scored men in twelve of the sixteen competencies, including: Taking initiative, Inspiring and motivating others, Driving for results, Building relationships, Collaboration, and team work.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Healthy Fear Versus Unhealthy Fear about the Ebola Outbreak

How do we know when we have healthy fear versus unhealthy fear about the latest pandemic? Healthy fear stimulates our awareness and drives us to appropriate action. Unhealthy fear is not as effective because we are over stimulated. We are hypervigilant, stressed, and our body is tense, all of which makes us less capable of seeing reality clearly, and less able to respond appropriately. With unhealthy fear, we are responding from a place that was traumatized in the past. Let me explain. When something happens to us that is unpleasant, we resist feeling the emotions associated with this event.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Shifting Patterns of Learned Helplessness

Growing up with developmental trauma* can cause patterns of learned helplessness where we shut down, get small, space out, disassociate and eventually get depressed. Another response would be to go into the big one where we puff up and present ourselves as bigger than we are (see “Being the Big One” article https://www.changeworksinc.com/being-the-big-one/). And we can alte ate between being the big one and helplessness. This article is dealing specifically with “learned helplessness” and how to shift that pattern.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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How to Heal Ourselves and the World

Generally, society works against us discovering and being ourselves. We are taught to be what society and our parents want us to be. There is little faith in the brilliance and miracle of who we are. Instead, there is typically a fear that we are not enough and we have to push to be the best we can be to get what we want. We have to make ourselves into what we are supposed to be, and that is (we are told) not an easy road.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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What Kids Need

What do Kids need? Children need to be seen and appreciated for who they are. Our job as an adult is to look at a child and ask, “Who can you be?” This means we create an atmosphere of curiosity and attention, which nurtures a child to find the essence of who they are. We support their way of being, providing freedom for them to be who they are while teaching them how to be a kind and authentic human.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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How to find Love

The world is filled with people who are unhappy and even angry because they can’t get the love that they want. Most of us think that we need to do something different or be with someone different in order to get what we think we need—love from someone else. We have to be better, do more, achieve more, or look different to get what we want.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Being a Witness to Our Suffering

Repetition compulsion* is a pattern we get stuck in where we are trying to ease the pain that manifests because our needs as a child were not met. The pain occurs when we are younger and because our feelings weren’t acknowledged, the emotions (of fear, anger and grief) are not resolved and we get stuck in a loop of recreating the pattern in an attempt to resolve the feelings that get triggered in us.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Change Works with CLEAR

Book review of Change Works with CLEAR, Clearing Limitations with Acupressure Release By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. Ready for distribution; printed 4/07 by Change WorksnISBN #: 978-0-9796033-0-3 Paper back; 150 pages Cost: $15 (+ shipping) available at: www.changeworksinc.com Book Summary Change ...

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Being the Big One

Sometimes when we are little and things go wrong, we think we have to take charge and fix things. We feel it’s up to us to make it better. We think we have to be the big one and we’ll show the adults how to do it. Or we feel like no one else is seeing what a mess things are, or how unsafe things are, so we try to make it better.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Living fully

We are born into this world with one thing—ourselves. So how do we make the most of this thing called our life? We can start by asking good questions, like: Who am I? What are my gifts? What do I love doing? What do I want to do and who do I want to be? How do I want to be with myself, my friends and my career? Is my career aligned with my true gifts? These are the questions related to how we do this life, not just what we do. This process of becoming is a life-long process that continues until we die.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Accepting Feelings Leads to Inner Peace

Many of us were raised to resist our feelings (don’t be angry, don’t cry, don’t be so wild, etc). We do most anything to not feel: we eat, do drugs, drink, exercise, work, text, play computer games, and in doing all of this doing, we fight reality. When we resist feeling, we block reality, and this leads to a pattern of fighting that distances us from a sense of peace and contentment and ability to be present in the here and now. We live according to the belief that I have to resist or fight in order get what I want and feel good.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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Listening to our needs strengthens us

If you do for others and neglect your own needs, you are not nurturing yourself and you are not aligned with your true self. Often people are told they are selfish if they think of themselves and and put their needs before others, but really we strengthen ourselves when we listen to our own needs. We are born into the world only with ourselves—this is our main gift to the world—us. So when we bring ourselves fully into the world, others benefit. We come home to ourselves by listening to our bodies. When we are in sync and aligned, we feel strong, and content.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
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Feelings and Violence

I believe that most of the violence in society comes from our aversion to our emotions. We fight the reality of what we feel because we don’t like the feeling. We try to make it go away by resisting what is. We battle with our feelings by drinking, running, eating, refusing to feel. When we have feelings we don’t like, we battle with others by blaming them for how we feel. When we resist our feelings, the emotions get stuck in us and then when something comes along that resembles that stuck emotion, we get triggered and respond as though we are back in time when that first happened to us.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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How Can I be Happy

I recently turned 55 and at my birthday celebration, a friend told me that I had changed more than anyone he knew. When I told this to another friend (with whom I have recently reconnected after 30 years) he said yes, that was true for him too, “you aren't the same person in so many ways, and yet you haven't changed at all in ways that are so fundamental to your nature.” What a great thing to hear after all these years—that my work on myself has paid off!

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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The Victim Tyrant Cycle

The Victim Tyrant Cycler By Julie Roberts, Ph.D. This paper is about adults and not children. Children don’t have a choice when they are victims (they can’t leave their situation and if they do speak, often they aren’t heard). Adults have choice when they can see beyond the pattern that keeps them in a victim place.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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Achieving Personal Power

This article discusses effective and ineffective ways of gaining personal power and how that search impacts those around us. Note: I suggest you read “The Victim Tyrant Cycle” as it includes important concepts used in this article (http://www.selfgrowth.com/articles/negotiating-the-victim-tyrant-cycle).

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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Energy Psychology Heals Addiction

Addiction results from using a substance repeatedly to cope with emotional and/or physical pain. Family history of addiction is a factor in the severity of the problem and one’s ability and willingness to stop, but using substances to deal with emotional pain prevents us from learning effective behavioral coping mechanisms. And the more we use the more stunted our abilities to cope become. Addiction can be to alcohol, drugs, eating, gambling, sex, and even to one’s negative coping behaviors such as fighting, withdrawing, or being a drama queen.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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Clear Your Limiting Beliefs About Money

Many of us have limiting beliefs that impact our relationship with money. During these difficult times when we are tightening our belts, it would be helpful to rid ourselves of any negative beliefs that impact our ability to manifest money. These beliefs originate from our interactions, cultural traditions and experiences with money, and then influence how we attract money (or not). If I believe something, even at a subconscious level, that belief impacts my ability to manifest that thing in my life.

Primary topic: Energy Psychology
Energy Psychology
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