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HUMILITY:A TOUGH CONCEPT

HUMILITY: TOUGH CONCEPT Every time I get a good reading focused around humility, it causes me to reflect back. I can remember back to the time when I was sure humility had something to do with humiliation, and gosh knows that my life style had caused enough of that. I was not openly boastful and naturally thought I was a humble man. But give me a compliment, even the most sincerest of compliments and watch how I fumbled. It seemed like the simple response "Thank You" never crossed my mind; I always had a self-defacing response.

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Do You Do Nothing Enough?

I go crazy when I do nothing for extended periods of time. It can wear very thin. Very often, life is just the opposite, I do not have the time to just do nothing, and nothing can be therapeutic. Can you relate? Back in the “old” days being hyper active all the time, meetings, ...

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CHOICE-Cleaned Up, Locked Up, Covered Up or Broken Up

CHOICE-CLEANED (sobered) UP, LOCKED UP, COVERED UPrnor Broken UprnI don't know when I first heard this, but since I have chosen a process of life recovery and the coaching profession, the truth of this "choice" has become very real. I hope that those of you who have taken the time to read this really reflect upon the choices. You are reading it for a reason. Either you or someone you care about has the above choices TODAY! I used to think- in my pre-recovery days- that statements like this were on the dramatic side.

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SIMPLE SHARE on WHY

SIMPLE SHARE on WHY Why did I feel it necessary to get "help" and get a coach? My simple story. In 1994 I hit a wall. I was "sick and tired of being sick and tired" emotionally. While my self-employment was earning me a good living, many things around me were going unglued and I was turning far more frequently to mood altering substances and behaviours to "escape". I did not really like who I saw in the mirror and felt a soul pain inside.

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AT THE END OF YOUR ARM

AT THE END OF YOUR ARM The best place to find a helping hand is at the end of your own arm. --Swedish proverbr Every now and again a quote comes to you that is just so obvious but true! There are so many looking for help, looking to others to “fix” them and take responsibility for themr Getting help does start at the end of your arm; it sure did for me. We are entering into a period of time which for many of us is supposed to be “Joyous” and fun no matter what your religion. For many this time of the year has a strong religious component.r

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Sick As Your Secrets?/Transparency

What a great reminder tonight, and it tied in to closing off my personal inventory. I, like many others, had secrets buried deep inside of me that I honestly thought I die with. No one ever had to know. Today I am aware that these secrets caused guilt and shame daily, and some I had buried so ...

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Mirroring

A weekend just past and the first client of day completed, and my head turns to a technique known as mirroring. Funny, as I work with clients to bring out the talent within them, I find myself asking questions that I am, in part, asking of myself. It is true that we see ourselves in others. In ...

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PEOPLE PLEASIN' TIME

PEOPLE PLEASIN’ TIME OF THE YEAR I don't know the key to success, but the key to failure is trying to please everybody.--Bill Cosby I am so blessed to have the space I do to work in. Today my view through my windows is of crisp white snow and snow clinging to mature cedars at the back of our property. The view reflects the positive state I’m in a majority of the time, and I am ete ally grateful for the changes in my life that allow me to see the beauty all around me.r

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KNOW YOUR DREAMS

KNOW YOUR DREAM You've got to create a dream. You've got to uphold the dream. If you can't, go back to the factory or go back to the desk.rn--Eric Burdonr Way back when, back when I made a decision to go into the “people helping” business as a profession, I had a dream. I formulated the dream through guided study and guided reflection. The first ad I put together for my new business revolved around the “Create a dream” theory and then making it happen.r

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Formula For Failure

While reflecting on the early part of my life, seeing and understanding what happened, and looking at how things played out, it is apparent the people pleasing, the need to make others happy, has played a large role in my life. I see the remnants of this behaviour, learned at a young age, still ...

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SELFISHNESS

Selfishnessr Every now and again I reflect back on my life to a time before I started what I know call a “co-creative process of life recovery”. There were many negative qualities that were at work most of the time. One that I really regret is selfishness. I wanted the world to see me as a caring unselfish person. Many of my actions were just that-they looked caring and unselfish. The truth was, all too often, I did things with a motive-what was in it for me? I know this in retrospect.r

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Remembrance Day

Remembrance DaynI awoke this morning well before first light. November 11 is a special day in my heart. A day to remember times and people past, and remember with gratitude. I have been fortunate to live in a time in history were I have not been needed to serve in active military service. My ...

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Redefing Work

Redefining Work More support for “The Creative Theory of Recovery” I’ve been privileged to walk this earth for a while, do some great things, travel and work with interesting and progressive people. I’ve also seen far too many talented people what I would call ...

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DO YOU KNOW YOU?

DO YOU KNOW YOU? Once we understand ourselves, the rest of living falls in line. What a great line, and makes me ask the question- Do you know you? At first, the initial answer is likely “yes, of course I do”. Funny, way back when, I would have and did react the same way. The biggest turning point in my life occurred when I finally realized I did not know myself very well. I knew things about me of course, but really couldn’t define who I was as a person.

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DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE'S PURPOSE (questions to ask)

DISCOVERING YOUR LIFE’S PURPOSE Questions To Askr Often I’m asked what it is a coach does. The simple answer is to help others discover what is important for them to accomplish, set goals and then guide them to getting it done. Often people either directly or indirectly tell me they have hit a crossroads in there life (personal, career or both) and want to understand their purpose then take a new path. Here are some questions I’m sharing for those who want to better understand their purpose in life.

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WE ARE "CREATED SELVES"

WE ARE “CREATED SELVES” Shakespeare said it, “This above all; to thine own self be true”. In a journey of life recovery, a transformation to a new and more abundant life, had not one of our real problems been true to our selves and selfishly so? For me the answer to this was yes; but I know today that the self-centered person I was true to was not who deep inside I was. I was being true to a “me” that had been created due to poor thinking and actions over an extended period of time.

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Why Am I...?

A Moment of Clarity Ever have occurrences and thoughts in your life that seem to come out of nowhere, then reoccur over a period of time? I have been going through just that over the past few weeks. In my line of work, I see many people struggling to get a new life and grow in a new direction. ...

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Make It A Good Day?

When I got up Wednesday morning, I had a choice to make. I choose to make it a good day. There is enough craziness going on in this world, the talk of economic collapse, and gosh help us, elections on both sides of the border. Here in Canada, as far as leadership goes, I don’t find any ...

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Simplicity

There is an old expression that rings true so often. “I could complicate the Lord’s Prayer”. Not withstanding that the Lord’s Prayer is a complicated document, I think we all know the intended thought behind complicating it. Often wonder how nice it would be to walk the ...

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Thanksgiving

Here in Canada, we are starting our Thanksgiving weekend. While timing is great to get a long weekend, the name thanksgiving means so much more to me than three days were the work world shuts down; it brings gratitude to the forefront! Around me the trees are changing color. The reds in some of ...

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Got Resentments And Faith?

One of the beauties of a long weekend is that I usually get to catch up on some reading, and the read in combination with quiet time, leads to some new thinking. To summarize something I just read, it stated, if you profess a love of a higher power in your life, and carry resentments with you, ...

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Sensitivities?

Yesterday in conversation with a friend who is starting a journey, I asked for input about a topic she might be interested in. Without knowing it directly, and not answering what I had asked, she did answer! It is amazing how early on we can find a bit of dark in the bright light. I am reminded ...

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Lack Trust in Others?

For as long as I can remember, I have loved to “observe” people. We are fascinating creatures. Throughout a great business career, and being people orientated, I have seen humans around the world in all colours, shapes and sizes. There are issues shared by all, and “TRUST ISSUES” are ...

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Resentments: Got Any?

With the emotions that go along with Christmas, the topic of resentments is a good one. For many years in my not too distant past, I came out of the Christmas season with some pretty good resentment. They didn’t appreciate; I didn’t get; she said; they should have; they did….. ...

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Don't Look Now

DON’T LOOK NOW! YOU MAY BE WINNING Frequently we read or are told how to tell when we need to look for help and the things to look for to notice when we are going backward. In my own experience, we do not often have an inventory list to check against when we are achieving. On a cloudy ...

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H.O.W.?

Man, I enjoy Thursdays. Sometimes the simple gems I hear or am reminded of resonate so strongly in me. The acronym “HOW” falls into this category. The world is filled with insanity, and most of the time insanity as a part of life (my definition-repeated behavior expecting a different ...

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Time Takes Time

Over the first couple of weeks of the New Year, I have reviewed the 12 Steps as part of trudging the road to happy destiny, looking after my own mental hygiene, sharing to help and putting together an E-Book. I love to keep those steps simple. A lesso I had to learn early in my journey, and ...

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Open Mind? Read On

I was blessed a year or so ago to have a man named Patrick Meninga come into my life through “electronic” channels. He is the “Spiritual River” man (www.spiritualriver.com).nnOver the period we have got to know each other and have partnered on a few very small ventures. Our common bonds? We are ...

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Are Written Goals Important?

To me, the simple answer to this question is yes. The complex answer, another yes! In both my recovery to a more abundant and joyous life, and my reaching fulfilling work (and golf results), goal setting is a key. If I don’t have targets, write them down, and measure against them, how will ...

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12 Steps - Life Going Forward|

After we have worked the 12 steps to the best of our ability, we have started a journey that offers unlimited potential. What we do from here is critical. We have made tremendous change in our life. We have begun the practice of good mental hygiene and are humbly confidant in who we are. We ...

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Refocus: The Journey,The journal

15 years ago my personal, internal life hit a wall. Exte ally things looked OK, internally they were horrible. I was at a bottom spiritually and emotionally, self-esteem was gone, and those I cared the most about in my personal life were pulling away. I had lost sight of goal setting, had lost ...

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Ego And Addictions

I am a believe that things happen for a reason, and people come in to your life when they should. I have talked in past blogs about my friend Patrick and the great Spiritual River daily blog he does. I look forward to a full collaborative “thing” with him. Who knows where it may ...

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Gift of Life Recovery

A week ago, I was facing surgery for the first time since I underwent a psychic change through the process of recovery. Lets be honest, the surgery was not life threatening although what was being corrected caused constant pain. I was not thrilled by the thought of someone cutting my groin area, ...

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First Steps-Do You Remember?

My parents and family have told me about my first steps. I certainly don’t remember them, but I am told I was an “early” walker. Seems I was early at trying a lot of things-booze, girls, dope, motorcycles, lying, stealing, cheating! I was not early getting into a journey of ...

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Live Today-Things Change Quickly

I awoke this morning to a brilliant blue sky, and an awareness that something subtle had changed. I have a funeral to attend today. I attend meetings on a fairly regular basis. I am a creature of habit, and have been sitting in the same area of the meeting for years. I look around the room and ...

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Self-Reflection

-we all need it So far, it’s been a really interesting day. Things are now quiet, and I am reflecting on a few things that have happened lately. In response to one of my jou als, I got some very constructive feed back on content and approach, and some constructive feedback on my web site ...

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My Inside Versus Your Outside

What a great reminder I had today. This is something, without thinking about, I know I periodically do! How about you? They say you can’t judge a book by its cover, yet publishers spend a fortune to create great covers. As a person, for years, I did all I could to create a great exterior, ...

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Life Is A Game

Another weekend over, and some very good reminders and perspectives. I was very fortunate to get three golf games in on three days, and to have a chance to do something nice for my dear old mother. Friday we had a good buddy down from Peterborough. He is a great athlete, about my age, and has ...

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In My Head-And Not Paying Rent

For a number of years, I have been told resentments will tear me apart if I don’t deal with them. I was told, and it remains true today, that resentments are like a tenant in an apartment building who occupy space but pay no rent. The space in my head is at a premium, and I need it to be ...

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Ever Taken Inventory Of You??

Often in my life I have been guilty of taking the inventory of others! In my journey of recovery, I was asked to take an inventory of myself. That was different. I had found myself at 46 with no idea of who I was or how I became the sad person that I was. As I got into a program of recovery for ...

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In To Action. Ready? Amends

This action scared the living twist out of me! What was hammered through my thick skull that the amends I made were for my benefit, not for the benefit of the person I was making amends to. I was carrying the garbage, and this step in my journey was for me to clear up my garbage, and I was told ...

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Procrastination-Summer Is Over

Hard to believe, what we consider summer is over. School is back in, traffic is back to insane, and they days are definitely getting shorter. Seeing September 2 pop up in my calendar is shocking. There are so many things I had said to myself I would do over the summer, and of course, a lot of ...

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Reflection And A Hard Head

What a good weekend, but a great reminder that kids are for the young, and I don’t get smarter about some things with age. It was great to spend the time at my youngest daughters and in the company of a terrific son-in-law. All three of the grand kids were there, the oldest finishing off a ...

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Where Are You At Today?

It has been a crazy Thursday from very early in the morning, and tomorrow will be more insane. We call it “Grampy Day”, my annual venture into the world of fun with my two oldest grand kids sans parents or other adults. Golf, fishing and whatever else my little heroes want. ...

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The God Thing-Me?

Had some great feedback over taking a first step, powerless and unmanageable! Thanks. I learn from hearing from others. I sometimes wonder if I’m not addicted to golf. Played twice over the weekend. Each day, even on the occasions of playing very poor shots, I am amazed by how I ...

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