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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***When To Compromise…And When Not To Compromise

Discover when compromise is healthy and when it's self-abandoning. Compromise! What does this word conjure up for you? Is it is a positive or negative word for you? Does it bring up a sense of loving resolution, or a sense of losing yourself and losing your integrity? When you think about compromising, what are you compromising? Are you compromising with a partner you love out of caring for yourself and your partner, or are you compromising yourself to control how your partner feels about you or reacts?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

You CAN Learn To Make Yourself Feel Safe

Growing up, many of us didn't feel at all safe in our households. Many of us had parents or other caregivers who were physically, emotionally, and/or sexually abusive or neglectful. We had to find ways to manage this lack of safety, so we learned to numb out, eat or use other substances, be good, be bad or try to be perfect, or project the fear on something other than our parents, because acknowledging that it was our parents causing our fear caused more fear.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Learning to Love Your Sacred Being

Do you know who you are in your essence? If you knew that your core Self, your essence, was a sacred being, an individualized expression of Spirit, would you treat yourself differently than you currently do?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Frequency: Your Spiritual Guidance & The Art of Manifestation

Next course - January 9, 2019 This course is offered only once a year Are you ready to experience that you are never alone and to manifest your dreams? A 30-Day Home-Study Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul - to Connect With or Deepen Your Connection With Your Spiritual Guidance and Learn The Art of Manifestation "This has been absolutely life changing. Probably the most important personal growth work I’ve done in 30 years of study! I am deeply grateful!" ~ Annette

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***What Will Love Give You?

Did you grow up believing that if only someone REALLY loved you in the way you needed to be loved, then you would feel happy, safe, lovable and worthy?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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***Do You Believe You Are Worthy of Love?

Do you sometimes find yourself resisting receiving love because you believe you don't deserve it? Have you ever heard yourself say, "I'm not worthy of love," or "I'm not worth loving," or "I'm unworthy of God's love"? I frequently hear this from my clients. Do you find yourself in resistance to receiving love – from a person or from Spirit? Are you in resistance to learning to love yourself?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Your Children are on Their Own Soul's Journey

In a phone session with Gerald, one of my clients, he expressed to me that he was feeling very sad about his son, Luc. Luc, 29 years old, was not doing much with his life, and Gerald was berating himself for how he had parented Luc. “I should have spent more time with him. I should have ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Being a Happy Parent – Part of Good Parenting

When you were growing up, did you ever wish that your parents were happy? Did you feel safe when they were happy and peaceful? My mother was rarely a happy person. Most of the time she was anxious, angry and felt overburdened, even though I was her only child. She rarely laughed and was often ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Taking the Risk of Loving

"To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. but in that casket - safe, dark, motionless, airless - it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Loving Yourself By Following Your Guidance

A major aspect of loving yourself is taking the loving action suggested by your spiritual guidance. I cannot even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I’ve been following the advice of my guidance rather than my ego wounded self. Here are just a few of the changes that have occurred for me: I no longer feel anxious, fearful or depressed. I feel peaceful, joyful and excited about my life most of the time. Judgments of myself are a thing of the past. I feel a deep sense of self-worth instead of believing I’m not good enough.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

If I Am Myself, I Will End Up Alone

Peggy had been married to James for 14 years when she first consulted with me for help with her relationship and her anxiety. "I can't stand being in this marriage anymore. We have two wonderful children and I don't want to break up this family, but I’m miserable and anxious much of the time. ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

How Do You Define Success?

Take a moment to go inside and see how you define success. Is your success defined by:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Do You Believe What You Perceive?

"Perception is a mirror not a fact. And what I look on is my state of mind, reflected outward." - - A Course in Miracles I remember many years ago seeing the movie "Rashomon" (starring Toshiro Mifune and directed my Akira Kurosawa) where three people saw a murder committed and each saw it completely differently. Of course, each believed that what they saw was the truth. It is hard for many people to understand that perception is a mirror of what is going on for them on the inner level, rather than what is actually going on.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Healing Envy

"I have a question about envy. I'm not talking about jealousy but specifically envy and how to be happy for someone else's good fortune. I feel like I have broke new ground on this issue as I have genuinely been able to feel happy for someone else recently who achieved something I hadn't but only after going through some Inner Bonding because my first reaction was shock and envy and it upset my balance for a while. I felt like there was some competition going on in my mind. I don't feel envy with friends in general but with my lovers I do.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Do You Have Patience?

Has having patience been a challenge for you? Discover an underlying cause of impatience. Some people seem to be naturally patient. I'm not one of those people. I think I was born impatient. I have spent a lot of time cultivating having patience and trying to understand what triggers me when I get impatient.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***The High Cost of Physical Self-Abandonment

If you are not conce ed with your physical self-care, have you ever considered the high cost to those around you? I was sitting in the airport at my gate in Chicago, on my way home from the East Coast, having just completed a wonderful Inner Bonding weekend workshop at Kripalu in Lenox, MA. A very obese woman, who was obviously not at all well, sat down across from me, and was then attended to by another woman and by her husband, who was also not well.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***The Incredible Power Of Intent

Imagine two big spotlights. One is pointed upward, casting light far into the air. The other is pointed downward and buried into the earth - no light is cast at all. This is like intent. There are only two possible intentions in any given moment: the intent to learn about loving yourself and ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***How Can I Stop Feeling Jealous?

"I know that my boyfriend loves me, but he has a lot of women friends. I don't get why he has to have so many women friends. I get scared and jealous when he spends time with another woman. I know I should trust him, but I don't, and I don't know what to do about this." "My wife is a very ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

*** Loving Yourself Through Heartbreak and Grief

By Margaret Paul, PhDr December 05, 2016 ________________________________________ Learn how to love yourself through heartbreak and grief, rather than continue to abandon yourself in ways that are hurting you. ________________________________________ Take a moment right now to remember times growing up that were very painful. Very painful situations might have been: • The loss of a parent, sibling, good friend, grandparent or someone else very close to you • Emotional abuse – yelling, name-calling, criticism and judgment

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***"Why Can't I Forgive Myself For My Mistakes?

Do you judge yourself for the past? Discover why and what to do about it. Brianna wrote to me, asking:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

*"You're Not Meeting My Needs

"Sandra wants to end our marriage," Ted told me in our phone session. "She says that I am not meeting her needs." I often hear this in my counseling practice. How did we get the idea that marriage is about the other person meeting our needs, or about our meeting the other person's needs? How ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

5 Actions For Successful Relationships

Couples that have a very good relationship are not just lucky. Successful, loving relationships do not just happen. The couples that have loving relationships are taking specific actions that people in unsuccessful relationships are not taking. ACTION 1 - KINDNESS TO SELF AND OTHER Think for a ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Do You Have The Courage to Be a Loving Parent?

Do you have the courage to risk loving yourself – even when you might encounter your children's uncaring behavior?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Connection: Our Deepest Desire

________________________________________ We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? ________________________________________ When we were born, the most important thing to us was connection with our mother. We needed connection with her body for adequate sustenance. We needed emotional connection with her, or with someone, to feel safe, and to develop the ability to regulate our feelings. Connection with someone was essential to our physical survival and our emotional well being.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience

Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experiencer The next 'Love Yourself' Course starts February 20th, 2019. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships. “I absolutely loved this course. I feel I am given a road map to living with freedom and love." ~Charlotte

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Can This Relationship Be Helped?

I have been counseling couples for 35 years. Quite often individuals come in for help wondering if it is really possible to save or improve their relationship. Perhaps their partner is totally uninterested in working on the relationship. Perhaps their partner is an alcoholic or drug addict. What ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Relationships: Mysteries Of Attraction

We are attracted to each other at our common level of woundedness and our common level of health. What does this mean? For example, Jackson, a very attractive man in his early 50s, had been married three times and had been in many relationships. He consulted with me because he was tired of ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Fear Of Death

"The modern tradition of equating death with an ensuing nothingness can be abandoned. For there is no reason to believe that human death severs the quality of the oneness in the universe." - Larry Dossey, MD Kenny, a client of mine, told me that his mother had a stroke and has been left totally ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Do You Give People The Benefit of the Doubt?

Discover whether or not it is loving to yourself to give someone the benefit of the doubt. I was having a Skype session with Raul. He was feeling down because a woman he has recently met rejected him. He was confused because he hadn't actually really liked her on their first date, but he asked her out anyway. "Why did you ask her out again?" "I gave her the benefit of the doubt." "Raul, please look back on your relationship history and see how things have worked out with women when you gave them the benefit of the doubt."

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Disengaging From Your Family of Origin

"Honor Thy Father and Thy Mother." But what if your father and mother didn't honor you? What if instead of loving and honoring you they physically, sexually and emotionally abused you? What if you were scared every day of your growing up years? And what if, when you finally grow up and start to face the fact that your family of origin abused you, and through some therapy finally gain the courage to confront them with the abuse, they completely deny it and tell you that you are crazy? Do you stay in that family system or leave it?

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Love Yourself: A 30-Day Inner Bonding Experience

The next 'Love Yourself' Course starts August 7th, 2019. Are you ready to learn how to love yourself? Love Yourself: A 30-Day Home-Study Inner Bonding Experience with Dr. Margaret Paul, to self-heal anxiety, depression, guilt, shame, addictions and relationships.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***"How Do I Know When The Issue Is Mine?"

Margaret Paul, Ph.D. January 04, 2016 Do you sometimes get confused regarding whether a relationship issue is about you, about your partner, or about both of you? Alexa asked me the following question: "How do you know when you are self-abandoning and being needy versus setting off fear of engulfment in your partner that is about them and not about you having done something inappropriate?" One of the ways of dealing with this kind of situation is to assume that you are ALWAYS a part of it, and that there is ALWAYS something for you to lea

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Two Choices That can Make Next Year The Best Year of Your Life

What if there were just two choices you could make to insure that next year would be wonderful? There actually are, and these choices are quite simple in concept, yet not easy to do. They are not things you do on the outside, such as exercising your body (which is always a good thing to do!) but ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Does Your Life Feel Alive And Meaningful?

Do you find that nothing really excites you or holds much meaning for you? Does your life lack aliveness, passion and purpose? Vera sought out counseling with me because her doctor advised her to discover the emotional causes of her chronic fatigue. Vera, a successful stockbroker, was in a loving 18-year marriage. On the surface, everything in her life was fine. She had enough money, friends and a good relationship with her husband. Yet Vera awoke each morning battling fatigue and depression. She didn't want to get out of bed because nothing felt meaningful to her.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

*** Loving Yourself Through Holiday Stress

By Margaret Paul, PhDr December 19, 2016 ________________________________________ Do the holidays and other family events or gatherings stress you out? Discover what might be the underlying cause of this stress and what to do about it. ________________________________________ "OMG, I've got so much to do! How am I going to get all this done?" one of my clients said to me. "What happens if you don't get it all done?" I asked. "People will be upset with me." "So are you stressing yourself out in order to meet others' expectations of you, instead of loving yourself?"

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

*** Love Asks for Nothing

"We 'love' another in order to get something ourselves….There can be no greater mistake than that, for love is incapable of asking for anything." -- A Course in Miraclesnn"Love is incapable of asking for anything." Wow! Take a moment to think about that ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

A Major Cause of Marriage Problems

We all know that relationships are very challenging. 52% of married people reach their 15th anniversary and only 33% reach their 25th anniversary. I have been counseling individuals and couples for 40 years and I believe that I have discovered a major cause of relationship problems - if not ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Moving Beyond Codependency: Saving Your Marriage

I have counseled couples for almost 40 years, and it still thrills me when a couple, especially a couple with children, choose to work on their troubled marriage instead of leave it. It is my experience that when two people really want to save their marriage, they can. Even if one person wants ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***The Lies We Tell Ourselves

By Dr. Margaret Paulr June 27, 2016 Our emotions are an accurate indication of when we are in truth and when we are lying to ourselves. Believe it or not, one of the great gifts we were born with is our emotions. Our emotions infallibly let us know when we are operating from the truth and when we are telling ourselves lies. When we are in truth, we feel clear, connected, happy, peaceful, powerful and joyful. When we are lying to ourselves – operating from our false beliefs - we feel anxious, tense, depressed, scared, powerless, angry, empty, hopeless, alone and abandoned.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Do You Chase When Someone Withdraws?

A member of our website asked this question in our advice section:I've read several of the articles on the site, but have not seen anything mentioned about "chasing"after someone who is pulling away in a relationship. That has to be a form of protection against deeper feelings, though, right? If someone is pulling away and the urge to chase after them comes up, what is the best thing to do in this situation? Thanks!

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Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

How Can They Live With Themselves?

I am outraged. It’s now well known that big pharma pays off doctors regarding the safety of drugs, including opioids, which is causing the high death toll from these drugs. It’s not as well known that the SSRI antidepressant drugs are also partly responsible for the mass shootings. Every mass shooter has been on one of these drugs, which have been shown to cause violence.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Why Self-Abandonment Can Kill You

Why Self-Abandonment Can Kill You Click here to register for this webinar. This event will be recorded and available free for one week after the webinar - You will receive an email for the link when you register. https://www.innerbonding.com/webinar/3827 Hosted By Dr. Margaret Paulr Start 02/19/2020 06:15 PM Finish 02/19/2020 07:00 PM Location Description

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Jealous? Heres Why.

In her phone session with me, Katy was completely perplexed about her jealousy. "As you know, I broke up with my boyfriend, Jared, 6 months ago. By the time I broke up with him, I was really done with the relationship, and I have no desire to be with him. But last week I found out that he has a girlfriend and I feel jealous! I can't figure this out. It makes no sense to me at all." I asked Katy to open to learning with the jealous part of her - an aspect of her wounded self. The Need To Feel Special Katy's 12-year-old wounded self quickly started to talk.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Is My Need For Attention Reasonable or Needy?

Have you ever wondered if your desire to share time with a partner is coming from need or neediness? Sometimes it's a challenge to know what are reasonable relationship needs and when we are being needy. Klarese is asking this important question:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***How To Reassure Your Inner Child

By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. August 22, 2016 Are you afraid that if you practice Inner Bonding, you will have to feel painful feelings that you have been avoiding your whole life with your various addictions? Most people who have done even a little bit of Inner Bonding know the power it has to heal false beliefs and move them into truth. They know that they can develop their loving adult and discover the loving actions on their own behalf. They know that they can learn to be a loving advocate for themselves, for their inner child.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

Toxic Guilt, Healthy Guilt

Guilt is an important feeling. It is the appropriate feeling to have when we have deliberately done something hurtful or harmful to others. People who can harm others without any feelings of guilt or remorse were formerly called sociopaths or psychopathic personalities, and are now defined as ...

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Are You Addicted to Complaining As A Form of Control?

By Margaret Paul, Ph.D. April 11, 2016 ________________________________________ Why do people complain? What is it they want or hope for when they complain? In this article, discover the answers to these questions, as well as what to do about it if you are addicted to complaining. ________________________________________

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Finally! Studies Prove That Spanking Doesn’t Work

“A new analysis concludes that spanking fails to alter kids' behavior in the long term. What it does instead is amp up their aggression.” From “Why Spanking Doesn’t Work,” by Bonnie Rochman |@brochman | February 6, 2012 http://healthland.time.com/2012/02/06/why-spanking-doesnt-work/?hpt=hp_t3 What do we mean when we say that spanking doesn’t work? Doesn’t it stop children from doing whatever it is you don’t want them to do? “Want your kid to stop whatever dangerous/annoying/forbidden behavior he’s doing right now? Spanking will probably work — for now.

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

***Getting Out of The Negative Relationship Cycle

Should you leave a relationship that is stuck in a negative cycle? It is quite common for me to work with clients who are stuck in a dysfunctional relationship cycle. Sarah describes a common cycle that she wants to resolve:

Primary topic: Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice

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By Margaret PaulRecently published1 topic

What Does it Mean to “Self Improve?”

Self Improvement has become mainstream. In the last few years, since I have been writing articles and submitting them to article sites, I’ve noticed that the category of “Self Improvement” has been showing up lately when it was never there before. To me, this is very good news. But what does it ...

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Relationship Advice

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