Michael Mantell's "WAM" Will Increase Your Self-Compassion
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Michael Mantell: How Your Head Ruins Your Health
When it comes to your health, self-care, relationships, your happiness and wellbeing, there’s only one thing that drives it all – yes, the link is what you think. Try to imagine an emotion – happiness, sadness, worry, calm, fear, anger, love – without a thought first creating it. It can’t be done. Every emotion you have first begins in your head.
Primary topic: Health Coach and Health Coaching
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Read articleDon't Sweat the Small Stuff PS It's All Small Stuff: The Story
In 1988 when I wrote “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: PS It’s All Small Stuff,” little did I know that a number of years later my book would go into three printings, have an audio version, be celebrated and awarded wonderful titles like “Good Morning America’s” "Hot Pick" and “Publishers Weekly Magazine’s” "Listen Up Award: Best Audio of 1996.” I also didn’t anticipate the controversy. Ahhh, yes the controversy. I didn’t sweat it.
Primary topic: Health Coach and Health Coaching
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Read articleHow to Lose at Tennis...and at Life
For those of you who know me, you know that I’ve been a devoted tennis player. That is, until I injured myself and turned to other forms of exercise and activity. I didn’t say I was a “good” tennis player. I said I was a “devoted” tennis player. At least two, and more likely three or more times each week, I was out on the courts with my tennis partner…wanting to win and yet prepared to lose. That’s a secret to losing at tennis, and at life. Preparing to lose. And boy did I lose.
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Read articleGet All FFF'd Up to BE Fit
OK, before you go all holier than thou critical, or laugh so hard you can’t pay attention to this content of this article, here’s what being “All FFF’d Up” means when it comes to the secret sauce of being fit. It means if you are going to stick to a fitness program, you need to have Fun, include Friends and be Focused. C’mon, what’d you think I meant?
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Read articleThe Most Harmful Word in Your Vocabulary
Sure, you may be thinking that word might be “hate,” “poverty,” “illness,” or “death.” No, these words are mild compared to the life-sucking, contentment-robbing, depression-boosting, anxiety-causing and anger-building word I’m thinking of. That word is “should.” In the wonderful words of my mentor and teacher, Albert Ellis, Ph.D., “Should-hood leads to shit-hood.” He also observed, “It’s far better to masturbate tha MUSTurbate.” Yes, he was a straight talking guy. It appears that of all the thoughts people hold onto, the most harmful ideas are that:r
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Read articleMichael Mantell's M.I.N.D. Workout
Mental mastery, whether it’s for a business meeting, a physical workout, academic success or mindful meditation, requires that you fully engage your mind. We’ve learned through years of research that our brains are capable of continued growth throughout our lives, especially when we are engaged in frequent intellectual stimulation. With the right nourishment, engagement, social connections and physical activity, we do quite well in maintaining brain health. These are anchored in lifestyle choices we make daily.
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Read articleMake it Your Lifestyle, Not Just a Season
It’s starting in only a couple of weeks. You’ve starved yourself to fit into the outrageous Halloween costume you’ve chosen this year, your Thanksgiving plans are set, the talk in your office is already about plans for the end of the year celebration, and before you know it, it’ll be time once again for you to make those New Year’s Resolutions that you never keep. Fear not, friends. Almost nobody really keeps them.
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Read articleWhat Millennials Can Teach Us About Positivity
How can a group of 80 million young Americans suffering from mind-bogglingly high unemployment rates still be positive, buoyant and survive? Leave it to Millennials to do exactly that. With $200 billion in buying power, they are optimistic, confident, self-expressive, liberal, upbeat and open to change—according to research from the Pew Research Center. Once you “get” the importance of positivity for these young men and women, you have the key to effectively connect with them. Simply put, they have little or no room for negativity in their lives.
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Read articleFat. Seriously? The Antidote to Fat Shaming
Unattractive, stupid, lazy, lacking self-control…is that what you not-so-secretly think of the nearly 70% of adults with “overbesity,” that is, those affected by overweight or obesity? If so, read on. You may be a fat shaming bully and not even know it.
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Read articleMichael Mantell's 3 Rules for Summer Fitness
It’s that time of the year again when we begin to think of warmer weather, and that means trips to the beach. And that means, bathing suits. And that means others seeing our bodies. And that means, uh oh. For some, it also means. “twice-a-days.” You know, working out twice daily. For others, it also means going on “DIEt’s,” and for some, even beginning some sort of an eating disorder that includes near starvation. But all of this does not have to be. Here are three “rules” to consider as you look forward to warmer weather and maybe even trips to the beach.
Primary topic: Health Coach and Health Coaching
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Read articleDefeat-Proof Your Mind
It took quite awhile to earn that degree, to go on for graduate studies, to land that impressive job. And somehow, it’s still leaving you with thoughts of defeat, of fear and worry.
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Read articleWhen One Door Closes...
Vote after informal vote, I was in the top five. But when the official decision of who was going to move ahead from the Master’s degree program to the doctoral program, I was reminded of my mother’s words, “Michael, when one door closes another opens.”
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Read articleMichael Mantell Claims "Gratitude is Medicine"
Hey Dr Mantell, this may be the latest "health supplement" on the block but it's been around for thousands of years, hasn't it? You bet it's been around for thousands of years. In Psalm 100-4, we read, “Enter His gates with thanksgiving and His courts with praise. Give thanks to Him, bless His name.”
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Read articleWhy a "C" is better than an "A"
“Mrs. Mantell, your son Michael is not college material. He should definitely consider a vocational high school path.” That’s what Mrs. McCaffery, my 8th grade teacher at Chancellor Ave. Elementary School in Newark, N.J., told my mother with me sitting there…trembling, My mother, then president of the PTA, looked at her, offered her a few “choice words” and we left. I have no tools in my garage now, maybe a hammer or a screwdriver, maybe, but I do hold a Ph.D. from the University of Pennsylvania.
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Read articleMichael Mantell's One Thought That Blocks Your Authenticity
“Dr. Mantell, it seems that ‘being authentic’ is the hottest topic in self-improvement. Is that true?” If 119,000,000 hits on Google means something is hot, then yes, authenticity - in our age of inauthenticity - is hot. Just what does being authentic mean? Where does this originate? Descartes suggested that authenticity meant following a moral inner voice, anchored in thinking and acting responsibly. Other philosophers, of course, suggest other, more exte al, sources of authenticity.
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Read articleThe ABCs of a Healthy Mindset
Ever since the 1950’s when Albert Ellis, Ph.D., my teacher and mentor, developed Rational Emotive Behavior Therapy/Coaching, the mental health field has not been the same. Instead of spending months and years gazing inward and backward with no real behavior change, folks experiencing emotional distress and day-to-day unhappiness, fear and worry, finally had a way to move forward and stop upsetting themselves. REBT/C is built on the idea that events, conditions, people, circumstances, situations, and places do not cause people to become upset. Then, what does?
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Read articleIs Your Navigation System Taking You To All of the Right Places?
A client recently bought an expensive new car. He hasn't been the same since. He's been ranting about how expensive it is, how he shouldn't have spent so much, and on and on. I asked him about what type of options he put into it and he angrily spewed, "A - - - king navi system."
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Read articleHow To Create the Inner Happiness of Work-Life Balance
Remember when the technology experts tried to sell us on the notion that all of their gadgets would free us up, give us more leisure time and make life so much more enjoyable? We've been fooled into thinking that being offered the opportunity to “telecommute,” or work from anywhere we choose, with cloud-based infrastructures allowing us to move where and when we want results in work-life balance. It doesn’t.
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Read articleHow to Spot "Sigh-ence" Headlines
If you are like most folks who read websites, magazines, and newspapers today, you may be totally confused by the sensational headlines that deal with wellbeing, health, obesity, exercise, nutrition, stress and a whole host of other related topics. It seems that on Monday, obesity is caused by one thing and by Wednesday, it’s something else. Eat this, not that, and a day or two later, it’s just the reverse. Yes, "journalists" poorly schooled in science murder science. It's enough to make us toss out the whole idea of listening to experts. But wait.
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Read articleDr. Michael Mantell Says, "Life's A Game: Play It"
Michael Mantell, Ph.D. is convinced that if there was a drug that offered all of the benefits that play does, it’d be the biggest seller on the planet. But who needs to buy a pill when play is free, available 24 hours a day, and no is ever prescription needed? Plato did prescribe, “Life must be lived as play,” suggesting he understood the value of this pervasive, natural, purposeless, pleasurable phenomena that typically begins with anticipation and ends with a smile. He also wisely observed, “You can tell more about a person in one hour of play than in a year of conversation.”
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Read articleThe Biggest Loser: Reality TV But Not Reality Living
One of the "hats" I wear now that I'm fully retired from clinical practice as a psychologist for the past couple of years, is Director of Transformational Behavior Coaching for the Premier Fitness Camp, http://www.premierfitnesscamp.com/America's top-rated optimal health, weight management and mindful retreat located at the nation's #1 Wellness Spa at Omni La Costa.
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Read articleThanksgiving: What's It All For?
Don’t tell me you actually believe that Pilgrims, dressed in black, sat down with Indians, wearing feathers and colorful beads, for a big meal of turkey, cornbread, cranberries and pumpkin pie and created what we know as Thanksgiving? If you do, we need to talk. Fast. It’s almost Thanksgiving! Thanksgiving myths persist, largely due to our schools passing down pure nonsense about this holiday from one generation to another. Bet you didn’t know that “Pilgrims” weren’t even introduced as part of the holiday until the late 19th century!
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Read articleF.A.M.I.L.Y.: Father and Mother I Love You
A recent Pew Research Center study of modern parenthood found that more than half of parents say they find it very or somewhat difficult to juggle work and family life. Dad are doing more housework and more moms are being are being paid for working out of the home. And the public is conflicted about what’s best for children. Despite the stresses of family life, today’s parents generally rate themselves well in how they raise their children. And many are looking for additional tools to improve family life.
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Read articleMichael Mantell Wonders: Does Anyone Blush Anymore?
When Dr. Michael Mantell began a recent speeck quoting President John F. Kennedy who said, “So let us begin anew—remembering on both sides that civility is not a sign of weakness and sincerity is always subject to proof" little did he realize he'd touch the life of a mom in the audience. "Dr. Mantell, my kids are learning the worst behavior imaginable from Donald Trump, Hillary Clinton, Ted Cruz, and the disgusting media who drools as they continue to scream headlines that I wouldn't have repeated when I was a child without getting slapped in the face."
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Read articleWhose Store Are You Running?
My family owned shoe stores in Newark, N.J., when I was growing up. I worked in their stores from the time I was seven years old. One day, my grandfather brought me outside to teach me an important lesson. He pointed out the competitor down the street and told me to observe what he was doing. The man didn’t seem to be doing anything much, other than standing in front of his store for quite awhile watching the people come into our family’s store and walking out with bags of shoes.
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Read articleCouples Who Sweat Together Stick Together
Want to get active and healthy while also improving your romantic life? That’s right. The two go hand in hand. If you are conce ed about your spouse’s/partner’s health, his/her weight or activity level, here’s a method for you to be a good role model for health, have some healthy fun with each other, and build a closer relationship--all at the same time.
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Read articleSecrets to Living Well: Victory Not Mediocrity
When it comes to living really well, many confuse doing so with looking good, feeling good, or having the goods. This leads people to chase after such goods as fake tans, plastic surgery, feel good drugs, virtual friendships, the mansion on the hill—preferably overlooking the water, making and spending as much as they possibly can, and erroneously and irrationally believing that they can and, worse, must have it all. We gullibly, foolishly and unquestionably believe the ads designed to sell us this nonsense.
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Read articleCharism: It's Easier Than You Think
George Eliot noted, “It is never too late to be what you might have been.” If who you might have been is someone with more charisma, it’s definitely not too late to learn how to be just that. There you are at the podium, presentation in hand but you’ve got one problem. Your hands are perspired and shaking. You are so busy telling yourself that you don’t have the charisma you need to communicate, captivate and motivate your audience, that you wish the ceiling would collapse and everyone would just run out, saving you from your self-predicted failure.
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Read articleDr. Michael Mantell Joins With The United Nations in Promoting Happiness
Yes, I'm the same Michael Mantell who promotes “the link is what you think” and who believes, OK, thinks, that every emotion we ever have, ever, is first conceived and then anchored in the way we think. It's ALL in your head. Simply put, you not only won’t - but actually can’t- ever have an emotion unless you first think about an event, person, place or situation in a way that creates that emotion. Think otherwise? Try it. See? The link IS what you think!
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Read articleSecrets to Living Well: Victory Not Mediocrity
When it comes to living really well, many confuse doing so with looking good, feeling good, or having the goods. This leads people to chase after such goods as fake tans, plastic surgery, feel good drugs, virtual friendships, the mansion on the hill—preferably overlooking the water, making and spending as much as they possibly can, and erroneously and irrationally believing that they can and, worse, must have it all. We gullibly, foolishly and unquestionably believe the ads designed to sell us this nonsense.
Primary topic: Health Coach and Health Coaching
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Read articleAre You Really Sorry?
How many times have you heard someone say something truly judgmental, obnoxious, hurtful, sarcastic or otherwise inappropriate only to be followed by a “Oh, I was only kidding.” There may also be a, “C’mon can’t you take a joke?” “I didn’t mean it.” Here’s a simple fact: They weren’t kidding. Here’s another simple fact: They weren’t joking. And here’s yet another simple fact: They did mean it.r
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Read articleMichael Mantell on Emotional Eating
Ever notice how many diet books there are? That’s because DIEts don’t commonly work. Think about it. How many people do you know who have DIEted and actually maintained their weight loss? Only 3% to 5% of DIEters who lose weight maintain significant weight loss. Doesn’t sound too good to me, especially with what DIEting can do to, not for, your health. DIEting can lead to binge eating, overeating, chaotic eating patterns, and can teach you to ignore internal signals of hunger and lead you to be out of touch with your body’s natural hunger and satiations signals.
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Read articleSweating the Small Stuff Over the Holidays?
"I'm so hurried at this time of the year, I don't have time to breathe,"my Caffeinated Corner buddy spouted on and on. What's a Caffeinated Corner? Oh, that's the group I see nearly every morning at the local Starbucks where we sit and over coffee and a muffin solve the problems of the world. One recent study of over 2,000 men and women by Lante found that women will be 11% more stressed than men this holiday season.
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Read articleMichael Mantell: How to Realize the Success in Your Head
Dr. Michael Mantell often quotes George Lucas' famous observation, “You can’t do it unless you imagine it.” This applies to elite amateur and professional athletes, CEO’s, high school seniors applying to college, couples on dates, and me writing this article. In fact, it’s a universal inbo power-tool for all successful endeavors.
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Read articleMichael Mantell on Beach Body Madness in March
It’s that time of the year. It all starts popping up in the – often nonsense – media stirring headlines in late March, early April. “Get Flat Abs in 5 Minutes.” Yeah, right. “Get Your Beach Body Now!” Dream on. If you type “bikini body” or “beach body” into your Google search engine, you will come up with more than 39,000,000 “hits.” Why are these terms so popular and what in the world was I even doing looking up these terms? The answer is simple.
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Read articleWhat to Ask If You Meet Your True Love in 2015
With all of the resolutions, intentions, goals and wishes you’ve considered for the new year, 2015, if one of them is to finally meet your true love, your “soulmate,” the person of your dreams, then be sure you take some notes on this article. You may just need them if walking down the aisle during the next 12 months is in your plan. In most Western cultures, close to 100% of people marry by age 50. Marriage has been shown to be healthy for your emotional and physical wellbeing. Still, about half of those that do marry, divorce. And that rate goes up for subsequent marriages.r
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Read articleMichael Mantell's Exercise For The 14 Muscles for Joy
Dr. Michael Mantell coaches people to stir their healing power in the medicine of laughter and play. Living with stress, feeling uptight, being worried, not sleeping, and thinking limiting thoughts, kill the joy in your life—as well as your health and wellbeing.
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Read article"Life is Meant to Be Enjoyed, Not Endured"
“Enjoy when you can, and endure when you must,” counseled Johann Wolfgang von Goethe. But what’s with the “must”, JW? When “must” we “endure”? By the time you finish this column, you’ll realize you don’t need to ever endure life, but rather you can find enjoyment in every moment of it—even when the bills are high, the rent is due, the job is floundering, the family is facing some difficulties and the doctor has some not so welcome news.
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Read articleTo Develop Gratitude Be a Thermostat Not a Thermometer
Here’s the wisest elixir of happiness—gratitude. That’s right, gratitude will fill your storehouse of happiness. What’s this have to do with health and fitness? Plenty.
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Read articleMichael Mantell's Positivity : Here's the Most Positively Positive Step You Can Take for Optimal Living
Dr. Michael Mantell is fond of saying, "what you feed, you grow." When it comes to health, longevity, successful social connections and long-term loving relationships, personal and communal wellbeing, even physical fitness and finances, leading-edge transformational coaches know that optimistic, positive seeds are the no-longer-secret predictive ingredients to living life optimally. As I’ve taught in my coaching for years, “the link is what you think.”
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Read articleMichael Mantell's 10 Rules for Living Well
"Come on, Dr. Mantell, you've practiced psychotherapy for more than 40 years, have been a transformational leadership coach and mentor. You must have some rules to live well that you'd be willing to share." Of course I do, and I'm happy to do so, But first, a question for you. When it comes to living really well, are you confusing doing so with looking good, feeling good, or having the goods?
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Read articleMichael Mantell's Rule When People Suck the Life Out of You: Unsubscribe
Maybe it’s just me. But lately, I’ve run into far too many people who I would best describe as “life-diminishing.” They are filled with judgments, criticisms, and negativity. They are quick to tell others what they must do, what they must refrain from doing, what they should and shouldn’t do, what’s good and not good for them, what is right and what is wrong. As if they know. And besides, who asked them in the first place? Why are they so worried about what others are doing? Maybe it’d be better if they worried about why they worried so much about what others were doing!r
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Read articleWho's Your BFF?
Here’s a wonderful poem on friendship I came across, written by David Leonhardt. Choose friends wisely, the portrait they paintr Is who you are and who you ain't. Friendship is life's great supportr When friends are of the right sort. For all your dreams do they make room, Or bring you down with doom and gloom? You will know a friendship is truer When it brings out the best in you.
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Read articleCatching Your Eye is One Thing, Catching Your Heart is Another
Valentine’s Day may well have started as the Roman version of “match.com.” Young single men and women placed their names in a box, names were drawn randomly and couples were put together as partners for a year. After that it was up to them. Robert Browning pointed to the essence of the foundation of Valentine’s Day when he said, “Grow old with me! The best is yet to be.” And as my teacher and mentor, Albert Ellis, Ph.D. liked to say, “The art of love is largely the art of persistence.”r
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Read articleThe Four Links to Positivity
The self-help blogs and media are filled with useful information about positive psychology, becoming your best self, leading the good life, and the value and benefits of being optimistic, positive and hopeful.
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Read articleWhat to Ask If You Meet Your True Love in 2015
With all of the resolutions, intentions, goals and wishes you’ve considered for the new year, 2015, if one of them is to finally meet your true love, your “soulmate,” the person of your dreams, then be sure you take some notes on this article. You may just need them if walking down the aisle during the next 12 months is in your plan. In most Western cultures, close to 100% of people marry by age 50. Marriage has been shown to be healthy for your emotional and physical wellbeing. Still, about half of those that do marry, divorce. And that rate goes up for subsequent marriages.r
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Read articleEat My "Can't" and Succeed, Feed Your "Can't" and Recede
“Why can’t things ever go right, just once in my life?” “I’m such a ________.” “I’ll never be as good as ___________.” “Why do things never go my way?” “Why can’t I ever succeed, just once?” Sound familiar? Perhaps you’ve tried behavior and habit change methods to help you overcome these types of thoughts. Diets, exercise programs, the newest habit change systems, meditation – guided and not, gratitude jou als, medication, the latest therapy techniques, vacations and even drugs and/or alcohol. Nothing helps.
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Read articleThe Most Important Minute and a Half of Your Month (Not Meant for Children)
Alan and Donna Brauer wrote a very fascinating book, “Better, Safer Sexual Intimacy and Extended Orgasmic Response.” Here’s what they found and reported: • The average human orgasm (not lovemaking) lasts only ten seconds • The average frequency of sexual intercourse for most couples is once or twice a weekr At the same time, sex researchers Cauthery and Cole, authors of "The Fundamentals Of Sex," report that it's possible for some women to orgasm up to 100 times in an hour.r
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Read articleMichael Mantell's 5 Steps to Better Self-Esteem.
A practical article connected into the broader SelfGrowth topic graph.
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