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Here is a simple practice that will help you get what you want in relationship -- in all kinds of relationships actually! Ready? It's just too simple: Say no. Do you say 'yes' when you feel 'no'? Do you avoid confrontation? Does it feel scary when you want to disagree with someone? So much so, that you say just say 'yes' instead? Do you think it's easier to say 'yes'?
When you have something important to share with your sweetie, but feel like all you want to do is blame him (or her) here is exactly what you need to move forward. Take these 4 steps with ease: 1. Take 5-10 minutes to journal what you are upset about (don't skip this very important step!) 2. Re-read what you wrote and highlight every "you" or "s/he" and change them to "I" (this is called "the turn-a-round" according to Byron Katie's The Work) 3. Look over the "I" statements and find nuggets of truth (leave the rest)
Are you tired from all the running around you do each day? Have you been going and going and going? When was the last time you made love with your partner (or yourself?) I'm going to teach you THE most valuable tool for handling the every day stress. Ready? STOP. What?? (Yep, you read correctly - STOP.) The thing is -- it's an energetic thing. It's not easy or we'd all be doing it. It's not simple or you wouldn't be tired. And it's not exactly what you think -- it's deeper, and more subtle, but also wayyyy more powerful than you think! It's an experience. Ready?
What if instead of looking around a workshop (or online even before it starts), or at an event you're at, or party you were invited to, and deciding there's no one there you're attracted to, no "mate material," no one there you want to have sex with...what if... INSTEAD -- you saw EVERYONE AS A POTENTIAL LIFE PARTNER??? How would that be for you? Imagine walking into a room of 100 people, half of them the gender you're attracted to and knowing deep in your heart that all of them are possible life partners, soul mates, dating prospects, lovers? How cool would that be?
(This article is the second one of a series on seeing the Beloved in Everyone). Do you have to BELIEVE that everyone you come across with is a potential life partner? Or best friend? Or lover, beloved in order for this practice to work? Well, YES. But also NO. In some way, this is a "fake it 'til you make it" practice. Because OF COURSE you don't fully believe that everyone in the workshop room is potential love of yours. Not if you ask and respond with your mind, with your thinking/assessing/judging mind.
Are you ready to go deeper into working on your relationship? Ready to learn how to clear a withhold? Yep. That's right -- a "withhold" - something you are holding back from sharing with your sweetie. You know...how you were angry that he left the toilet seat up? Or she didn't buy your favorite kind of cereal but a "store-brand" instead? How many times will she walk past the laundry without folding it and didn't he say he was going to rake the lawn before our first snowfall????? Ugh!!!
In relationships, resentment can often build and build. An amazing tool that can help reduce the negative feelings is ‘clearing a withhold.’ In clearing a withhold with your partner, family member, parent, child, neighbor or friend, the following elements need to be present:
The word puja is a sanskrit word that translates to mean sacred ritual, or ceremony. It is used by the Hinkus, Sikhs, Buddhists and others for a variety of reasons. It is most often used to honor a deity (god or goddess) to celebrate her character traits (and ideally see them as a reflection of what we have inside ourselves, too). A puja happens on specific Hindu or Buddhist holidays. It is also used during specific celebrations like a birth or death, and is basically the prayer and ritual itself to honor the occasion.
Are you wondering how to get started again after being out of the dating scene for so long? Are you wondering if you are still “in the game” - if anyone is going to find you attractive and if you have what it takes to attract someone. If you answered yes to any of those questions, you have a lot in common with most adults who have found themselves single after years in a relationship. Well, I have confidence in you. I believe anyone can rejoin the world of flirting and dating at any point in their lives.
It’s a powerful time right now. The Earth is showing us her power, the dark is entering the light, it’s renewal time for those celebrating the Jewish New Year and on the Hindu calendar it’s the holiest of holidays – Navaratri. If you are feeling tired from all the energy swirling around – I’m not surprised. I am! All of these holidays/events, suggest that it’s time to enrich yourself by pausing, breathing more deeply, taking things in slowly (rather than allowing things to rush past you) and considering carefully and intentionally how you want to spend your time.
Come back to love is a daily practice....actually it's a moment-to-month practice. Every day, I have taken on these 14 beliefs and practices that support me in coming back to love at any time, in every moment....even when it's hard. Our tantra practice is helpful, too, of course! I invite you to join me in the 14 ways I practice Come Back To Love every day. Here they are: 14 Ways to Come Back to Love™ every day (read them slowly) - Treat others exactly how you want to be treated (even when you think they treat you poorly).
So since it’s the holiday time, I am going to jump on the bandwagon with everyone else and talk about APPRECIATION today! A deeply valuable practice that is not widely used. To find out how you can turn your relationship around in 3 easy steps, keep reading…
(This article is the second one of a series on seeing the Beloved in Everyone). Do you have to BELIEVE that everyone you come across with is a potential life partner? Or best friend? Or lover, beloved in order for this practice to work? Well, YES. But also NO. In some way, this is a "fake it 'til you make it" practice. Because OF COURSE you don't fully believe that everyone in the workshop room is potential love of yours. Not if you ask and respond with your mind, with your thinking/assessing/judging mind.
Recently I went through one of those life trials where I might instead think, "Another f---ing growth opportunity!" F.E.A.R was running the show. Do you know some of the acronyms for "fear?" Fck.Everything.And.Run is my favorite. Also, False.Evidence.Appearing.Real another favorite of mine.
Remember when. . . - The scent of your partner’s skin put a flare in your nostrils as you drank in their essence; - You couldn’t keep your hands off each other. Love making could happen anytime and anywhere; - There was an underlying passion to everything you did with each other; - The smallest things mattered Fast forward to the present. . . - You can’t remember the last time you made love; - Your partner is just a part of your daily routine; - Nothing seems to bring you together in passion anymore;
SUMMARY: Puja is an ancient cultural tradition that has unknown roots. Some scholars believe that the practice began during Vedic times (1500 – 600 BCE) where the word puja has been found in the Sutras (which were composed to describe domestic rites, prayers, rituals). In these years, it appears that puja mostly referred to the time when a priest was visiting a home to offer a ritual to the family. A deity was being honored and was considered an invited guest.The puja ritual helped the family embrace the god/goddess’ spiritual essence so that it permeated the home and the people in it.
Are you feeling unfulfilled and disconnected? Single and touch deprived? Feeling the need to share and have someone listen really deeply to you? Ready to discover what it feels like to experience pleasure, passion, joy, and laughter again? BUT JUST CAN'T FIND THE TIME? Allowing other things to get in your way? The simple, exquisite process of intimacy (or into-me-you-see) starts from within—and ultimately transforms every area of your life.
I have sex on the brain! Now, it's not what you think (or rather, I don't really know what you are thinking!) --- well, it is my "work" after all. It's also because I'm going to a talk on Friday night on how to talk to teenagers about sex. I'm interested in hearing what this woman has to say (and heard she was fabulous.) And, we haven't gotten there, or here, yet together, have we? So far we've discussed clearing "withholds", appreciating each other, creating sacred space together. All foreplay!
As I grew up, I was very open-minded when it came to matters involving sexuality. I was also very conscious of my spirituality and the sense that someone or something bigger tha I was involved in my life. The two most intimate aspects of my identity, however, operated totally separate from each other...or so I thought.
Remember those public service announcements? This is your brain…this is your brain on drugs.” An egg sizzles on a hot skillet indicating the harm that drugs can do to your brain. In Tantra, we can apply the exact same visual and words to describe your brain when you have sex except instead of polluting and “frying” your brain with harmful, synthetic drugs, you're actually feeding it powerful, organic drugs which are naturally produced in your very own body. We actually need that natural sizzle in our brains to help promote healing, rest and satisfaction.
Do you wish you could tell your partner what you are feeling more easily? Are you looking for a way to have a productive conversation without playing the blame and shame game? Do your "discussions" sometimes last into the wee hours of the night leaving you exhausted the next day? When you have something important to share with your sweetie, you need these 4 simple steps: 1. Choose the right time for 'you' to have the conversation (consider your time & your energy level) 2. Ask your partner if s/he is willing to talk at that time 3. Be willing to hear 'no' and ask for a better timer
In this article I'd like to take the conscious communication tools a bit deeper -- and teach you how to skillfully share one of THE MOST VALUABLE love tools: Sharing Appreciations. But not just any old appreciations, any old time -- it needs to be 'right' in order to pierce your sweetie's heart (and that feels oh-so-good to receive!) Let's move from "ho hum to yum!" 3 Step Path to Opening Your Heart:
The relationship you have with yourself is one of the most important relationships you will ever have during your lifetime. And even though we spend 100% of our time with ourselves, this relationship tends to be difficult...challenging. Our society places a lot of value on exte al relationships; judging others for whether they are "in relationship with someone else" or not; someone else other than yourself or God.
Greetings from the Sonoma Ashram in Califo ia. It’s a beautiful place to breathe deeply, go inside and pay attention to how I am being with myself. How deeply am I loving myself? What parts of me need even more love?
In the 20 years of leading workshops and guiding couples back to a place of loving connection, I've come to learn that there are certain skills one needs to learn to create lasting successful change inside and out. I have also been able to see and understand the roadblocks: what gets in the way of love and deep connection. One of my areas of expertise is taking apart the puzzle, going deep and seeing/feeling what's really going on beneath the surface. And I also do the same for myself.