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There are a lot of households stressed about money these days. This financial crisis has couples and families of all ages worried. Some fear paying bills, others worry about retirement as they see their savings dwindle. It is often hard to keep the stress and worry from affecting marriages. ...
Sharon and Bill fought a lot about money, children and household chores. The disagreements always began with Sharon’s request in what she thought was a friendly tone but Bill heard as a nagging tone. Bill’s response was generally a defensive one, complaining about her tone or the fact that she ...
Tips for Resolving Conflict 1. Begin your conce or complaint in a positive way. This may involve saying things like “I really liked it when you helped me with the housework yesterday. I would love it if we could do more of our chores as a team.” or “I felt very hurt when you talked badly ...
Are you facing the holidays alone? Many say that they are okay with their “singleness” most of the year but the holidays are really tough. You want someone to go with you to parties, shopping, to share presents, religious and family celebrations. Doing these things alone, ...
What are your partner’s secret desires? If she could do or be anything that she wanted, what would it be? If he could spend time on one new activity, what would that be? Where would she most like to travel? How does he envision retirement? What are some things that your partner would ...
When women cry, men often feel helpless and their first response is to try to problem-solve or to convince their partner that tears are not helpful or the situation is not as serious as she may think. The man’s intentions are certainly good ones as men often say that, while they feel extremely ...
Lose weight, stop smoking, exercise more … all good ideas for New Year’s Resolutions … BUT … have you thought about a resolution to make your marriage better. We could suggest a lot of different resolutions. The ones that we have listed below are our top 7. Talk them over with your spouse. Of course, it will be much better if you both can commit and follow through; however, that if you are the only one who works at it, you can still make a difference.
Consider these questions and answer them honestly about yourself to determine if you know how to be part of an emotionally intelligent and healthy relationship. Think about friends and especially about those you date as a way of determining if they are able to be part of a healthy relationship ...
1. Do special things for him: fix his favorite meal and let him know that you are doing it because you care about him, buy his favorite drinks or snacks, rent a movie that you know he will like, buy him a little gift that shows that you have thought about him and noticed what he likes. 2. Pay ...
Bill finished college, found a job, but really did not have the money to handle all of the living alone costs of a single adult … and have a social life at the same time, so he moved home with his folks. Joe and Patsy love retirement. Joe was 2 years into retirement, Patsy 6 months, when their daughter Sara’s husband left her and their two young children. Sara had not been working while the children were young and her child support could not begin to cover housing and child care expenses.
When women cry, men often feel helpless and their first response is to try to problem-solve or to convince their partner that tears are not helpful or the situation is not as serious as she may think. The man’s intentions are certainly good ones as men often say that, while they feel extremely ...
Falling back in love I love him but I am not in love with him. We seem to have lost that spark and I do not have those same feelings for her any more. We seem to be just roommates … and have lost the good feelings that we once had. Those are words … and feelings … that go ...
While we think that Valentine’s Day is fun for those in a new and loving relationship, we know that it can be a very depressing day for those in unhappy relationships. Here are some tips to help you cope with this day. Lower your expectations. This is not a time to hope for a big change ...
With Valentine’s Day just around the corner, it is time to begin thinking about how to celebrate. Even if it were not the season for romance, couples must continue dating throughout marriage. It is important for connection, nurturing and romance. It reminds people not to take each other ...
The holidays are nearly here and many of us will be spending time with family. For many people this involves seeing relatives that they may only see at this time of the year. We do not always like or agree with all of our relatives and this can bring about stress and tension for days, weeks or ...
A mind-set of saving a marriage changes the way that couples approach a problem. When you think about ways to solve a problem rather than getting a divorce, a myriad of possibilities emerge. George told me recently that there are times when he really feels like giving up on his marriage. The ...
Men are often stuck with the initial bid to date … and choosing someone to ask out. They also generally have to develop the courage to ask the question and handle any “no” or rejection which can take a lot of courage. Women also have to find ways to make themselves ...
Some of the research shows that couples do adapt to each other over time and, in healthy relationships, they each have influence over the other. So … what are the secrets that these couples have that help them to change each other? What do they do? What do they know about how to get their ...
Most people who get married believe that they will stay in love forever … that nature will just take its course and spouses will continue to feel the wonderful love that they felt through the courtship and early marriage. Nothing could be further from the truth! Most people, in most marriages, ...
Many adults are often surprised at how their relationship with siblings changes after parents die. Family traditions stop or change and many siblings find that they feel less connection to their brothers, sisters, nieces and nephews. Parents are often the glue that hold family traditions, ...