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This is my four year old grand daughter Mekenah, and her mother, my daughter Shauna. It looks like they have huge eyes, doesn’t it? The reality is that those huge eyes are just painted on. Their real eyes are closed.
Do You Remember What a Push Me-Pull You Is? In the movie, Dr. Doolittle, a man who could talk to the animals, was sent a very unique animal, called a Push Me – Pull You. It had two heads and two sets of front legs. When one half wanted to move forward, the other half would have to move backward. This caused a lot of confusion and disharmony. Most of the time, the animal just stood still. What is the Push Me-Pull You Syndrome?
We had a family gathering last week that one of my sons refused to attend. One of his brothers had said and done something to him a couple of months earlier that was very hurtful and he refused to come to any activity if his brother was going to be there. What his brother did and said was wrong. I’m not excusing his actions at all. But he did apologize twice. He apologized in his own way, which to many people and certainly to my son, was not an apology at all. So, the apologies were not accepted and now my two sons are estranged from each other. How sad!
What is “Emotional Mud” and how do we get it? As a baby, we were happy, confident, courageous, positive and loving. But something happened. Most of us lost that. Today, less than 1 in 5 women feel good about themselves! We were all raised by imperfect people who were trying to deal with their own “stuff”. They may, or they may not have done the best they could, but each one of us was splashed with our own ”Emotional Mud”. If we came from an abusive home, the emotional mud was dumped on our spirits. If we came from a good home, it was dripped on.
On December 18th, I had the privilege of attending the birth of my sixth grandchild and helping to care for him for the first few days of his life. I think there are few things more soul-filling than to have a new baby sleep on your shoulder; to lightly touch his velvety skin with your cheek and smell that fleeting new baby smell.
Another way that unrelieved stress can hurt your productivity is that it can increase your chances of having an accident. The more physically or emotionally exhausted a person is, the less attention they pay to their surroundings. This inattention and preoccupation makes them far more likely to have an accident.
What causes stress? Most people searching for stress relief don't know what is causing their stress. Whenever I ask people what causes stress in their life, they will usually say "this person" or "that experience". Both answers are wrong. Those things are just exte al events. It is how the person interprets or perceives the event that determines whether or not it is a stressor for them. So how do we interpret events? We interpret events based on our values, beliefs and early childhood conditioning. Everything we are exposed to has to go through this perception filter.
Do you want to know what causes stress or why you have the life stress that you’re experiencing? This simple formula might be helpful: EVENT + PERCEPTION You start with an Event, which is neutral; it is neither good nor bad. You then filter it through your Mental Perception filter to compare it with everything that has ever happened before in your life (whether you remember it or not). Based on your past experiences, you will then assign your own meaning to the Event.
A potential new client sent me an email the other day. One of the things she said really struck me. She said that before she'd heard about me she was just "killing time til she died." I guess the reason it hit me so hard is that is exactly what my mother did. Myrnmother was a bitter, unhappy woman for most of her life. For the last ten years of her life, she was practically a recluse. She would get up at six inrnthe morning and drink coffee, smoke cigarettes and play Solitaire until 2:00rnpm. Then it was happy hour. The coffee pot would be put away and she would drinkr
Have you ever been in a situation you could do Absolutely Nothing about? I have – multiple times. Any one with adult children experiences that total feeling of helplessness and frustration when you see your adult children making harmful choices and there is not a thing you can do about it. The worst ‘can do nothing about experience’ for me was when I found out my six month old son, David, had a rare but very serious form of Muscular Dystrophy. We were told that David would never walk, be able to live a normal life and would probably not live very long.
In previous blogs, we’ve briefly mentioned how unrelieved stress hurts your body and your emotions. My purpose in writing these is not to go into great detail but just to make you aware of the many ways that stress does negatively affect us. Some topics we will revisit in much greater detail. For the next couple of blogs, I want to show how unrelieved stress can hurt your productivity. Productivity basically means how much you are able to get done in a day.
As I was walking along a forest path a couple of days ago, I saw an amazing thing. It was snowing – in July! White puffy flakes were falling from the sky, while the sun was shining! On the ground, was a layer of white. Of course, it was cottonwood seed time and instead of snow flakes, the sky and the ground was full of cotton wood seeds. I noticed something interesting about the way the seeds were falling to the earth. In the sheltered areas, the seeds gently floated to the ground. But in the open areas, the seeds were blown in every direction by the wind.
A few years ago, I attended a network marketing event for Neways in Atlanta, Georgia. It was an international event, with people from all over the world attending. For the opening night, a special program was planned with entertainment provided by each country. A few months before the event, all Canadian distributors got an email, asking for ideas for the Canadian portion of the program.
The Winter Olympics took place in Vancouver, BC this year. Athletes from all over the world have come to compete for the coveted “Gold” medallion; showing that they are the best in the world at their sport.