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A common form of dysfunctional behavior exhibited by parents is one where they take advantage of the child(ren) who has a tendency to be helpful. These child(ren) have fallen victim to the Helpful Child Syndrome (HCS). This is where a particular child, regardless of their age, realizes that he ...
Fear of the unknown creates a rigid, tight-fisted hold on our lives. Not knowing what may be on the other side of the wall is very unnerving. It is easier to be content and comfortable with the known than to put ourselves at risk of feeling discomfort with the unknown. There are several ...
Taking risks is never easy to do. There are so many pros and cons involved that sometimes we quit before we have even gotten started. That job is making you miserable and you want to quit, but you are afraid to lose the security of health benefits and the transit checks. You want to do ...
Going into survival mode is not often a conscious choice. Individuals who live their life in survival mode are oftentimes filled with bitte ess, resentment and anger. It’s not just that they haven’t healed themselves of past hurts. Rather individuals tend to automatically go into survival mode subconsciously after experiencing childhood pain that was inflicted on them. They bring it over into their adult lives as a way of protecting themselves. However, while a person may have automatically been thrown into survival mode there are variables that will trigger their survival mode.
Experiencing changes in one’s life is often seen as an insurmountable task. No one likes going through changes. Not even those who have been through it and have reaped the blessings that came with making those changes. Why? Because going through change is akin to going through a re-birth. It is painful, uncomfortable and downright annoying. It interrupts your life as you know it, it leaves you feeling confused, angry and irritable. Although, if you are feeling all those feelings, chances are you are resisting the changes. How can a person resist change?
Have you ever come across an individual who knocks you down, tear you down over everything that you are about? S/he will criticize you, condemn you and basically let you know or feel that you are an idiot for even thinking what you are thinking or doing what you are doing. Then several months/years later you realize that they are now doing the same thing that they were criticizing you for. Then they turn around start telling you that you should be doing what they are doing. Sometimes there are no words to describe these individuals.
Each and every one of us has emotional wounds, but until we admit it, we will remain in an emotional quagmire that keeps dragging us down. Until we express how we really feel, our healing process will be delayed and we will continue to be drawn to unhealthy situations or unhealthy relationships. Even an unhealthy relationship can be changed into a healthy one if the individuals involved are intent on healing themselves. We block our own healing when we seek to point fingers and blame others for the things they do in our lives.
Walking the path designed for you is not an easy thing to do. Many of you have family obligations and you may have sacrificed your life to help your parents or other family members. You may still belong to the religion of your childhood, working in a job that you grew up seeing others working in and you may feel trapped. You can still be there for your family while walking the path designed for you. All of you including your family each have a path of life that is uniquely yours. And if you are not walking that path you will feel trapped, miserable and unhappy.
We are the Captain on the ship of our lives. Set sail with a goal in mind A destination in sight Chart your course of life, don’t create a map, you’ll only experience Frustration. Sometimes you’ll digress, but don’t despair, Take another route, find another path, make ...
According to the National Institutes of Mental Health (NIMH) one in four women will experience severe depression at some point in life. 1 in 4! That’s a very high statistic. The world population stands at around 7,021,836,029 and 49.75% of that number are females. That means a little less than 50% of the World’s population is females. In the U.S. about 15 million people experience depression each year. The majority of them are women. Unfortunately, nearly two-thirds do not get the help they need. So 1 out of 4 women will experience depression at some point in their lives.
As we get older, we start hearing the little pit patter of feet in our minds. We start having dreams of having a husband, two-door garage complete with two point five kids. You may say that you are ready for a relationship. You are not getting any younger and after all you are a good catch. ...
For someone who has suffered from and struggled with severe depression, I know what it is like to be in a state of utter darkness. Allow me to take you on a quick trip through one of my depressive timeline. Four years ago, I suffered a miscarriage. Sadly, this is something a lot of women experience and they suffer through it alone with little to no support. What is even worse is that there are men who refuse to understand the deep, blinding pain a woman goes through when she loses a child, regardless of the stage of pregnancy or actual birth of a child.
We all know that life can throw many curve-balls that can leave you overwhelmed and ready to give up. When we have so many things going on in our lives the last thing we need is unhealthy behaviours from either friends or families. Don’t for one minute think that you are “allowing” their behaviours in your life. When you are going through difficult times you won’t have the strength to deal with any added issues from friends and families and you shouldn’t have to.
Growing up in a strong religious household, spirituality and religion were the only things that were stressed. Granted we all had to go to school and achieve good grades, but it was all for the showy display that says Christian children do well in school and does better than their counterparts who are not Christian minded. I can remember as far back as eight years of age when I played an April fool's Day trick on my father and I received a spanking for telling a lie. Such jokes were not allowed in our house.
Each and every one of us is a Spiritual Being. We are also Physical Beings. Can we be two things at the same time? Yes, we can and we are. So what does it mean to be both? Well, as Spiritual Beings we live in a physical body. As such we are prone to issues that affect the physical body such as: love, fear, anger, dishonesty, insecurity, disease, heartbreak, depression, fatigue, suicidal thoughts and other ailments of the physical self.
Although English is spoken by a vast amount of people worldwide, it is still not the number one spoken language in the world. So it is safe to say that for those of us who only speak English and find ourselves in a country where English is not the first language or in some cases not spoken at ...
How powerful are those three words, “I Choose Me”? They are so powerful that just by affirming, believing and feeling them, you can release yourself from any unhealthy attachment to a situation or to others. Many individuals tend to lose themselves in unhealthy relationships because they are waiting on their Partner to choose them over someone else. Sadly, that is how they give away their power. Waiting on someone to choose you or to acknowledge you gives them the power to manipulate and control you. I’m sure that is not what you want.
When our mind, heart and body are tired, our Soul will feel drained. Sometimes we push ourselves too much and we forget the natural state of who we are. That’s fine as long as we remember at some point and bring ourselves back in alignment. You can do that by taking a time out from the everyday responsibilities. It’s more than taking time for you. It is taking time from you. A lot of us do not realize that we do need to take time from ourselves.
Have you ever done something and wondered why you did it? Are there things that others have done in your life and you were left wondering why they did it or why did you accept it? Especially if it was an unhealthy and unholy situation? Well, the answers may not be easy to come up with. So how do you get to the why of what you do what you do?
Life is great when everything and everyone in your life is going well. Your career is on track, your relationship is great, you’re looking good and just about everything in Your world is fantabulous. You are on top of the world flying high above the sky. Then one day something happens and everything crashes to the ground. Those that you thought were your friends you now see their true colours. Your career has come to a screeching halt, that fantastic relationship that you thought you had, you are now seeing their true colours coming out.
Being betrayed by a loved one can leave you feeling angry, unwilling to trust again and angry. You may also suffer a blow to your self-esteem and most devastating of all, heart-break. The pain of heart-break is so intense that you feel as if you are losing your mind. Having a deep love for someone will make the pain you feel after the betrayal and hurt that much more intense. Betrayal can occur in any type of relationship.
There are times when others tell us something about ourselves or about life in general or maybe about their own personal experiences that could prove invaluable to us in our self-development journey. But often we tend to ignore the message because our egos raise it's ugly head and we take offense at what is being said or we look at it as well that person lived a traumatic life so his/her message has nothing to do with me. We may be right. That person's traumatic life did not happen to us, but who better to talk about how emotional issues can affect our lives?
Releasing the old from your life can be the hardest thing to do. Maybe it came to the point that it was necessary, but it can leave a deep suffocating feeling that makes you want to undo the releasing. But know that the pain is only temporary and it is important to mou the ending of your relationship with the old. Don't just gloss over it. Grieve and give it a proper burial. You are moving on from a part of your life that had played a major role in your life. So it is important that you grieve the passing of the old, so can begin to celebrate the entrance of the new.
Before I go into this article I would like to make something very clear: NO ONE ALLOWS FEAR TO BLOCK THEIR LIFE! Now some of you maybe balking at that statement, but think about it, if you knew you had fear or if you are feeling fearful, would you really consciously or subconsciously and knowingly allow fear to block your life? No you wouldn't. You would want to do everything in your power to get rid of your fears. Fear is a feeling that comes up in response to all the things we were told as a child.
The Institute of Marriage is not to be entered into lightly. A marriage is about longevity, not about a weekend fling. It should not be entered into with thoughts of, "oh, if it doesn't work out, we can always get a divorce". It is an institution of love, commitment, respect and understanding. This means that excess emotional baggage, which includes childhood issues, past relationship issues and adult insecurities should be worked through before taking that final leap into a committed marriage.
As we begin the New Year, we are faced with a spirit of rejuvenation. Another opportunity to create the life we desire. But how do you go about creating the life you desire? You may resolve to go to the gym more, or attend religious services more often. You may even decide to change jobs and ...
Parents are the primal unit of a family. However, because of a parent’s lack of emotional maturity, their behaviours can result in the creation of a functional or dysfunctional family unit. Dysfunctional families take many forms. When individuals hear the term dysfunctional they may ...
Taking risks is never easy to do. There are so many pros and cons involved that sometimes we quit before we have even gotten started. That job is making you miserable and you want to quit, but you are afraid to lose the security of health benefits and the transit checks. You want to do ...
Each day that we awaken is a new day to take our lives forward. It is an opportunity to create something new, something fresh. No matter what you have gone thru, no matter how painful, how heart-wrenching, you don’t have to be in that situation forever. You do not have to be in pain forever. As dark as things may seem today, your life does not have to be in the darkness forever. There is a light at the end of the tunnel and it is not an oncoming train. ï Right about now you may be saying that you can’t see the light.
Those of us who are care-takers often find ourselves giving way more to others than what we are receiving for ourselves. Somehow we have a concept in our minds that the more we give to others is the more we will receive. The bulk of that concept originated in our childhood. We may not have received the love and attention we deserved as a child, therefore we set out to get it from others. This need is what will push us into unhealthy emotional alliances. However, because we are automatic care-takers, the burden often falls on our shoulders to take care of others.
We live in a world where people are so judgmental, unloving and selfish. Their motivation for anything in life is fueled by greed, power and hunger for total domination or control of others. They only see what they want out of life and they go after it by any means necessary. They do so ...
Who you are, including your dreams, will not be more important to someone else as you will be to you. Yes, you are the only one who will have a vested interest in your life and in your dreams. Many times we want others to value us, we want them to consider us important to their lives and we want them to take an interest in our dreams.
Attaining true wealth and abundance is not something that you have to do exte ally in order to be over-flowing with money. It is what you do on the inside that dictates whether or not you will have true wealth and abundance. Most importantly, it begins with your internal approach towards yourself. If you are always stressing, worrying and struggling to get money, then you are not aligning with your higher self in order to attain true wealth and abundance.