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What do you really believe about relationships, starting with yourself? It is widely accepted that about 90% of our belief system (BS) was formed by the age of 7. To know what we really believe about relationships would be critical as it has shaped how we view them today at least to the extend that we have not re-programmed our BS.
“Life shrinks or expands according to one’s courage." n ~Anais Nin (author and diarist, 1903-1977) Courage is defined in Miriam Webster’s dictionary as 1) “the quality of mind that enables one to encounter difficulties and danger with firmness or without fear; bravery” and 2) to have ...
Most couples believe they need better communication skills and that would change their relationship for the better. They claim that they either argue because of misunderstandings or that one or the other don’t discuss their problems openly. Communication (or lack of it) is often NOT the problem Most couples have re-hashed issues over and over and they know what their partner’s position is. The issue is often that they do not accept the partner’s position and are “trying” to get them to change to see their side. And we know how that usually goes; right? It does not happen.
Limiting beliefs is a powerful thing that can affect you being successful in your business. You can, however, experience greater FREEDOM as you begin to explore your beliefs and experience true transformation.
Our most intimate partners know how to trigger us. Sometimes we get annoyed or even angry. We take the bait and we’re in reactive mode. It’s not a matter of “if” we will get triggered, it’s a matter of how often and what we can do to stay grounded and accept the gift being offered.
“So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then when we summon the will, they soon become inevitable” ~Christopher Reeve
Self love; this is a powerful practice we explored last month. We have heard often how crucial it is to our authentic success and joy. There is one very insidious trap that sabotages self love; something many of us may be all too familiar with… Comparing…
TRAINING YOUR DRAGON THOUGHTS Thoughts become things... so choose the good ones! ~Mike Dooley I tell people: If you don't want to get into positive thinking, that's OK. Just eliminate all the negative thoughts from your mind, and whatever's left will be fine. ~Bob Rotella
Business Success & Intimate Relationships Are you an entrepreneur or small business owner? If so, do you realize how much your intimate/primary relationship matters to your business success? Really think about this for a moment.
1. First, take a look at your life and what you keep putting off and make a list of what needs to be done. Once you decide, write it down; it’s harder to ignore something written down. The written word is also powerful and can release pent up energy and emotions. Be gentle with yourself. Usually I will get in a calm mood, have beautiful music on and light a candle while I do this process. When you are scattered and unfocused it is difficult to do much and stay on task, right? 2. Prioritize the list- put your most urgent task/need in the number one position and so on.
There is a reason you picked your partner, and there is a reason why you have friction in your relationship. The areas that are still unresolved are due to the inability to overcome the potentially meaningful challenges. If you are willing to take full responsibility for your life and make a decision that is in your own best interest then from here on out it must be with this purpose in mind. Often couples wonder how they can make sense of their differences.
Tuning Out the Outer Criticr In my work with hundreds of men and women who are choosing greater success in designing their future, one major challenge they often experience, is listening to, and being affected by the voice and opinions of others. Taking in the criticism of others and being affected for a short while is one thing; it is quite another thing when it stops you from living your authentic life.
THE PRACTICE OF GRATITUDE "It is necessary, then, to cultivate the habit of being grateful for every good thing that comes to you, and to give thanks continuously. And because all things have contributed to your advancement, you should include all things in your gratitude". ~Wallace Wattles Gratitude An active, powerful, spiritual practice. It allows us to see and experience things differently when we are open to this. It can shift our perspective much like the practice of forgiveness.
Habits begin with a decisionr We may not think of procrastination as making a decision yet this is exactly what happens. We decide to put off what needs to be done for a later time. We rationalize why we are doing this and believe it. According to Bob Proctor,”the only thing worse than an excuse is a really good excuse.” What excuses do you have for putting off those things you know you must do?
"Until one is committed, there is hesitancy, the chance to draw back, always ineffectiveness. Conce ing all acts of initiative and creation, there is one elementary truth the ignorance of which kills countless ideas and splendid plans: that the moment one definitely commits oneself, then providence moves too. All sorts of things occur to help one that would never otherwise have occurred. A whole stream of events issues from the decision, raising in one's favor all manner of unforeseen incidents, meetings and material assistance which no man could have dreamed would have come his way." ~W.H.
USING THE WILL CORRECTLY "So many of our dreams at first seem impossible, then they seem improbable, and then when we summon the Will, they soon become inevitable" rn~ Christopher Reeves INCONSISTENT RESULTS Have you ever wondered how sometimes you get great results, and yet other times have inconsistent results when dealing with the same situation? I wondered until I began to understand a very powerful mental faculty that I was often using incorrectly. USING THE WILL CORRECTLY
There is a genius to courageous loving because we have to access something we've forgotten and make it a real part of our lives again. It exists in each and every one of us yet it takes courage to access it. We can only access it when we become aware and we are ready for it. I believe, we are all born geniuses and then programmed for mediocrity. Mediocrity can be far worse than failure because it "dumbs us down" and we settle for relationships that are not fulfilling, jobs that deplete our energy and we don't love our other situations that do not support us to live in our genius.
Have you ever found yourself thinking about your crazy schedule and experiencing a time crunch that impacts the quality time spent on your relationship? Balancing work and family with couple time, is a major conce that most couples express. You may see yourself in part in the following scenario: The over-scheduled dilemma
“All you have shall some day be given; Therefore give now, that the season of giving may be yours and not your inheritors.” ~Kahil Gabrain ~ Giving is the first fundamental law of life-and is the first law of all creation. ~ There is a right and wrong way to give and receive. We are continually drawing unto ourselves what we give and expect.
The science of manifesting your vision is all about holding the vibration of your vision. Another way of saying this is that to manifest your vision, i.e.: take it from the invisible to material form; you will need to change your thinking and your energy. Einstein said that, “Problems cannot be solved by the same level of awareness that created them.” Applying this concept to our vision, although we may not see it as a “problem” there is the gap of where we currently stand and the vision itself….the life we’d love to live.
Failure as a Welcome Friend “Be of good cheer. Do not think of today's failures but of the success that may come tomorrow. You have set yourselves a difficult task, but you will succeed if you persevere; and you will find joy in overcoming obstacles. Remember, no effort that we make to attain something beautiful is ever lost". ~Helen Keller
Have you ever found yourself doing the same things day after day and you begin to wonder, “Is this all there is to my life?” If you remember the movie, Groundhog Day, you get the picture. Also known as living in the comfort zone, this place can be seductive for all of us. We are often very comfortable, of course and that can have us reacting and responding to our partners in automatic, habitual ways. This is far from sexy! We are meant to live in our zone of genius and when the comfort zone gets boring and downright uncomfortable that is actually a time for celebration.
What do you really want? Once you get clear about this the Law of Sacrifice comes into play.
Some of you may have studied the topic of powerful Universal Laws. These laws are working whether we are aware of them or not much like the law of gravity or electricity. First we must understand that the universe operates in an orderly manner-with precision so the earth stays rotating in a certain path and does not collide with other planets or our sun which would of course have catastrophic results. We see this also in nature….nature is orderly even when there are storms, typhoons, hurricanes earthquakes, etc, there are predictable patterns.
THOSE INSIDIOUS PARADIGMS-HOW TO SHIFT THEM We don't see things as they are, we see things as we are.rn~Anais Nin Our Paradigms create our Reality "Your paradigm is so intrinsic to your mental process that you are hardly aware of its existence, until you try to communicate with someone with a different paradigm." ~Donella Meadows Our paradigms are the filter through which we see our reality. Paradigms are often sub-conscious beliefs handed down to us by others. We pick up these beliefs often as young children, well before we truly understand them intellectually.
Are you a business owner/entrepreneur who feels challenged when you hear the word “marketing”? Does this conger up a bit of fear, some negative/limiting self talk, beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors? You love what you do so you just want the people to come to you by the Law of Attraction and forget about marketing your business. If this sounds vaguely familiar you are not alone. Yet, in order to have a thriving business you must market- and you know this, so let’s talk about things you can do now to reframe this challenge to make it an OPPORTUNITY.
QUANTUM LEAPS This term comes from the vocabulary of quantum physics and is described as the most powerful science ever conceived by human beings; yet as we are always evolving we might add, up until now. Tomorrow new technology will reveal more about our universe and how we fit into it. According to Price Pritchett, who wrote the amazing book, You 2, this information “has staggering implications regarding you, your potential, and the power of your mind.”
Are you and your sweetheart running a business together or thinking about it? These unique partner run businesses are on the rise. If you are one of the 2.5 million and growing spouse run businesses, or you work with them here are two areas to address from the get-go for greater success: Inevitable Conflicts and How they Get Resolved
Are you in business with a spouse or significant other or do you know people including family members who are? If so, you may understand there are some very unique challenges in these types of businesses that require attention. * Because these family run businesses are the backbone to our economic stability there is high value in them thriving. There are approximately 2.5 million spouse-run companies in the US alone.