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No one gets a free pass when it comes to healing from heartbreak. I’m not just referring to the grown up kind when we breakup with a lover, I’m referring to the heartbreak we experience as the natural result of just being a human being.
Do you need more intimacy in your relationship? This may be a hard question to answer. You may be experiencing “physical intimacy” with a man but you can mistake that for being truly intimate. But there comes a time after you’ve been dating a while when you have to ask yourself — am I feeling emotionally close to him? You might care for your man deeply but struggle with the fact you can’t get him to open up to you beyond having somewhat superficial conversations. You try to tell him more of what you’re thinking and feeling but find that he’s not reciprocating.
No matter where you are on your journey to romance there is always a reason to get more love in your life. The magical thing about love is that it’s free; you can’t buy it, trade it or win it in a lottery. Love is an action you extend to others that benefits you more than it does them.
I recently received this question that I believe a lot of women can relate to. 'Should I Marry Him' wrote: I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 years and we live together. I’m 36 and he’s 38. He’s told me many times that he wants to marry me but he needs more time before he settles down for good. I really want to have children and I’m afraid to wait any longer. He says he wants children too but he’s just not ready. He’s a good man so I don’t know if I should wait to marry him or not. How can I get him to marry me? My Answer: Dear 'Should I Marry Him,'
I want to spare you the disappointment of getting your hopes up over a man who's going to waste your time, get you to fall for him and then leave. You can find out early in a relationship which men are good prospects for marriage and avoid a lot of heartache. But you need to pay attention, you can't sweep things you don't want to see under the rug or pretend they don't matter. You don't want to make the mistake of giving up your heart and your freedom to a man who only wants to use you.
We’ve all been there, a phone clutched tightly in hand waiting for him to text, email or call. So afraid you might miss him, you carry the phone from room to room, from place to place. You check your phone a hundred times while you refresh the mailbox again and again. You send an email to yourself just to make sure the mail program is working properly. If your friend calls you don’t pick up. Instead of welcoming her call, you’re annoyed by the interruption and it reminds you how it hurts that it’s not him.
One reason your relationships tend to fail is that you start out well enough, but then slowly, without realizing it, you start to give away your power. This process is insidious and before you know it, instead of having a healthy give and take, the relationship has lost its balance. When you give your power away it erodes your self-esteem and you start to feel a sense of unease and resentment. This affects how you show up as half of a couple and can’t help but create tension and dissatisfaction.
Where are all the good men?! I asked myself this question over and over again when I was dating and trying desperately to find a man to marry. For years I was a magnet for men who weren’t good for me, men who were not the marrying kind. I couldn’t stop myself from dating them and getting involved in unfulfilling and unhealthy relationships. I felt like a victim, a walking target for men who were narcissistic, self-centered and cruel.
I feel compelled to write this warning to all you wonderful women who have been reading my blog for the last 3 years. I want to tell you about my newest client and give you a heads-up if you’re Internet dating. Marcie is 52 years old and a highly accomplished woman. She’s recently divorced from a long marriage and has a beautiful 24-year-old daughter. She’s a world traveler and has spent much of her life helping women to find their authentic voice and their true-life path.
Jealousy… is a mental cancer. ~B.C. Forbes Jealousy will make you crazy. When you are in its grip the feeling is almost unbearable. It can make you physically sick and unable to focus on anything else. Jealousy will compel you to do things and say things you will later regret and you can never take back. Jealousy can single-handily destroy a good relationship.
There are few exceptions to this rule and at the moment I can’t even think of any! If you’re faking it in any area of your relationship it’s only a matter of time before it comes back and bites you. Once you’ve faked it, you’ve painted yourself into a corner with only two options: staying in the corner or walking away and messing up the paint. Here’s a really good example of making things hard for yourself by faking it.
“For all ete ity you will be with you. There is no escaping your Self.”rn~ Jacob Glass If there were ever a reason to make the effort to love and appreciate who you are, this would be it. Just imagine you’ll be keeping yourself company for all time — so you better find a way to enjoy who you are. There are many benefits to loving yourself – one is having that love to give in a relationship. As they say, “You can’t give what you don’t have.”
I wish you could see the picture of my dog, Buddy, I am holding. When we rescued him he had a mouthful of rotten teeth. The vet had to remove 22 of his teeth. When we brought him home I noticed he looked different. Because of his missing front teeth his tongue now lolls out the side of his mouth most of the time. I find it endearing. This “flaw” has made me love him more and gives him a distinction that is uniquely his.