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There Is No Quick & Easy One-Size Fits All Success Prescription. So Why Do You Keep Looking? Byr Bill Cottringer Do not go where the path may lead, go instead where there is no path and leave a trail.rn~Ralph Waldo Emerson.
A Better Relationship in a Weekr By Bill Cottringer No matter how good or bad your present relationship is it can always be better with minimal planning, effort, and cost. And in this economy that is a pretty good deal! Here is a very practical and easy way to have a better relationship in just one enjoyable week. Carry out the seven following suggestions Monday through Sunday next week and watch your relationship satisfaction thermometer rise above your expectations (Helpful hint: Holiday time is great for getting in the mood and having it stick around afterwards). Monday
JUDGMENTS, DEFENSIVENESS, UNDERCURRENTS, FESTERING & FAI ESSnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D. Sooner or later conflict occurs in any relationship. A particularly difficult conflict is when one person thinks or acts one way about something that is diametrically opposed to the other person’s ...
Basic Beliefs that Block SuccessnBy Bill Cottringe n“It is my belief, you cannot deal with the most serious things in the world unless you understand the most amusing.” ~Winston Churchill. Sara is a very positive thinker, John is as smart as a whip and they are both very happy and ...
“There is no squabbling so violent as that between people who accepted an idea yesterday and those who will accept the same idea tomorrow.” ~Christopher Morley. This article title is not a rhetorical question at all. In fact it might be one of the most important questions to ask and answer as we approach what some self-growth, human potential gurus suspect to be the dawn of a “new conscientious” in the on-going evolution of our civilization, at the important date of 2012.
The Obvious But Most Misunderstood Quality Behind Success Byr Bill Cottringer “I look for a role that hopefully I feel empathy with and that I can understand and love, but also that has that challenge for me to play - a different kind of role, a different type of character, a different time period.” ~Kathy Bates
GUIDE FOR THE PERPLEXED: Maneuvering Through The Self-Improvement Overloadnn“The more you know, the less you have to say.” ~Jim Rohn. I was very encouraged to read some recent research on the younger post-MTV consumer generation. The good news is that this younger generation is fed up with ...
Two Tantamount Truths Byr Bill Cottringer “Conscience is no more than the dead speaking to us.” ~Jim Caroll
THE TERRIBLE TWINS WITHIN (ANY RELATIONSHIP) By William Cottringer, Ph.D. There are two terrible twins that can rear their ugly head in any relationship and take it South in a New York second, if not managed properly. The two terrible twins within are expectations and control. Although ...
Humility Is At Least Half-King By Bill Cottringe nn There is one critical virtue I can’t get enough of these days and I don’t think we ever appreciate its ultimate importance and value until the lack of it comes back to bite us in our butts. I think humility should be right up there with ...
Ten Life Lessons You Can Only Learn the Hard Way Byr Bill Cottringer “âThough nobody can go back and make a new beginning, anyone can start over and make a new ending.” ~ Chico Xavier.
LIKABLE COMMUNICATIONnby William Cottringe nn“Our brains quickly perceive others to be likeable, neutral or unlikeable; the words that follow verify that initial perception.” ~The author. Ron and Jennifer are both successful professionals. Jennifer is on the top of her career as a CEO ...
CONTROLLING VS. MANAGING BEHAVIOR Byr Bill Cottringer “One of the biggest sources of frustration comes from trying to control the uncontrollables; on the other hand, great satisfaction comes from gradually learning to manage the controllables better.” ~The author. Control: To exercise authoritative or dominating influence over; to direct or command. Manage: To succeed in accomplishing, sometimes despite difficulty or hardship; to exert influence over for the better.
THREADING YOUR NEEDLE WITH LIFE’S ROPE By Bill Cottringe nnn A great challenge and opportunity we all have in life is to be successful in threading our needle with life’s rope. This is our main success quest behind all that we do. The keys to this quest are in understanding the rope, ...
Ten Best Ways to Build a Quality Work Culture Byr Dr. Bill Cottringer “To win in the marketplace, you must first win in the workplace.” ~Doug Conant, Campbell Soup.
Sigmund Freud was certainly right about one thing. Human beings do have a ‘personality trinity’ that actually reflects many such equivalent three-part government and social systems. However, I think the three concepts originally used may not convey the relevant story today. ...
Ten Teaching & Training Tricks That Stick byr Bill Cottringer “No one learns as much about a subject as one who is forced to teach it.” ~Peter Drucker. Although Peter Drucker has a good point, having a full bag of teaching and training tricks can certainly help improve the learning for everyone involved. Below are ten tried and true teaching and training tricks that stick like duct tape. This short list is just from my experience and so if these don’t have any resonance value for you, I challenge you to make your own list!
Four Places To Be On The Growth Continuum And Three Of Them Are Bad BynBill Cottringe n“If we are growing, we will always be out of our comfort zone.” ~John Maxwell. Sorry about the gloom and dome title, but it’s true, just like throwing a pass in football—three things can happen and two ...
Why Somebody Else Can’t Tell You How To Be Successful And Happy. BynBill Cottringe n“Success and happiness are what you get from doing what you have to do to get them.” ~The author. What do you suppose all these folks have in common? • All the present living presidents. • All the academy ...
What We All Want and The Simple Game We Play to Get ItnBy Bill Cottringe n“Life is very simple; men insist upon making it complicated.” ~Confucius. It has taken me 4 decades of self-improvement giving and receiving, but I think I finally understand the penetrating meaning of the above ...
“The Truth About Success That Most Of Us Need To Know.” Byr Bill Cottringer “To succeed in life you need two things: Ignorance and confidence.” ~Mark Twain.
Common Sense Life Mission-Based Alignment Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense and a sense of humor are the same things moving at different speeds.
The Four Crucibles of SuccessnBy Bill Cottringe n Every success has four crucibles that make nothing go to something, and close the gap between dreaming and reality: The Head, Heart, Soul and Hands. We know now, the energy that is transformed between these four crucibles is what shows up ...
The Three Core Conflicts byr Bill Cottringer “Unresolved conflicts usually return as noisier versions with more intensity, vengeance and difficulty.” ~The author.
What’s Behind the Curtain of the Political Divide in America? Byr Bill Cottringer “We divided ourselves among caste, creed, culture and countries but what is undivided remains most valuable: a mere smile and the love.” ~Santosh Kalwar.
Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.
SUCCESSFUL SUPERVISION: SEVEN SURE SOLUTIONS Byr Bill Cottringer “You cannot teach a man anything. You can only help him discover it within himself.” ~Galileo Galilei.
Ten Important ‘Yes, Buts…’ of Happiness to Keep in MindnBy Bill Cottringe n“The good ole days weren't always good, and tomorrow ain't as bad as it seems.” ~Billy Joel. The path to the most rewarding things in life always seem to be singular, but they do have some “yes, but…” side paths ...
LETTING GO OF ‘WHAT YOU KNOW’ MANAGEMENT THINKINGnBy Bill Cottringer What It’s All About It’s not about— How smart you are, Who you know, Where you’ve been, Or what you have; It’s not about you, Or what you’ve done, Or left undone. Here’s what it’s about: Your silent surrender— The ...
Trust: The Stuff That Holds Relationships Together Byr Bill Cottringer “You don't develop courage by being happy in your relationships every day. You develop it by surviving difficult times and challenging adversity.”rn~Epicurus Successful relationships are built on unconditional love. Without the following implied assurances that collectively define such unconditional love, any degree of compatibility in a relationship is subject to erosion by tiny trust termites which will eventually eat through the foundation of the relationship:
BECOMING SINGLE-MINDEDnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnnn“Self-consciousness creates the illusion that there is a separate self from the rest of reality. That would be the funniest mistake in the world if so many people weren’t so convinced that the illusion is really true.” ~ The author. ...
What Is It About Henry or Mary? By Bill Cottringer “Defensiveness is usually someone silently screaming that they need you to value and respect them in disguise. When you look for deeper meanings behind someone’s pain you can then begin to heal not only yourself, but others.” ~Shannon L. Alder
From Falling in Love, to Being in Love, to LovingnBy Bill Cottringe nn Over four decades of trial and error in relationships have taught me a valuable lesson. This lesson is to slow down and learn to listen to the lesson. The main purpose of a relationship is to get you to do something to ...
BynBill Cottringe n“Faith doesn’t fixate on the ownership of absolute truth of the mystery of life, it allows our experience and understanding of this mystery to grow as it may, with or without our belief and consent.” ~The author. One process seems most real to me—the creative ...
Dangers of a Divided Mind Byr Bill Cottringer “Warning: A divided mind misses half of everything but deludes you into believing you have the whole truth. So, if you want to get twice as much done in half the time in finding the whole truth, rejoin your divided mind.” ~The Author.
“Success is what you do and get from finding the abundance that has your name on it.” n~ The author. At home and work, we are all part of realities we often don’t particularly like and sometimes desperately want to make better. These realities can be uncomfortable conflicts in ...
Lost in Translation Byr Bill Cottringer Hagar the Horrible was giving worldly advice to his your Viking son. He says, “The secret of happiness is be content with what you got,” …so, he continues, “get enough.” ~Dik Browne.
REALITY INSTRUCTIONS FOR KIDSnBy Gandpaw Billnn“One generation plants the trees; another gets the shade” ~Chinese Proverb. My oldest granddaughter, Hannah Banana form Metropolis Illinois (the real home of Superman, no joke!), reminded me (and I have to remind her she did this) that nobody ...
“Whenever you're in conflict with someone, there is one factor that can make the difference between damaging your relationship and deepening it. That factor is attitude.” ~William James. What is this hurricane that disrupts all relationships at work and home? In two words: Wrong ...
The Ego DietnBy Bill Cottringe nn “Learning that just increases self-importance and autonomy, isn’t really learning at that point, it is over-nourishment of the ego, just like too much food causes the body to become obese.” ~The author.nnn We pretty well understand the importance of ...
Some Uncommon Sense Needed todayr Byr Bill Cottringer “You can see a lot by observing and hear a lot by listening.” ~Yogi Berra
What Causes Unhappiness? (And Why This Question is Important) BynBill Cottringe n“An unanswerable question: Are good vs. bad and fair vs. unfair dualistic, subjective judgments a human invention just to know one from the other, or do things actually have an innate positive vs. negative flavor ...
Slowing Down to Understand the Real Purpose of Life Byr Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy, successful and have peace of mind; but rather to learn how to be happy doing the few things that will result in a sense of progress at having greater happiness, success and peace of mind.” ~The author.
PASSWORDS TO THE LAND OF PLENTY By Bill Cottringe nn In spite of the fact that far too many people are just surviving un-plentiful lives of quiet desperation, a thriving ride to the Land of Plenty does exist for us all. However, long ago when we decided to come to this life, we hid away the ...
What Is The Moral of Your Story? Byr Bill Cottringer “The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson. The answer to this intriguing title question involves an assumed answer to three underlying possibilities: • Do we all have a common purpose in this life with set success rules to carry it out ?
A Sensible Spiritual Viewpoint to Seriously Consider Byr William Cottringer, Ph.D.
Growing Old Gracefully Byr Bill Cottringer “Age is an issue of mind over matter. If you don't mind, it doesn't matter.” ~Mark Twain.
Dealing With Early Negative Downloads That Now Control Most of Your LifenBy Bill Cottringe n What can you do about all the negative, unconscious downloads that occurred before age six, that now flood your mind with overwhelming self-sabotaging beliefs that you are not even aware of? This ...
IS THERE A POINT OF NO RETURN IN RELATIONSHIPS?nby Bill Cottringe nn“There is a point at which everything becomes simple and there is no longer any question of choice, because all you have staked will be lost if you look back. This is life's point of no return.” ~Dag Hammarskjold.nnn I have ...
Seven Simple Reality Repair RulesnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Reality is what persists and accumulates when you finally see past what you think you are looking at.” ~The author. The modern science of quantum physics have proved a remarkable paradigm-shifting truth that has enormous ...