Better Success with More Failure
Better Success with More Failure byr Bill Cottringer It is not the things in life that bothers us, but rather our opinions about these things. ~Epictetus.
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Winning In Life
n“Winning isn't everything, but the will to win is everything.” ~Vince Lombardi. After decades of mixed results—of both enjoying happiness and a sense of accomplishment in succeeding, and not enjoying the bruises, bumps, bleeding and broken bones of failing—I finally figured out a simple ...
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Read articleWhole-Brained Thinking
Whole-Brained Thinking © 2021 William Cottringer “A wise person uses intelligence to find reasons to support intuition.” ~The author.
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Read articleWriting Options
Writing Options Byr Bill Cottringer “There is nothing to writing. All you do is sit down at a typewriter and bleed.” ~Ernest Hemingway. Writing is both an art and science involving both the right and left hemispheres of the brain, including the thinking and feeling brain functions. Many great writers feel that they didn’t intentionally choose the profession of writing, but rather writing choose them as its available conduit. The better writers have lost their egos along the way.
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Read articleAn Epiphany About Intentionality
An Epiphany About Intentionalityr By Bill Cottringer “All things considered, the concept of willfulness loses sight of too many of them.” ~The Author.
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Read articleMake Your Point!
Make Your Point! Byr Bill Cottringer “The single biggest problem in communication is the illusion that it has taken place.” ~George Be ard Shaw.
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Read articleFuriously Frustrated
Furiously Frustrated Byr Bill Cottringer In my previous article, “Seeds of Anger,” I think I overlooked the main problem with which we should have more empathy for ourselves and others. The real problem of our day is the frustration that leads either a quiet life of desperation or extreme stress, anger and even violence, or at least vacillating somewhere between these extremes. In our life stories we all get confronted with three types of conflicts: • Us vs. life. • Us vs. others. • Us vs. ourselves.
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Read articleTrapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve?
Trapped Under the Middle Part of the Bell Curve? Byr Bill Cottringer “Refuse to be average. Let your heart soar as high as it will.” ~W.A.Tozer.
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Read articleAsking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And Play
Asking Good Questions To Increase Satisfaction In Work, Relationships And PlaynBy Bill Cottringe n Sometimes real success involves flip-flopping the traditional sequence in which we approach things. Then we end up wondering why something doesn’t feel quite right, like the tail seems to be ...
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Read articleTen Best Success Door Openers
Ten Best Success Door Openers byr Bill Cottringer “If you really want to do something, you will find a way. If you don’t, you will find an excuse.” ~Jim Rohn. There are lots of ways to find to do something or the excuses if you don’t. In the meantime, here are the best-known door openers to success: 1. Learn, Grow and Improve.
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Read articlePeace of Mind
Peace of Mind byr Bill Cottringer “When you've seen beyond yourself, then you may find, peace of mind is waiting there.” ~George Harrison. The amount of peace of mind we have, like happiness, contentment and other states of mind, depends largely on who we define the concept. It may be easier to state a few examples of what we all know is not peace of mind: • Mental turmoil from unresolved conflicts. • Unwanted, painful interactions with family or friends. • Defensiveness from exposure of vulnerabilities and insecurities.r
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Read articleThe Big Three Gap Closers
The Big Three Gap Closers byr Bill Cottringer Building on what we have in common always seems to be more productive than over-focusing on the sometimes annoying, noisy and irritating differences we have between us. Two early psychologists gave us some important clues about what we all have in common in living our lives. Abraham Maslow gave us the hierarchy of essential needs we all seek to satisfy. These are safety and security, physical comfort, belonging, self-esteem, love, meaning and self-actualization
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Read articleSEVEN HELPING PILLARS
SEVEN HELPING PILLARSnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Unless someone like you cares a whole awful lot, nothing is going to get better. It's not.” ~Dr. Seuss.nnn We are all born with an innate desire to be successful and help others. There is wisdom in the saying, “you can best help ...
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Read articleTen Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery
Ten Essential Elements of Violence Trauma Recovery byr William Cottringer Ph.D. There are wounds that never show on the body that are deeper and more hurtful than anything that bleeds.rn~Laurell K. Hamilton, Mistral's Kiss. Building Blocks (the basement). 1. Supportive Communication.
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Read articleReality is Not What it Seems
Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.
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Read articleSound Like The Truth?
SOUND LIKE THE TRUTH? By Bill Cottringe n Why is it important to “sound” like you are speaking, reading or writing the truth? If it is so important, how can you make sure you are doing it? First question first. 1. First of all, our perceptions and versions of the truth are what we act on, ...
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Read articleAnticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired
Anticipating and Avoiding Getting Fired Byr Bill Cottringer “If you intend to go to work there is no better place than right where you are; if you do not intend to go to work you cannot get along anywhere. Squirming and crawling about from place to place can do no good.” ~Abraham Lincoln.
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Read articleGoing From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth
Going From The “What To Do” To “How To Do It” Level Of Self Growth Byr Bill Cottringer “Patience is waiting. Not passively waiting. That is laziness. But to keep going when the going is hard and slow - that is patience.” ~anonymous. The common purpose of life for us all seems to be to learn, grow and improve into our best selves. Why is this? It is because this road gets us all the things we want—wealth, health, influence, meaning, happiness, success, contentment, peace of heart and sense of accomplishment in making a difference.
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Read articleHuman Capital Leadership Essentials
Human Capital Leadership Essentials Byr Bill Cottringer “Before you are a leader, success is all about growing yourself. When you become a leader, success is all about growing others.” ~Jack Welch. If the dreadful COVID-19 pandemic taught the gamut of private business world, non-profits, and public government organizations anything, it is two critical things: (a) the need to be more people-centered, and (b) the requirement to be more agile and adaptable to change. Today, these two realities are widely acknowledged but unfortunately not so widely applied in actual practice.
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Read articleLight Their Fires
LIGHT THEIR FIRESnby William Cottringe nn Knowing how to motivate employees is an important part of any supervisor’s toolbox. Fortunately you don’t have to be a psychologist to be an effective motivator. All you have to do is apply practical people principles in a common sense way. Below ...
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Read articleWHY PRISONS DON”T WORK (AS WELL AS THEY COULD)
WHY PRISONS DON'T WORK (AS WELL AS THEY COULD) Byr William Cottringer “Men simply copied the realities of their hearts when they built prisons.” ~ Richard Wright. I do not want to offend all the good people who have devoted their entire careers to positive prison reform, but the very nature of the prison business is conservative, and so changes for the better are necessarily slow in coming. But let’s consider a few reasons for the current, somewhat bleak state of affairs.
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Read articleWe Are Alike & We Are Different
We Are Alike & We Are Different Byr Bill Cottringer “It is a darn shame that we spend so much time arguing and being annoyed with our differences, and not enough time understanding and celebrating them.” ~The Author. An important insight to apply for success is knowing the commonalities we have in unity as human beings and the differences that separate us and make us all different. Our unique ability of self-consciousness already separates us from the rest of life and that should be quite enough separation.
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Read articleTWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUT
TWO BIBLICAL CHALLENGES TO FIGURE OUTnBy Bill Cottringe n“Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are.” ~Be ice Johnson Reagonnnn There are two very powerful Biblical challenges that have provoked me for years in the search for ...
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Read articleAre You A Worry Wart?
Are You A Worry Wort? Byr William Cottringer, Ph.D. “You know you are in big trouble when you start worrying about how much you are worrying.” ~ The Author.
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Read articleFinding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight
Finding The Point Of Entry In The Dark Without A Flashlight By Bill Cottringer What do these people have in common besides the first letter of their first name? • John has been a successful salesman in the technology field for longer than he can remember but his company finally gave up the ...
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Read articleFinding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Within
Finding Your Own Underlying Mental Health Withi BynBill Cottringe n“The obscure takes awhile to see, but the obvious even longer.” ~Unknown author. Just about the time I finally think I have the main purpose of life figured out, up pops something else with a slightly different flavor and ...
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Read articleTwo Burning Questions That Keep Popping Up Like the Gopher-Bopping Game at Carnivals
Two Burning Questions That Keep Popping Up Like the Gopher-Bopping Game at Carnivals By Bill Cottringe n“Bold questions deserve bold answers.” ~ The author.nnn There are two burning questions that keep popping up in my life, just like the gopher-bopping game at carnivals. Bop them down ...
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Read articleCOLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIP
COLLABORATIVE LEADERSHIPnBy Bill Cottringe n n“A leader is a dealer in hope.” ~Napoleon Bonaparte. And so the opening question is when have we needed hope more than today, if it is just help to be more optimistic in seeing past the ornery information overload that is burying us all? ...
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Read articleDivide and Conquer
Divide and Conquer Byr Bill Cottringer “Divide and rule, the politician cries; Unite and lead, is watchword of the wise. ~Johann Wolfgang von Goethe, Gedichte. In war, the divide and conquer rule has always gotten the expected results. Ironically though, this same principle can also be useful in bringing peace to the Divide in our country. The conquering of the Divide requires more dividing to understand the real problem. The Divide
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Read articleFROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER
FROM KNOWING BETTER TO DOING BETTER BynBill Cottringe nn This title is a logical progression from the last article—“Decreasing Uhappiness To Increase Happiness.” Before we can do this, we need to learn how to move from knowing what to do and how to do it, to actually doing it. And, the ...
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Read articleDiscussing Politics & Religion
Discussing Politics & Religion Byr Bill Cottringer “Those who say religion has nothing to do with politics do not know what religion is.” ~Mahatma Gandhi.
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Read articleGood People, Bad Ethics
Good People, Bad Ethics byr Bill Cottringer “In my college ethics class, someone stole my textbook and I thought that was rather ironic.” ~The author.
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Read articleUltimate Success Secret On A Pedestal: Right Perspective
ULTIMATE SUCCESS SECRET ON A PEDESTAL: RIGHT PERSPECTIVEnBy Bill Cottringe nn“It is not the things in life that bother us but rather our opinion about these things.” ~Epictetus What was Jack Palace meaning , as Curly in the movie City Slicker, pointing with his finger in the sky and ...
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Read articleTHE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORY
THE REST OF THE HAPPINESS STORYnBy Bill Cottringe n“Unhappiness is just the accumulation of an unwanted feeling arising from incorrect thoughts about and the anxiety of not being able to remove the source of the unhappiness and the increased unhappiness to which all this leads.” ~The Author. nn ...
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Read articleThe Imaginary Walls Between Religion, Spirituality And Psychology
The Imaginary Walls Between Religion, Spirituality And Psychology BynBill Cottringe n “There are no whole truths; all truths are half-truths. It is trying to treat them as whole truths that plays the devil.” ~Alfred North Whitehead. Why do religion, spirituality and psychology try to tell ...
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Read articleNO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENT
NO-NONSENSE “P” POINT MANAGEMENTnBy Bill Cottringer "A shortcut is the longest distance between two points." ~ Annonymous. Management information, like everything else today is on overload, so here is a quick system of No-Nonsense “P’ Point Management to help you accomplish a lot by ...
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Read articleBEING A GOOD EMPLOYEE
BEING A GOOD EMPLOYEEnBy Bill Cottringe n A big part of being happy and successful, involves your approach to work. These simple requirements are a prescription for the right approach to work in being a good employee If you practice these simple suggestions you are likely to get recognized ...
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Read articleSome Uncommon Sense We Should Teach in Schools?
Some Uncommon Sense We Should Teach in Schools? Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense is the simple knack of seeing something as it is and doing something as it should be done.” ~Mark Twain. During my last seven decades of living, I accidentally stumbled upon some uncommon sense which I wish had been taught to me earlier in school. Here is the uncommon sense that is better to learn, sooner than later, but better later than never.
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Read articleTEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE
TEN SURE WAYS TO SUCCEED IN THE WORKPLACE Byr Bill Cottringer “The best way to appreciate your job is to imagine yourself without one.” ~Oscar Wilde.
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Read article30 Questions To Help You Find Your Best Self
30 Questionsr To Help You Find Your Best Self Byr Bill Cottringer "You were not born a winner, and you were not born a loser. You are what you make yourself be."rn~ Lou Holtz.
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Read articleWHY PARENTING TODAY IS SO DIFFICULT
WHY PARENTING TODAY IS SO DIFFICULT By Bill Cottringer Why is parenting today so difficult (besides being so expensive and all of us being so busy doing other things)? The answer to this question involves the main parenting role—teaching our children the basic skills that are necessary to get the most out of their lives. In other words, as parents we have to first learn what it takes to be successful and happy in our own lives, so we can pass that valuable wisdom on to our children. This is so they don’t have to experience the unnecessary failures that stopped us in our tracks.
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Read articleTHE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEA
THE HARDEST LESSON IN LIFE TO LEARNnBy Bill Cottringe n“It isn’t what you think you know that is most important, but rather how you feel about what you think you know.” ~Unknown author. What is this hardest lesson for us all to learn in life? Learning what to take seriously and what to ...
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Read articleTHREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE
THREE GOOD RELATIONSHIPS TO HAVE Byr Bill Cottringer “We've got this gift of love, but love is like a precious plant. You can't just accept it and leave it in the cupboard or just think it's going to get on by itself. You've got to keep watering it. You've got to really look after it and nurture it.” ~John Lennon.
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Read articleAre You Lucky Or Unlucky?
ARE YOU LUCKY OR UNLUCKY? byr Bill Cottringer “Good luck is when opportunity meets preparation, while bad luck is when lack of preparation meets reality.” ~Eliyahu Goldratt.
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Read articleThe World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied
The World’s Worst War: The Bullies vs. The Bullied byr Bill Cottringer “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” `Benjamin Disraeli. The Problem: Today we are witnessing a major showdown between two failure extremes—the strong vs. the weak, or more in today’s terms, the bullies vs. the bullied. The bullying conflict is pervasive in every aspect of living. It is a destructive epidemic that cries for urgent attention and immediate cure. Just consider this spectrum of the conflict: • Weaker kids in school (or employees at work) getting picked on by stronger ones.r
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Read articleSuccessful Thinking Tipping Points
Successful Thinking Tipping Points Byr Bill Cottringer “Successful people are just those with more successful habits than others.” ~Brian Tracy.
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Read articleSynthesize and Simplify Your Way to Job and Relationship Success
Synthesize and Simplify Your Way to Job and Relationship Success Byr Bill Cottringer I will make two bold statements that I am confident will get 100% agreement. And that is always a good starting point to build upon to make things better at work or in relationships. These two agreeable statements are: (1) We are all getting overloaded with too much information, and (2) Communication between people could be a lot better. Yes, yes so let’s not waste words and move on.
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Read article7 Pillars of Character Power
7 Pillars of Character Power byr Bill Cottringer “Be more conce ed with your character than your reputation, because your character is what you really are, while your reputation is merely what others think you are.”rn~ John Wooden. 1. Openness.
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Read articleREALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALL
REALITY REPAIR OF THE HUMPTY DUMPTY FALLnBy Bill Cottringer Humpty Dumpty sat on a wall, Humpty Dumpty had a great fall. All the King's horses, and all his men, Couldn't put Humpty back together again!n ~Well-known nursery rhyme.n n This well-known children’s nursery ...
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