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Unhappiness/Happiness Reality Repai by Bill Cottringe n“There is only one cause of unhappiness: The false beliefs you have in your head, beliefs so widespread, so commonly held, that it never occurs to you to question them.” ~Anthony de Mello. Your reality repair results—decreasing ...
TEN SUCCESS PRINCIPLES TO IMPROVE TRAINING RESULTSnBy Bill Cottringe nn Here are the ten best common sense principles to understand and apply in order to improve the quality of your training efforts and the actual results you get: 1. Separate “training” from “teaching” in your mind and ...
A Serious Limitation with Words byr Bill Cottringer “Silence is the language of God, all else is poor translation.” ~Rumi. Ever since being a young acolyte in the Episcopal Church studying the Bible and doing a book report on it for English class in high school, I have always been intrigued with the literal and metaphorical meanings of two declarations in the book of John. The first fiat is “In the beginning, was the Word”) (John: 1:1) and the second is “The Truth will set you free” (John 8:32). I’ll start things off with the Word and end with the freeing Truth.
The Problem That All Religion, Psychology and Spirituality Are Trying To Solve Byr Bill Cottringer “Should we all confess our sins to one another we would all laugh at one another for our lack of originality.” ~Kahlil Gabran. There is a very large “elephant metaphor” in life’s living room, that when not mentioned, it keeps us all from experiencing our full potential in learning, growing and improving into our best selves.
TRUTHFUL THINKING By Bill Cottringe n“Success is what we get from what we do to get it.” ~ The Author.nnn Which is more satisfying—week-old, cold apple pie out of the refrigerator or hot, freshly-baked apple pie with cold French vanilla ice cream on top? If Mary wants chocolate cake for ...
RATIONAL REALITY REPAIR Rxnby William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“What is reality anyway? It's nothing but a collective hunch.” ~Jane Wagner. Whatever definition you give to “reality,” one of the biggest challenges in life is to learn how to successfully fix broken realities and create ...
WORK SUCCESS Byr Bill Cottringer “The price of success is hard work, dedication to the job at hand, and the determination that whether we win or lose, we have applied the best of ourselves to the task at hand.” ~Vince Lombardi.
GETTING YOUR HEAD, HEART AND SOUL TO AGREE By Bill Cottringe n Oh boy, I hope I haven’t bitten off more tha I can chew here with this title. It just came to me as a very important problem to solve—the many important disagreements between the information and choices these three things lead ...
THE TREADMILL TRAP: Keeping Up With The Speed Of ChangenBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn What is faster than a nanosecond? Whatever it is, it is upon us! Right at this moment I am both crying and laughing about the impact of Karl Fish’s “Shift Happens” I-Net and U-tube “Fishbowl: Did You ...
There Is Nothing Wrong With Seeing Things The Way They ArenBy Bill Cottringe n“Common sense is the simple knack of seeing things the way they are and doing things the way they should be done.” ~ Mark Twain. Here are two important clarifications that I think Mark Twain would have agreed ...
Navigating Conflicts Successfully by Bill Cottringer Conflicts are an inevitable part of life and when they are not resolved, they often come back with increased velocity and vengeance to take a bigger bite from a part of the anatomy that really hurts. ~The author.
Undoing The Things In The Way Of Successful Reality Repair RxnBy Bill Cottringe nn“What we call reality is an agreement that people have arrived at to make life more livable.” ~Louise Nevelson. What life is all about is successful reality repair—fixing the realities we don’t like and ...
Challenges in Virtual Communication byr Bill Cottringer “Texting is a brilliant way to miscommunicate how you feel and misinterpret what other people mean.” ~Anonymous. Face to face (f2f) communication itself has many challenges but communicating in the new virtual world surrounding us has just worsened these communication challenges. Below are the ten biggest challenges to work on overcoming. 1. Words.r
MANAGING THE OVERLOADnBy Bill Cottringe n“Offices, desks, drawers, attics, basements, table tops, backyards, closets, medicine cabinets, garages, mailboxes, minds…all getting full of clutter and spilling over.” ~The author. nnn Everything I read, see, think, talk about, and experience these ...
We are all Prisoners In The Vicious Circle Tit For Tat Bullying Tag Game By Dr. Bill Cottringer, in association with Storm Door Productions. “Courage is fire, and bullying is smoke.” ~Benjamin Disraeli. Bullies Bullies come in all shapes and sizes— Countries, religions, girls and men, Strong, weak, big or small, All doing the same thing though; Shouting and spreading their hurt, Suffering and pain, Beating others down, To pull themselves up; Not seeing their wrongs, Or admitting insecurity, Not being content in any way, Continuing the cycle of hurt,r
Three Questions to Answer in Measuring the Success of Your Relationship Byr Bill Cottringer “Don't marry the person you think you can live with; marry only the individual you think you can't live without.” ~James Dobson.
BECOMING YOUR BEST SELF byr Bill Cottringer “Knowing others is intelligence. Knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others is strength. Mastering yourself is true strength.” ~Lao Tzu. An earlier Psychologist, Abraham Maslow, proposed a hierarchy of needs that all people had a drive to satisfy. This was Maslow’s attempt to explain human motivation. Each need must be met with a certain level of satisfaction before we are inclined to move up through the hierarchy with any degree of serious intent or likelihood of satisfying that need.
Better Time Management for 2020 and Beyond byr Bill Cottringer “Time is the one resource that is equally distributed, but unequally used.” ~The Author. This combining millennium will likely just continue to overload us with more and more information, where we end up never having enough time to do all that we need to do. We typically get half us much done in twice the time, instead of how it should be as vice versa. Here are some practical tips to stretch your time:
THE REAL SOURCE OF CONFLICT WITHIN ANY CONFLICTnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“Differences in thinking about problems and solutions cause great conflicts; but the way we communicate about these differences is the source of continuing the conflict.” ~ The author. Conflicts are a frequent ...
Four Main Perspectives in the Game of Life Byr Bill Cottringer The difference between a mountain and a molehill is your perspective. ~Al Neuharth. Heroes, Villains, Victims and Bystanders There are only four choices, For all the unheard voices: Be an honorable hero, And gain respect. Be a vicious villain, And gain distain, Be a sorry victim, And gain sorrow, Be a passive bystander, And gain nothing. Heroes use character, Villains use anger, Victims use pity, Bystanders use nothing. Heroes are positive and hopeful, Villains are negative and selfish,r
The Success Team Formula Within Byr Bill Cottringer Effective teamwork between quality thinking, healthy emotionality, disciplined behavior, and spiritual intelligence invariably results in long-term success, along with authentic happiness, genuine peace of mind, and inherent satisfaction. ~The Author. Here is the simple Success Team Formula that tells you what to do and how to do it, with the why built in: Quality Thinking + Healthy Emotionality + Disciplined Behavior + Spiritual Intelligence = SUCCESS.
DEALING WITH A CONTROLLING, TOXIC BULLY By Bill Cottringe nn It is easy to get trapped into feeling negative about being mistreated by a controlling, toxic bully and worse over not feeling you can do anything about it. It is frustrating, humiliating and maddening. And you can get even ...
THE MOST IMPORTANT THING TO KNOWnBy William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“My quest has taken me through the physical, the metaphysical, the delusional and back...~John Forbes Nash. I am sure you all remember the powerful move, “A Beautiful Mind” (a great movie and book title!) in which the Aussie ...
Describing the Indescribable Feeling We All Want: Peace of HeartnBy Bill Cottringe n“Words are the voice of the heart.” ~Confucius. I feel rather foolish. I have been barking up the wrong tree for a couple of decades. I imagined that the end goal of all our reality repair efforts—fixing ...
Reality Repair Rx: A Critical Time for ThoughtfulnessnBy Bill Cottringe n“You can’t behave your way out of a problem that you thought your way into.”n ~The author. This quote is a re-arrangement of an earlier one by Stephen Covey, “You can’t talk your way out of a situation you ...
When Ability, Intelligence, Effort, Creativity, Perseverance & Luck Aren’t Enough Byr Bill Cottringer “Man may have been made in God’s image, but he has been trying to return the favor ever since.” ~Unknown humorous lay philosopher.
TWO QUESTIONS WORTH ANSWERING Byr Bill Cottringer “The truth of the matter is that you always know the right thing to do. The hard part is doing it.” rn~ Norman Schwarzkopf. There are two very important questions you should ask yourself. Having the right answers can determine the quality of your life in regards to the amount of success and happiness you get to enjoy. These two questions are: 1. Do I know what the “right” thing to do is? 2. Why don’t I always do it?
The ABC’s of Success Byr Bill Cottringer “Success is what you do to get what you consider to be a success.” ~The Author. The only “luck” that is involved with success comes from two sources: (a) You are lucky enough to be among the few to be born into an established success environment with all the necessary assets present, or (b) like most successes, “luck” is when all your arduous efforts meet the right opportunity, seemingly ove ight, but gradually.
Love-Hate Relationships Are Fertile Ground For Learning & Growing BynBill Cottringe n“You know you are in deep trouble when you learn to either love to hate a person or hate to love them.” ~The author. In looking back over the many relationships I have had at work and domestic ...
Psychological Power Points of Effective Writing byr Bill Cottringer “Every secret of a writer’s soul, every experience of his life, every quality of his mind, is written large in his works.” ~Virginia Woolf.
Reality is Not What it Seems byr Bill Cottringer Every once in a while, I stumble upon a book that helps me reconcile harsh polarities into a bigger, better, and more useful truth, usually emerging from somewhere in-between the given opposite possibilities. Such is the case with the quantum gravity researcher, Carlo Rovelli’s book, in Reality is Not What it Seems.
THE 3 C’S OF A GOOD RELATIONSHIP BynBill Cottringe n We are probably all getting far too overloaded with how-to advice on being successful at things like relationships; and the last thing I want to do is contribute more to the overload. I just want to clarify a few important things I have ...
The Main Challenge for Leaders Today Byr Bill Cottringer “Diversity: The art of thinking independently together.” ~Malcolm Forbes.
DO OR DIE Byr Bill Cottringer “Conflicts give rise to villains, heroes, victims and bystanders. Which are you willing to be, in doing or dying for? ~The Author.
The Tao of Teams byr Bill Cottringer “Alone we can do so little; together we can do so much.” ~Helen Keller, activist.
“Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” ~Maria Robinson. As managers today, we are being challenged to use and teach one skill more than all the others in our toolbox—adapting to and teaching change successfully. Just pause a moment ...
Five Realizations of Good Relationships Byr Bill Cottringer “Life is not happening to you. It is responding to you.” ~Author Unknown.
21 EASY WAYS TO HAVE MORE PEACE OF MIND, HEART & SOUL BynBill Cottringe n A worthy growth goal and improvement strategy, which builds a valuable sense of general wellness that leads to more success, is to carry out an action plan to give your mind, heart and soul more peace. Hear are 21 ...
The Paucity Paradigm Byr Bill Cottringer “Usually the first problems you solve with the new paradigm are the ones that were unsolvable with the old paradigm.” ~Joel A. Barker.
MANAGING GAPS By Bill Cottringe n Much of the management role involves the important process of identifying critical gaps, understanding the details of what is in between where things are and where you want them to be, and then managing to close these gaps quickly and cost-effectively. Here ...
THE TAO OF NEW INFORMATION AGE TIME MANAGEMENT Byr Bill Cottringer “The challenge today is to catch up to the shift between the manufacturing age goal of squeezing a penny out of a nickel to the new information age goal of squeezing a nickel out of a penny.” ~The author.
God’s Five Favorite Hiding Places byr Bill Cottringer Sometimes God is hard to find, let alone know very well. Not being able to see God, we have to go places where a God-like presence can be sensed in some distinct way. Here are God’s seven favorite hiding places, where such an invisible presence can be felt from the heart and validated by the mind. Troubled Waters
TRANSFORMATIONAL THINKING: Healing The Crack In The Cosmic Eggnby William Cottringer, Ph.D.nnn“You can’t solve a problem with the same type of thinking that created it.” n~Albert Einstein. My Native American Totem is the deer. What this means for me is that the deer spirit is here to ...
The Only Unwinnable Conflict Worth Trying to Win Byr Bill Cottringer “There is one conflict that will never go away until we either figure out how to communicate past it or die trying. This conflict involves arguing for the beliefs and truths we are most certain about.” ~The Author.
In and Out of Ruts byr Bill Cottringer “It takes guts to get out of the ruts.” ~Robert H. Schuller. First of all, here are the two main elements of a “rut” that can help us arrive at a common understanding of what we are talking about here. • Being somewhere where you don’t want to be or not being somewhere where you do want to be and not seeming to be able to do anything about the situation. • Doing something you don’t want to be doing or not doing something you do want to be doing and being stuck in the situation.
The Problems a Divided Mind Causesr By Bill Cottringer “I have realized that the past and future are real illusions, that they exist in the present, which is what there is and all there is.” ~Alan Watts.
Time: The Ultimate Yin-Yang Urstoff byr Bill Cottringer “The hidden portal to real time is the precise now moment of when the past and future collide into the present.” ~The author. To see true time, You need double vision, One eye for conventionr The other for imagination. First you look, Then you see, First clock time, Then the ete al now. When they rhyme, You know time.
Common Sense Or Good Sense? Byr Bill Cottringer “Common sense in an uncommon degree is what the world calls wisdom.”— Samuel Taylor Coleridge.
SIX LIFE SECRETSnby Bill Cottringe nn Anyone who achieves genuine success knows there are six life secrets that have to be discovered and applied to produce that success. The bad news is that all these six life secrets work together to hide one another; the good news is that if you persist ...
MENTAL DEMONS By Bill Cottringe nn We humans have been given something that can be seen as a gift or a curse—the ability or the affliction of self consciousness. This is our unique characteristic that separates us from the rest of the things in our world. What are these mental demons ...