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In an attempt to understand a partner’s fear of commitment, we seek information to help us stay hopeful but in the process of information seeking, it’s too easy to be completely derailed -- and completely confused by all the conflicting information out there. I don’t know about you, but much of ...
When it comes to the mating game, all men and women sub-consciously look for clues to each other's masculine and feminine qualities. But I wish they just stopped there. No! They test each other's qualities to the dizzy limit. n A woman who as a girl-child was encouraged to express too much of ...
Is it possible to get back together after a break up? Yes. Is it possible to get back an ex after along period of time apart? Yes, absolutely. But not everyone gets back with their ex. Each relationship is different and each couple is different. Some relationships have a better foundation and others were nothing but a series of one night stands.
What happens when men don't act masculine and women don't act feminine? But first, what is masculine and what is feminine? Masculine and feminine are terms often equated with the biological equivalent of male and female, or social equivalent of man and woman. But in realty, the distinction ...
Refusing to accept reality or optimistic denial is so common that sometimes men and woman who are trying to get their ex back come across as unreasonable in their thoughts and attitudes -- even acting like their ex owes them something. Even when they intellectually understand that they are ...
Have you ever had a friend describe a really "hot' blind date for you, and you get all excited and eager to meet this wonder person only to come face to face with the person and zero, nothing, no sparks. The person is all that, but you are just not digging him or her. Or have you ever found ...
Refusing to accept reality or optimistic denial is so common that sometimes men and woman who are trying to get their ex back come across as unreasonable in their thoughts and attitudes -- even acting like their ex owes them something. Even when they intellectually understand that they are ...
Let your man BE himself. Sounds like straight out of grandma's mouth -- old-fashioned, compliant, "un-liberated", not for the 21st Century woman. But think about it. If more and more men are saying the qualities they look for most in a woman are "strong, confident and independent", yet the ...
I was one of those people who believed with everything in me that the day I met my soul mate the world would click! We would look into each other's eyes from across the room, communicate telepathically and it would feel magical (like in the movies and romance novels). He would then walk up to me (our eyes locked in a soulful gaze), take my hand and we would waltz into the beautiful sunset where we would live happily ever after - no arguments, no disagreements etc. That's how it should be -- one man, one woman, one soulful look and Utopia.
Getting back together with an ex must be something you've taken time to think about and not just an impulse decision. You need to be sure you're in it for the right reasons, if not you are just setting yourself up for another painful heartbreak -- and you know what that feels like. Do you really ...
Having personally suffered from severe commitment phobia for many years, I know that being in love with someone who is afraid of commitment is not fun at all, but does someone's fear of commitment always have to be the end of a relationship? In real life, some people are not really meant to be ...
One thing that life has taught me is that, if there is anything a man or woman, young or old must learn about life, it is learning how to stay calm, cool and collected in situations fraught with uncertainty and unpredictability. Let me rephrase it this way: if there is anything one must ...
One of a growing number of reasons frustrated singles turn to the help of a dating coach is to help them overcome fear of commitment or help them deal with a lover’s fear of commitment. If you’ve been reading my articles, by now you know that for many years I was a commitment ...
We women are very good at making ourselves desirable in the beginning of a relationship but really bad at keeping the attraction after the initial “oh-wow!” wears off and the man you’ve been dating for weeks or months starts to lose interest. How do you make sure that ...
Have you noticed how men and women blessed with "good looks" think that the only reason anyone could ever - ever love them or hate them is because of their good looks? If you say or do anything they don't like -- even something unrelated to their looks - it's because you're jealous; envious and ...
Our present obsession with "holy" bonking (ooops... sorry, Sacred Sex) has become yet another obsession that borders the absurd. In our frantic effort to justify why we should have more sex (with some emotion) in our lives we've managed yet again to climb to another level of hypocrisy. As if ...
Too many attempts at a romantic love-reunion go wrong not because the other person does not want to give the relationship another try but because the confrontational dialogue or aggressive type approach used time and again by many men and women when trying to get their ex back repeatedly damages ...
Many of my clients lately are men who have at some point or other in their lives been deceived and dazed by a woman's looks. Many of them have wasted countless hours and spent small fortunes chasing after women who lied to them and basically treated them like dirt. Some regret the lost opportunity to the marry a woman who was not exactly physically attractive but was a good woman. There is really no "standard" litmus test for telling right away that a woman is "a good woman" or one of those "other" ones. Here are just a few things to look for when you meet or date a girl/woman: 1.
If someone asked, "What is the truest expression of love", my answer would be "commitment". Of course the perfect answer would be "dying for another" but the reality is that there aren't that many opportunities for each of us to die for another to demonstrate our love. In terms of love ...
Occasionally I get calls from men and women who want to know if their ex is using them and before I can even answer, they get into "He/she is really a good person, I really don't think he/she is using me... I guess he/she is looking deep down in his/her heart to find out what he/she really wants ...
"I don't know why I am doing this. I've never done this until now", he muttered. "That's okay", I said. "That's why I am here. How can I be of help?" "No body calls me." "I am listening", I said. "I feel like no body really cares about me." "Are you talking about the opposite sex, ...
One key area of personal development -- distinct from most other key areas -- that can sometimes be hard to improve is "likeability". But just what is likeability? This is simply the extent to which we are liked because people feel (real or perceived) that we are emotionally open and honest ...
Have you ever felt like if people were to take the time and effort just get to know you a little bit more, they would love you? I have. Ego trip? Perhaps. What exactly does "to know me is to love me" mean? Some have interpreted it to mea "if people were to just get to know me a little bit ...
I have read a lot of articles and even books where people recommend going "No Contact" so that your ex misses you and wants you back. But does going NC really bring your ex back? Sometimes "absence makes the heart grow fonder" but sometimes "out of sight, out of mind" applies too. Sure, ...
When you are dealing with someone who is self-destructing, it’s hard not to be sucked into the toxic interaction that is typical of this attraction. And what do I mean by typical of this attraction? The self-destructing person is attracted to you because you have that “strength” that the ...
The most asked question by women of all ages is: “Is he in love with me?" I have a different take on what is “love’ and what is not, but for the sake of answering this question, I’ll use the word “love" to mean romantic attraction and sexual chemistry. Romantic ...
Once you've piqued a man/woman's interest enough for him/her to be attracted to you, how do you keep him/her there? One way to enhance the attraction and keep his/her interest is play hard-to-get. Playing hard-to-get when done right is much more important than most people think, realize or are ...
It’s ironic that sometimes we go out on a date and meet someone we are strongly attracted to but within minutes of the initial meeting things get so bad that the date ends in total disaster. The sad truth is that it's easy to walk away and dismiss good men and women just because of very minor ...
There are fluent speakers and there are great writers, and then there are great communicators. But you already know that. There are people who use all the right words, in all the right order and with all the right passion, but for all their precision, passion and good intent, can not create that ...
Whether men are aware of it or not, a majority of women judge a man’s love potential by the way he kisses alone. Some women I have spoken to say that if a man is a "lousy" kisser (either he rushes in full-throttle practically eating away your face, drools so much you have to wipe your ...
Science says that because we breathe, we think, we feel, we grow, metabolize, can move, and are capable of reproduction that we are living beings. You may be living, but are you truly alive? See if you can figure out where you are on the Aliveness Index? IN THE DEAD ZONE When you are in the ...
Trying to make an ex jealous in an attempt to gain deeper affection is a common playing hard-to-get tactic advocated by some "experts" and practiced by many. I know many men and women who've used this tactic and it's worked in the short term, and many more who have used it and it back fired big ...
When trying to get your ex back, acting aggressive, needy, pushy, angry or irrational, especially at the onset of the process is usually unwise. Emotions flare up, problems multiply and smaller problems become much larger problems. What may have been manageable at the beginning becomes much more ...