David Harm

NLP Master Practitioner, Life Coach, Hypnotist, SIA Door Supervisor

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David Harm

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Main Areas
Spirituality with finding the dreams that come true with sobriety
Best Sellers
Damaged Merchandise, Poems and Stories of an Alcoholic-Addict
Career Focus
Author & Speaker
Affiliation
Nebraska Center for the Writers

Dave Harm was born and raised in Northern New Jersey. He is the youngest of four boys. He often mentions that while he and his brothers had the same biological parents... they were raised by different people. His three brothers grew up together, separated by four years in age, they had each other to lean on.

In age, Dave is eight, ten, and twelve years younger then his brothers. Most of the damage of his parents drinking, he witnessed alone. Others might have seen it... yet Dave had no one to lean on for support.

His method of handling the insanity was playing football in high school and partying. He started drinking when he was 13 and started smoking pot when he was 17. Even with his own partying already getting out of control, Harm stayed somewhat centered by staying active in football. He earned a scholarship for his athletic abilities to Yankton College in Yankton,
South Dakota. And he left the insanity of his birth home. With this new freedom he no longer felt the need to try and get praise from his family and quit football and began enjoying his new freedom.

He stayed in college for a year and a half and dropped out to work on his new joy in life – partying. He drove a delivery truck during the day to keep up an illusion that all was well.

It was during this time in his life that Harm couldn't do anything for two years and that included work. He quit driving a delivery truck and found a new way to make money - by dealing drugs. This too, lasted just short of two years and he left South Dakota and headed back to New Jersey.

It was in the early 80's that Harm lost the capability of quitting. It was during the next eight years that Dave wandered around the country... staying one step ahead of law enforcement and bill collectors.

During this time his “homes” were in New Jersey, South Dakota, Wyoming, and Califo ia. His last stop in South Dakota started his life with homelessness. He ended up in Califo ia, working odd little jobs, usually quitting after he got a paycheck and he would hit the road again.

His main method of traveling at that time was hitch-hiking. One of his last rides came from a member of AA who gave him a job at a mobile home park. Though he didn't stay sober, that job ended his life of sleeping in boxes or under bridges.

In 1986 Harm tried suicide as a way to start a new life, which put him in protective custody for 72 hours. It was during this time that he admitted to being an alcoholic and started a new way of life. This new way did not last and Harm returned to drinking in 1992.

During those five and a half years of sobriety Harm's life changed. He became a functional member of society and a reliable employee. His slip lasted two years and all that he had he lost.

On September 4, 1994, Harm not only admitted to being an alcoholic... this time though he went another step forward by accepting this fact. And by the Grace of God has been clean and sober to this day. Harm is also an addict and has been clean from drugs since the late 80's. Quitting drugs was easier for Dave as alcohol was always his drug of choice.

His journey in recovery has taken many turns and he still views it all with the eyes of a child. He has served on the
Tamora Nebraska Village Board of Trustees. He has also been on the Bishop's Committee for St. Andrews Episcopal Church in Seward, Nebraska and also served as an adviser on St. John's Lutheran Church's Board of Trustees in Seward, Nebraska.

While serving others helped Dave obtain and maintain humility it wasn't till he moved to Southeaste Nebraska that he began to use the gifts his Higher Power gave him at birth.

In 2004, his first book
Damaged Merchandise was published and early in 2005 it was followed by War Zone. Finally in 2009, the third book of this trilogy was published entitled Creating Dreams.

Along the way Harm ventured into other endeavors. In 2006 he was named a
United States Poetry Ambassador and his poem Scrambled Eggs received The Editor's Choice Award. In 2007, he received the Recovery Hero Award from the website Clean and Sober not Dead.

2007 Harm also became a freelance writer for the
Beatrice Daily-Sun newspaper and on every Tuesday for over two years Harm edited a poetry column featuring poets from Southeaste Nebraska.

From 2000 to 2009, Harm was the featured poet for
Gage County's Relay For Life. And in 2008, he took 12 of his most inspiring cancer poems and produced the poetry and music cancer CD entitled Purple Power.

In 2011, Harm began broadening his outreach program and was the keynote speaker at the Hot Springs, Arkansas Recovery Rally. By the end of the year he became a Certified NLP Master Practitioner. By 2012 he got his certification as a Life Coach and also as well as a certified hypnotist.

2013, the CD entitled 12 based on the 12 Steps and Promises of recovery was produced. The CD was born in Nebraska, recorded in England, and designed in Mexico, to become a truly global recovery event.

From active addiction and homelessness to sobriety and comfort, Harm shares his experience, strength, and hope... with the humility and joy that comes with a second chance at life. A second chance given freely by his Higher Power.

Dave Harm believes in the power of The 12 Steps. He has done these Steps in AA, NA, CODA, Alanon, and ACOA. While he freely admits he has attended these meetings, Harm will not say which Fellowship he is a member of in keeping with the 11th Tradition.

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3 September of 2015 I got married to a wonderful lady. I admit, I have been married before, so this shouldn’t be any different. Yet, this was different. My now wife and I had been dating for five years. Our dating consisted of being together roughly two months over the course of the year.r

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Sometimes the best thing we can do for others, is nothing. Offer our experience and let them grow on their own... During my first attempt at sobriety I started writing. Mostly jou als about what had happened in my life and how it affected me at that time. I found it quite therapeutic. My writing stopped when I went back to drinking and didn’t resume until I quit drinking again. Now, since October of 1994, I’ve been writing.

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Everything that has happened to me in September symbolises life and death. A part of me died, so a new part could come to life. The closest this symbol came to reality was on the 15th in 2014. That day, I laid on a hospital bed and was under the knife for over four hours. After the surgery, as I was coming out of a deep sleep from anaesthesia, I could hear the nurses talking and asking me if I could move my feet. As hard as I tried I couldn’t move. I couldn’t even open my eyes to tell them that I understood what they were asking.

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“I just have to get this article done tonight.” The world might come to an end if I don’t. No one ever told me I had to get it done. The sad part is I may not get it done on time because I had to go to town to get new shoelaces. Do you get my sarcasm and the utter distaste for words like “have” and “had”? We don’t have to do anything. And the reality is I never had to write any updates for any site or anybody. I do things because I want to, not because I have too.

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As the years begin to pass me by, it is hard not to reflect on my life. Lost friendships, lost loves… just so much lost. Don’t get me wrong, I am very happy with how my life has turned out, yet I can’t help and look back at the destruction of my life.

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I recently found out that I had been approved for a new visa to live and work in the United Kingdom. This new visa, just like the last one is good for two and a half years. When I look back at my time living in the UK, it has been a lifetime. I don’t mean that to sound negatively but rather that I have experienced so much in such a short time. I have experiences that others, whether in the UK or the USA will never experience in their lifetime.

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I think as long as I live, I will try to be a "success." I have a good idea of what the term means to me, but, the family I grew up in, pictures success as cash in the bank, money in stocks, a fancy home (or two), driving new vechiles, the list can go on forever. You get the picture. But as you chase that dream of success, what do you get? I don't know. I don't know if I'll ever know. I'd be lying if I said I didn't want this type of success. But what I don't want is a success built on excess!

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"Hi, I'm Dave and I'm an alcoholic." I've made this statement numerous times over the last 21 plus years. I've said it at AA meetings and have changed the ending to fit in at CODA, Alanon, NA, and ACOA meetings, I've made this comment on different websites across the web. I've also talked about my addiction in detail in both of my books. And I've written editorials about it for a local newspaper and shared my addiction through the art of poetry in a newspaper colum I used to write.

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Cancer. A word that no one wants to hear or say. A word which even in this modern time conjures up thoughts of death. The surgeries, the chemo, the radiation, at times, you wonder will it ever stop. And at times, you wonder, how much fight the both of you have. But, somehow, by the Grace of God, you work your way through it all, and as a couple, you become stronger. Along the way, you learn some valuable lessons. There are some "do's" and "don'ts" which should be practiced, as a family with cancer, or as friends of a family with cancer.

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As I have grown in years, I am ashamed of some of the things I have done. So ashamed that to mention them right now would take more than a simple story to explain. I’m not even sure if I could explain it all in a book. In fact, I’m not sure if I would even believe the explanation.

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Recovery author and guru, John Bradshaw once talked about being a "human being" instead of a "human doing." While New Age thoughts talk about the illusions of being a human. Never happy we're we are in life. Always having to get "there" and when it finally becomes our "here" we realize that being "there" isn't much better than our old "here."

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At the time, I couldn't believe it would happen to me. We raised a family, we fought, then made-up, and made plans for our future - together. We didn't always have good times, but I honestly believed we would work through all our problems. We didn't have much money, nor did we go on exotic vacations, but, I thought our company and our love, would carry us through any hard times.

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Favorite Quotes & Thoughts from David Harm

A busy mind is a sick mind.

A slow mind is a healthy mind.

A still mind is a divine mind.

- Native American Cente ess

Good things happen when we can find peace and quiet - get into the silence.

Contacting David Harm

Visit the Creating Dreams website at www.daveharm.com and have a look around. Or you can e-mail Dave at dave@daveharm.com

How to get started

Creating Dreams, from the Nightmares of Hell is not only the name of my third book, but it's also the name of my website. For the last few years every month I have written an article and a poem on one of the 12 Steps of AA or CODA. This year's focus is on of the promises of AA.

AA is a spiritual program, which I know I will never receive all of its gifts. What I do know is that every meeting I attend I learn a little more, whether it is from a person with 40 years sobriety or someone with one month.

Other highlights

Every month since 2007, I have been sharing with my viewers my beliefs on the 12 Steps. I've been doing this by way of an article and also a poem. In 2007, I did the 12 Steps of Alcoholics Anonymous. While in 2008 I shared my thoughts on the 12 Steps of Co-Dependents Anonymous.

In 2009 I share my impressions on what to me are some of the most profound and beautiful words that were ever written - The 12 Promises of AA.