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Relationships: When to stay, when to walk away, and when to RUN.
Relationships: When to stay, when to walk away, and when to run! "In my last relationship I realized that my partner was self-centered, self-serving, arrogant, ignorant, unfaithful, hypercritical, abusive, an under-achiever and an alcoholic. I was devastated when he broke up with me.” Tigressluv.com How do you know when it’s time to end a relationship? Never betray your own better judgment or your values. End a relationship before you compromise your self-respect or physic
January 29, 2022
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Telka's Couple's Therapy Pre-Test
Telka’s Couple’s Counseling Pre-test Couple’s therapy is often requested by couples’ struggling with stress, frustration or crisis. Some have separated, have legal issues or other conflicts of interest. Just because couple’s work is requested, does not necessarily mean that couple’s work is the appropriate treatment choice. Couple’s therapy in general, has a relatively low success rate when therapists fail to screen for the appropriateness of the treatment. For couple’s ther
January 29, 2022
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27 Rights in Healthy Relationships
27 Rights for Healthier Relationshipsr Healthy relationships— ask not “am I right?” Ask instead “do I have the right?” Need rights? Boundaries? Assertiveness? Negotiation skills? Many troubled relationships become stuck between communication styles that vary between passive/avoidant or domineering/aggressive. If conflict triggers you to either “shut-up or blow-up”, you may benefit from understanding how to respect your rights and the rights of others using these 27 rights in
January 29, 2022
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Common Reasons Mental Health Therapists Get Fired
Common Complaints Patients Have About Their Mental Health Therapists (AKA Reasons Therapists Get Fired) During my tenure as an outpatient mental health therapist in a hospital setting, I served on a patient satisfaction committee. We mailed satisfaction surveys to mental health and addictions patients after formal discharge or when they had not returned for services. We analyzed quarterly reports and made recommendations to improve clinical services and patient satisfaction.
January 29, 2022
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Ten Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust
Ten Guidelines for Establishing Healthy Trust “How do I know if someone is trustworthy?” “How can I become trustworthy?” “How can I ever trust again?” Healthy trust is hard work. Betrayal, neglect, abuse, addiction and abandonment damage healthy trust but it’s never too late to learn how to create healthy trust. Healthy trust means trusting yourself to do what is right, even when it’s not easy. *Trusting "too much" means giving your power away. Too much trust results in fee
January 11, 2015
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Let the Dating Begin! 10 Common Sense Rules for Healthy Dating
Let the dating begin! 10 Common Sense Rules for Healthy Dating Determine COMPATIBILITY before making a sexual or long-term COMMITMENT. *Dating is defined as the information gathering stage of an adult relationship designed to determine the overall compatibility of a potential life partner. 1. Avoid alcohol and substance abuse. Getting drunk or high on a date is like attending a job interview intoxicated. Alcohol abuse and illegal drug use sabotage healthy relationships. 2
May 26, 2013
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Why Do You Get SOOOOOOOO Angry?
“It’s only fair when I yell at you, she said to me once. You had a better Childhood.” Brian Andreas Consider the last time you felt angry. What set you off? Traffic. Stress at work. Long waiting lines. High phone bill. The mess at home. Computer problems. He was drunk. Again. She didn’t call. No one would help. They never listen. Sound familiar? By repeatedly blaming, venting and justifying your anger, you remain stuck in a pattern of angry thoughts or behavior. Complaints a
September 30, 2010
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